Would it be emasculating if I asked my boyfriend if I could take him out on a date?

[420Rachel]

So this is something I've been thinking about wanting to do for a while. I really would love to take my boyfriend out and treat him to a nice dinner or a movie or something. Y'know, do something sweet and make him feel special. However he is a fairly "macho" guy. He's the typical traditional type of guy when it comes to dating. Do you think it could be insulting if I asked him if I could take him out instead of the other way around?

[Makeushiver]

Not at all. Esp. if you wore a sexy outfit he's never seen; go commando and don't tell him about it until your at the restaurant at all, Esp if you wear/do. A woman took me out to dinner once and did exactly that. I was so turned on I just through a couple of hundred's on the table & left. My date, knowing that the last thing I wanted now was dining (anywhere except between her legs). We were both so turned on that we couldn't wait until we reached the closest private area, her apartment I just hiked up her skirt a the last was an irrelevant detail but the thought of it still and fucked he in the public area before going someplace us hardcore private. It was one of the most intense sex either of us ever had, In part because we were totally exposed in public, she was so wet than when I hiked her onto my waist I just slid into her. Sorry if it stayed from answering your question into a deja vu. If that is close to what you want as a result of taking him out and couldn't really be categorized as "traditional". Think about it though since it b lew my roof off

[Jaumet]

It is not emasculating at all.. well, at leapt to me it has never been anything other than a huge ego boost. I can totally see why you girls love it, since it really is pretty awesome to get asked out. (you know by the opposite sex - y'all chill out, I'm talking about myself)

My wife actually asked me out the first time and I took it from there. It's just so reassuring to know that you are with someone that actually wants to be with you. I ean common on, I ended asking and getting married to her.

I think it is absolutely the best way you could truly let him know just how much you feel for him. Trust me, he will take it from there and do everything he can think of to make it a night to remember.

[midnightmoon05]

Depends... a good time to find out the diff. between you two. How finance/chores work in the future if you two move in together.

I am the breadwinner and we work out well.
I don't like doing domesticated tasks... he is really good at. So good match.

[fonduegirl]

You can initiate it. Like the asking itself, if paying irritated him as I suspect some macho guys don't appreciate the that, you can let him take care of it. Anything else is fine.

[NathanDavis]

I think the best way to do it would be with confidence, so he can see that you really want to do this for him and you like the idea... if this is something you would love to do, then he'll just focus on that

now if he says something about it and he's serious about not liking the idea, then maybe he wants to "negotiate" it, maybe he wants to pay for it all, or split the bills or something, so maybe you can agree with that instead of insisting that you want to do it all... but, if this is something you would really love to do for him, then he'll want to do it with you/for you...

[virtue2332]

If he is that easily bruised by you asking him on a date you might have issues going forward. Sure it might be a normal reaction for him to object at first because it's something different then how some of us were raised. But if he can't look past his own ego and see the gesture for what it is then you need to have a serious conversation figure out why he feels so strongly against it. You could probably understand a promise he made to his mom about always paying vs I'm strong man you simple woman I pay.

[ohshee]

For me I don't care what society says when I'm in a relationship and I'm taking my girlfriend out on a date I pay for it that's just who I am I don't see anything wrong in it and that's what I'm going to do LOL so when reading your question I thought it was kind of cool and if you were asking me I was smiling to say hell yes and I would even get the tip but I would say you better have a lots of money because I'm hungry LOL no I think that's cool I think that's really cool

[NamerOfStars]

I'm guessing that you haven't done so before, or you'd know his reaction. So unless he's a total die-hard about it, I think you'll be okay. He might object (though probably in a mild "I'm not fulfilling my role" rather than a "you're pressuring me" sense) if you made it a very frequent thing, but as an occasional "you've been good to me, now let me be good to you" treat, I don't think he'll take offense.

[Andres77]

As long as a guy is comfortable and confident in himself... and not a scared rabbit masquerading as an arrogant jerk...

It's a nice treat to be catered to and surprised and see what she thinks would please me (us).

I think it's a wonderful idea.

I hope it works out and you have a delightful time.

[spartan55]

I'm pretty much a guy's guy and I would love that gesture. One of my old girlfriends did that once and it was great... I say do it.
My criteria was I didn't give a shit what we did for a date, as long as we had mind blowing sex all night after... 😂

[Shizunk]

I am a traditionally thinking man and I prefer shy and submissive women. I would also very much appreciate a woman doing things for me. How could that make me less manly and dominant if a woman is doing things for me and I only get to enjoy them? Its like a woman cooking dinner for me and me thinking I am less manly if I let her pick what she is going to cook and how she will surprise me by going the extra mile. As long as you don't buy him flowers it should be great :-D

[Kaneki05]

I don't think traditionally so i have no clue how that rational works. In my mind it would be like who cares who asks, just ask so it happens otherwise it won't.

But i don't have a good idea of what a person from that other mindset would think. It's beyond my compression.

