That sounds exhausting tbh. What happens if you end up landing a higher paying job than him? Is he gonna throw a tantrum and ask you to not take it?
My general thumb rule is that if a guy's sense of masculinity is stemmed from this need to always prove that they're better than everyone else, they're not very secure individuals and not worth being around.
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No that’s not normal or smart.
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That’s such a bummer lol
I laugh because I definitely seen this behavior, before.
I want to say, by impulse, he doesn’t love you. He’s too insecure and not confident enough in himself to let you rank where you do, in any matter.
He’s too “traditional,” and doesn’t respect your intelligence or find that the arousing part.
You have some options:
- take him up on the challenge, to fine-tune and sharpen your qualities
- let him work extremely hard to impress and serve you lol (let him buy expensive gifts for you and such)
- Discuss some options with him and how it makes you feel or so
- leave him 🤷♀️
you can either perfect yourself in some of these matters and find him as a good practice board/ target
or you can let his actions benefit you,
Or you can discuss it with him as your partner and hope for an understanding and resolve,
but with his stubbornness, things probably won’t change..
It’d be best if you ended the relationship and found someone who’d be more interested in you as an *equal.*
No couple is better than their weakest member. If he thinks he’s better or has to constantly assert this… then he’s not even growing with you or being in some of the moments.
Some guys are truly competitive but they can find the balance, or let their girl win certain things or make it special like letting their competitive spirit win her things like toys at a carnival/ arcade. Some guys have no problem teaching their partner and learning things from her as well. They go about it in more reasonable ways, though.
If you end things, at least consider keeping in touch with him so you can spar lol
Clearly you sound like you want your boyfriend to be more of a ‘friend,’ and less of a ‘training buddy’ or intense/aggressive partner. That’s understandable.
Are you dating Andrew Tate? Maybe he watches his videos too much or something. I rarely say this, but don't think you are overreacting at all. The shit he is doing would wear my ass out in a hurry. The pool thing would have really pissed me off... you didn't know how to play... wtf? I would have a come to Jesus talk with him, but I wouldn't expect him to change.
some people are just born that competitive. look at Michael Jordan, one of the most competitive athletes of all times. revered and beloved around the world even nearly 2 decades after his retirement
He is insecure and thinks that if he loses to a girl it somehow means he is a loser and no girl will want him.
If he's like that with everyone then that's just who he is.
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