Is this a red flag or am I being cold hearted?

[QuinnJane]

I napped after work the other day and within 40min my boyfriend called me 36 times and left me messages on fb messenger and text freaking out and accusing me of being with someone else and when I woke up and called him right back he was crying and mad at me and it made me question if I wanna be with him or not because I don’t like that. I’ve never cheated and never have thought about it and found it so ridiculous that he freaked out like that. It’s a newer relationship so I’m wondering if you think I should leave now because it might get worse? Or am I being cold hearted about the situation?

[Jamie05rhs]

He's a bit intense. I think you should have a talk with him and get/give reassurances and lay out some ground rules. If he does it again, I think you should suggest to him to see a therapist. If he does it repeatedly over time, then maybe he's just not ready to be in a relationship, since he has insecurities that he needs to work through personally.

[oolonc]

He's probably been cheated on before and is super sensitive about it. Doesn't give him an excuse though, he needs to leave that baggage at the door. Unless he was apologetic about his behavior, it seems unlikely to change. Just have to decide if it's something you want to tiptoe around for an indefinite period of time, or move on.

[ally018]

Red flag! This could be because your boyfriend is controlling. You should probably evaluate your relationship with him. Does he exhibit this behavior in any other incidences? If so, this could be a wake up call.

[AmandaYVR]

Not only is this a red flag, but the house is on fire, and the forest behind it. Run, girl.

[mk200195]

Hahaha😂

[jennifer_bloom]

Break up and refer him to a therapy hotline

[Lliam]

Big red flag. Jealous, controlling, possible narcissistic tendencies.
How dare he accuse you of being with someone else. It would have been more reasonable if he had been worried about you.

[kyleelyn199723]

He didn’t have good intentions here. It would be more reasonable if he was concerned as to if you are okay, but accusing you of being with someone else is ridiculous. You should consider if you want to deal with this controlling behavior

[Anonymous]

Big red flag… Don’t stick with someone if you know you cannot handle that… It would drive me insane to say the least. This is just overwhelmingly crazy…
Psh… And my ex said I was obsessive and crazy for texting him twice in a 5 hour span…

[RobT312]

Seems strange. Talk to him about it. Don’t u want to know why he did that?
id be concerned, not sure u need to abort just yet u less you want to. Talk and ask a ton of questions first.

[whosnumber1]

wow! not just a red flag... fucking defcon level three! pull the escape lever. abandon ship! ejection seat.

[HenryEvans]

I want a woman to care so much about me that she texts 36 tme while I'm asleep.
I guess it could get kinda stalkerish if you ever did break up though.

[arodriguez664]

That doesn't seem right. He seems extremely insecure and it sounds like it could lead to more controlling behaviors.

[Not_Average]

He’s most likely been hurt before. Are you going to help him gain his trust back or are you going to ditch him? Genuine question you should ask yourself.

[Faerum]

Red flag! Run for the hills, this level of insecurity will cause you a lot of emotional stress for years to come if you let it.

[sheikalana]

He called you 36 times in a spun of 40 minutes? That's a clear red flag. For how long have you been dating? This isn't normal.

[lisalikes]

He would flip out if you couldnt call him for any reason for a few hours.
I would say "walk away", and if he keeps calling, block his number.
Or tell him you have a girl friend.

[Anonymous]

Red flag. Not that this is happening to you but last time I got accused of cheating or talking to other guys he was the cheater. Even married the girl he was cheating on me with.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Sounds like he is trying to be controlling, that is a huge red flag.

[Staximus]

If you didn't do anything that would make him think you were cheating on him (like talking to or hanging out with other guys), then get rid of him now.

[HighValue]

He is too immature to be in a relationship if he gets like that so easily.

[Cowboy6666]

Wow he acted like immature guy, by the way how old is he?
I think its a redflag or alarming situation.

[QuinnJane]

He’s 31

[Cowboy6666]

Leave him and move on, plenty of single guys there including me available :P

[exitseven]

This guy is very insecure. I don;t know if it will get better.

[Seangreen]

Red flag. Happened to me. Kill should have bailed right there

[Waldoe]

he is very insecure... that's too bad, it's very unattractive... you can try suggesting he seek help... or walk away, it won't get better on it's own