[t-8900]

Nope and you know how much something like this would move me. Girls never do anything nice for me. Twice in my life and the gestures were so rare it caused me to cry. I've never been treated very well by women in general. 😅

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I think framing it as "treating him" is better than "taking him out". Men don't like to be "taken" places, we like to "go" places and "do" things, we don't want things to be done TO us. Subtle distinction but there's probably some psychology to support it. Just say "it's my treat tonight" when suggesting a shared activity, but don't pgraseit like "I'm taking you to this activity", it's more like: "let's do this activity you love, my treat"

[Morgador]

If your man is so stuck on himself that his girl can't take him out because he feels devalued in some way, well he's a fuck pussy. Hell maybe I'm missing something I would have a issue with it. It would make me feel good that she wanted to take me out.

[loveslongnails]

I think if you have to ask Gaggers for advice on this, you don't know your own boyfriend well enough. Or do you? If he's a typical macho dude, it will likely make him uncomfortable, especially if what you have in mind is "too sweet".

[exitseven]

I am a pretty traditional guy and I would really appreciate this. In fact, if he does not want to go, you can always ask me.

[Nik1hil]

It's easy.. Tell him... I want to be the one who plans the date..
I will bill you if you want to feel macho..
But I would like to plan quality time for each other..

[TheBigGuy9]

We think too much today. I’ve noticed this. What you’re doing is what couples have done for the longest time. Don’t question it

[TheBigGuy9]

I’d love to meet a 420 girl. Having Runtz right now.

[BrosephBrostar]

If you're that concerned about it, try talking to him about it first and asking him if he is alright with it. Sure, it might "ruin the magic of it", but if your concerns are accurate, it's better than embarrassing him.

[newfreshstart]

Not all just asked him in private just you & him

Don't asked him in front or your family or his

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If a girl asked me out I would love it, I think it's a great idea for you to do

[Lliam]

I think it would be a sweet and thoughtful gesture. Not emasculating at all. I'd be touched and flattered. But that's me.

[KoolKid66]

No, that's fine... it's emasculating when women encourage men to do girly things like cry... Or wear dresses or something

[KoolKid66]

It's actually hot when a girl ask a guy out. It boost our low self esteem.

[CindyRuns]

I've done it more than once... and I'm married to a guy who I made the first move on !!!

[Anonymous]

You're dating the wrong guy then. But maybe he will surprise you. Make your own decisions. I'd certainly love it.

[Shiver]

Do it. If he doesn't like it, I don't know what's wrong with him, but the vast majority of guys would love to be taken out for once too.

[Friendlybro79]

It isn't emasculating to ask. If he decides to feel emasculated because of this is on him. This should not be a big deal considering your good intentions.

[TheorionMage]

Can't speak for fragile egos but personally, I'd be flattered!

[Phoenix98]

It's a nice change of pace I don't think he'd mind though it'd probably be better to refer to it as treating him rather then taking him out somewhere.

[ChrisMaster69]

Not really.

it’s good when you have someone come up with ideas and do all the sorting.

[Fireguy17]

for me no, not at all.
it would take some of the pressuer off of me to think of stuff, not to mention my wallet.

[Mangospacho]

Nah. If you’re both adults and he’s not reading the signs, then he might get really excited that you want to date him. I had three girls ask me out. I married the third one.

[Guardian45]

If he won't go out with you, then you can take me out and pay for it anytime!

[shepardmaddison]

Absolutely not emasculating. He's probably happy you ask.

[jshm2]

He is probably waiting for you to do such things in the first place.

[LiamSawyer]

A beauty like you could ask me on a date anytime you want.

[libsaretards]

If that gesture offends him then he is not mature enough for a relationship.

[qwert1234]

No. I would personally love it if my SO would take me out on a date. lol.

[Jay3344]

No, but it depends on the guy. Some men would really enjoy a woman asking them out. Other men may be touchy about it.

[Hellraiser1984]

To me no. It shows me that you care enough about me to plan something for me.

[Wiredone]

I think it would be a very nice jester. My wife has done that for me on a few occasions.

[noohair]

Start with something simple like coffee and see the reaction.

[LukelyFlawd]

Go for it! I know guys who would die for a girl willing to do that!

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

I wouldn't consider it emasculating, I think that it is very cool to take the initiative.

[Waldoe]

try "honesty" by that I mean, ask him what he would think if a girl asked him out...

[bamesjond0069]

Thats kinda weird. Are you going to buy him flowers too and open the doors for him too? Smh.

[Twalli]

Probably not since you're already in a relationship.

[Siren777]

I don't think he would mind the kind gesture.

[Eihcir]

I don’t think it would ever be emasculating. Actually I think it would be affectionate, friendly and caring.

[Stag2myvixen]

Unless he is a big mess of insecurity I don’t see how it would be any negative. It’s nice to have care reciprocated.

[Anonymous]

no it wouldn't be. it would be a nice change of pace and relieve some of the pressure off him for a change

[Agape93]

Only if he's a thin skinned bitch lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope, why would it be?

[msc545]

No, I think he would like it.

[Lisa_97]

I don't think so if you do it once in few years

[007kingifrit]

no it sounds kinda nice

[slatyb]

No, that’s a nice thing to do.

[psosweet5]

Don't ask him. Surprise him, blind fold him

[FilmGuy93]

No, that wouldn't be emasculating at all.

[Dude_777]

Go ahead! It's a great move.

[MysticDevice]

Nah, I bet he'd really enjoy it if you did that

[moviedude714]

Not at all I would love this

[Yourfriend2021]

No that should be fine, it shows you care.