Long story short, I’ve been seeing this guy for about 7 months ish in a purely casual relationship, on and off as I have also been seeing other people. It’s been developing recently, to the point where he tells me he misses me, holds my hand, and opens up to me, gearing towards a more relationship vibe than FWBs.
these behaviors have been making me get more attached, so I texted him my concerns and asked to talk. After a series of text messages exchanges he said yea he’s okay with talking to figure things out, saying he really really does like me but hasn’t put too much thought into moving to the next level because there’s a lot going on in life rn (he’s moving for work and thinks moving might cause us to phase out but it’s just an hour and a half drive etc).
it’s the last set of text message exchanges that bother me and I feel so much anxiety my hands are literally shaking. I told him I’m very scared to talk because im worried it will be the last time. Then he said don’t worry at all he wants things to work but worst case he’s okay with just being friends. And I said I question my ability to just be friends right away because it hurts (I said something a bit longer but that’s the gist). Then he said “if you can’t be just friends I’ll pull away if you can’t bc I care about you too much to keep hurting you”
I interpreted this as it’s either we just be purely platonic friends or nothing, and it hurt, so I kind of lashed out and said if that’s what you want to do then whatever I don’t have a choice. Then he said can we just wait to talk because things are getting misinterpreted now. And I apologized after for misinterpreting and making him upset 😭
I don't know do you think by that I’ll pull away text, he was just responding to me saying I can’t be friends if that happens, or genuinely saying it’s were just friends or nothing?
i worried I fucked things up ahead of talking but the anticipating is causing me so much anxiety I don't know what to do
