Best way to greet your date on your first date?

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What would you say that is? Let's say you've recently just met and one of you asked the other out and you agreed to meet up for a date on the weekend (seriously just an example).

I personally hate the idea of a handshake. It's like you're on a business meeting or something.

It is hard to say what you can do without making them feel uncomfortable, that is a FACT but I think a greeting with a genuine smile while complimenting them "You look lovely" (or something like that) with a light kiss on the cheek is the BEST... at least for me.

I'd definitely appreciate that more over a handshake lol

I think a hug is maybe a bit too much.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm trying to think now what I've done on past dates and I really can't remember LOL. I think just hi, no physical contact? I agree about the handshake, that's a no. I kind of think the opposite though with the hug/kiss. I think a light hug is ok, not so much the kiss yet, but that's not "bad" either. To me though a kiss is a little more personal, so I tend to think they might like me more with that then maybe they really do? Where a hug I don't think that so much because people do this a lot, even guy/girl friends give each other hugs sometimes. But not so much kiss on the cheeks.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I would generally just compliment a lady on her appearance and say that I am glad to finally meet her in person. No hug, no kiss, no handshake. . . not at the beginning of the date.

During dinner, I might reach out to hold her hand after the meal. And if we drove separately (which is the usual scenario for my first dates, since they are the result of online meetings,) then I would walk her to her car and MAYBE get a goodnight kiss at the end of the date, or at least a hug!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends. If you know each other and have met before, I would say a hug. If it is a first date and not dating yet don't go for the kiss on the cheek the first time. But if you have never met in person before I would say handshake and a friendly "Hello, how are you" or "You look nice" kind of thing.

Greergr · Accepted Answer

Let's say we met at a pub and talked for a bit, then went on a first date on another; then I would give a hug/kiss on the cheek. Though if it were a date where you haven't met physically, I wouldn't go in for a physical touch at first.

ohsheeT · Answer

I like a slow soft kiss on the cheek idea but somehow somewhere they would have to be play Slow Soft Touch someplace because I want to feel that energy toothbrushes to my fingers my hands that will tell me everything once I'm looking deep into their eyes I would have to say may be reaching for the hand to hold it as you kind of pull them close to say hello with a very soft kiss on the cheek but I mean everything has to work together it has to just be natural and what's your hands touch you will feel that energy just shoot up your arms about your whole body and then when you smoothie kiss on the cheek you'll smell her hair the beautiness of her that one talking about if I was to meet you on a date that's the only way I can answer this but yeah it would be something like that at least I would hope

BlueStripedSoul · Answer

Honestly, I think a hug is more neutral than a kiss. lol Besides, I'm a huggy kind of guy anyway, so I'd probably be more inclined to give a greeting hug. 😊 Or just a "hi!". If all went well though, a goodnight kiss on the cheek might be okay, but it really depends on the person. But agreed, a handshake is pretty awkward/lame. lol

MTC29 · Answer

No touching; just a basic greeting: "Hi. It's nice to see you."

The rule for male-female handshakes is that a man never extends his hand to a woman unless she offers her hand first. This applies to social and business occasions.

Ευδεμονια · Answer

I usually smile, greet the other person with a “hi” and make a little tilt with my head, to say “you’re welcome”.
In saw in general this can be a good way to greet a person you meet for first time. I suggest avoiding contact since the other one can be uncomfortable with hug or kiss at first appointment.

DaveJord · Answer

I am going with the friendly hug, if she isn't willing to give you a hug then you know its mostly likely not going to work out. But if she gives a warm friendly big hug on the first date then that's motivating.

Handshake is awkward, a kiss is too forward.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

A kiss on the hand or a polite compliment. I know the hand kiss is old fashioned or whatever but it's served me well lol

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't see anything wrong with a handshake. I always shake hands when meeting people (male or female).

(... Okay, well not always. Since I'm really shy. But if it's a DATE that's been pre-arranged and intentionally set up, I almost feel like it would be rude NOT to shake their hand.)

Koalamate · Answer

I said a hug because I would like a hug. Honestly I think a hug at the start is a great sign but a hug good bye and just a hello when you arrive is better.

Bmories99 · Answer

Depends on the person. But I always like to give a hi and compliment her. I also smile appreciatively because she choose to go out with me and that's cool.

20yearsolder · Answer

On your knees, unzip his pants and pull it out. Lol I'm just joking

SixFootSexy · Answer

Hug. Usually the safe option shows you are physically affectionate.

Twalli · Answer

To me a kiss is more intimate. My family is very huggy. I don't consider a hug as something that goes too far. Keep your hands above her ass and it's fine.

jahaims · Answer

A hug is a nice greeting if she is comfortable with it. I would like that she initiated the hug because it is easy to feel like a creep as a guy.

TallAnon · Answer

Smile and wave. I can just imagine myself as a 6'7 giant lurking over someone to give them a hug, nooo, worst first impression 😂

WhitneySnow · Answer

I think a hug is better than a kiss on the cheek. It shows that you’re at least friends which is where every relationship should start.

IsoUser · Answer

Personally I would just invite her out to lunch or dinner her choice and my treat. An just see where things go from there. But that is what any decent guy my age would do.

Noodle_fan · Answer

first time meet? shake hands it is really depend on your cultural background , if i just met her and kiss on cheek , she will be most likely cancel the date lmao

Guanfei · Answer

It's a date, he's not your buddy, so a kiss might be a good thing.

EaterPeter · Answer

Chocolate, flowers, hey you, looking good. Looks like your first stop, straight form cat walk ramp.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Handshake. And it probably has minimal impact on the outcome of a date.

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