I was ghosted by my girlfriend of a year. I feel like I'm done trying. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Hey, so. I was (21M at the the time 22 now) in a relationship for a year with a woman I met some time ago (24F then now 25). Everything seemed to go okay. Then all of a sudden, she just vanishes, after having dinner with her one night. I'll be honest, this hasn't happened to me just once. With previous parnters.

It's been two weeks since she last we last saw each other.

I tried reaching out, nothing.
I'm feeling so defeated in a lot of ways. I just don't even want to try anymore, with relationships. Not saying ALL women do this, but just the ones I've seen and dated. I've never lied to her about anything, I was always transparent about my feelings, went out of my way to help her in anyway I could, even leaving some of my classes early to care for her when she was sick.
I feel like I just can't keep jumping in a line of fire for someone who just gonna pull the trigger anyway. I don't think I've ever shed a tear for anyone like her, because I felt fullfilled in a lot of ways. Was any of this my fault? I'm just desparate for answers. Please just don't jump down my throat telling me I need to grow a pair, or I'm weak. I just need some clarity.

[PrettyPriya]

Wow, you were together a whole year and she just up and vanished? That is honestly a first of hearing something even remotely close to this for me. I have never seen or heard of a person in a yearlong relationship just vanish one night.

Any possible clue as to why? I just don't get it. I can speculate all you want but I am just going to be guessing really. I think the important thing to look at is better now than two years, right?

I know that has to hurt and make you so confused, but maybe it is for the best since this person clearly didn't care for you the way you did for her. You deserve better than that even if something happened. After a year, you at least deserve an explanation.

Is there a chance some big life altering event took place? Like a family emergency or something? How long has it been since the last date and no contact?

[Asker]

That could be the case, but even then. I was always made aware of things going on and even helped her prepare.

[PrettyPriya]

@JohnnyTrash Maybe it is what happened but still not right the way she is handling it. Only takes a minute to send a quick text saying there was some type of emergency. She really owes that much.

[Kichbazp_]

@JohnnyTrash I was Ghosted by a girl too, I got over this and I forgot her !

[AJbabez]

I have been in a situation like that.. and I will advice u to move on.. bcoz such people are indecisive they don't no what they want..

[Sparkie460]

Did you ever think that maybe something happened to her? She could have gotten in an accident or she was assaulted and can't respond to your messages. Have you tried going to her place to talk to her face to face or contacting friends or family to see if she is ok?

[Asker]

Actually, yes. I found out and all is well. Turns out her phone was stolen. Yesterday morning she even went to my work looking for me, but I wasn't there since I was fast asleep. I feel like an idiot for overracting.

[Sparkie460]

I just had a feeling something was up and she didn't just ghost you after that long

[Sam_25]

You're very wrong here...

Don't be simp. Don't show her enough love.
The moment you give others more Important than yourself thats the time you will lose your importance in her life.

Use mind not heart. Play game's not get played.

[worldscolide]

Just move on. Worthless bitches like that are not worthy of respect. They are not capable of basic human integrity and sgpuld be treated as such. The world is awash with women who are better than her.

[worldscolide]

Should******

[Iron_Man]

Find a loyal girlfriend

[Asker]

Mr. Stark, I don't feel good...
Sorry had to. But if it were that easy everyone would.

[Iron_Man]

Give it your best shot my friend you have nothing to lose