What do you think of my views on playing hard to get?

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I think it's okay because you need to know the guy is mature enough to handle rejection. I've met abusive guys who were as sweet as angels when they thought we might date but after I rebuffed them, they wanted me to die of cancer because I refused to date them after accepting rides home from them from church without giving them money for it. Just imagine, if this guy is that hateful before we even date, how bad would he get if we were together for a few months and then broke up? He might kill me or rape me.

BJP21 · Accepted Answer

Its fine as long as you don't play with emotions. I wouldn't drop it out for very long.

They way you can tell is chivalry will continue to run its course without question from non abusive guys. They will not mind giving you rides and step up to the plate and expect nothing out of it.

AngryCarl · Accepted Answer

I so agree. No sex before matrimony.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I don’t “play” when it comes to relationships or getting to know each other. When I sense the playing games (ignoring, hard to get, making me jealous, hot/cold, tests) I will turn myself off and just walk away before it even gets serious. Idc how old I am, my time is too precious to waste on energy like that 😂. Nah thanks! Learn from experience. If they turn out to be a monster after , then get out.

coachTanthony · Answer

------------Women will always test men it's biological. Most men understand the difference between that and games.

dragoblack · Answer

I understand but there's playing hard to get and manipulation. Guys hate women who manipulate, but there's are ways to deny a guy softly and get them to warm back up to having interests in you.
Basically just if he is quick to talk you up and whisper sweet words he won't take rejection well. That is straight up just how guys like that are they like to move a situation along quickly to get what they want. If a guy takes interest in you as a person and you say "i don't know you well enough" to being asked and he can take that rejection and show interest, there you go, he's mature
Guys who are used to the manipulation games know how to play the games to get what they want (which is usually to get laid then bounce), immature guys who are not great at it will get butthurt heavily (and their goal is usually to get laid and that's it, but ate probably bad at sex anyway), casual guys will just be where they are to chill & chat, and guys who make the effort to get to know you as a person are mature. Guys are honestly very simple.

JDavid25 · Answer

"if this guy is that hateful before we even date, how bad would he get if we were together for a few months and then broke up? He might kill me or rape me."

LOL.. I don't think they'll go that far.. They're ego and feelings are hurt at the moment, and they probably don't go on a lot of dates or meet a lot of women, so they cling onto the first woman that shows them some attention and don't react that best.. But I think a woman testing a man's masculinity is fine and natural like Coach Anthony said, but playing head games to keep interest is different..

Pot8o · Answer

I personally don't like it, but that's because, as a guy, it's my job to hit on you, my job to get rejected, but ALSO my job to never overstep your boundaries or make you uncomfortable or be socially inappropriate. It's like asking someone to deliver a package where they have to walk through a front yard full of crazed dogs.

Personally my response is to just give up on dating, and life.

AviatorTom · Answer

A girl playing hard to get is okay because it helps the girl determine how interested the guy is, in her. Just don't play impossible to get, or you'll never know if the guy was a good one or not.

My father told my sister and me the story about how my mother played hard to get., saying "I chased your mother until she caught me."

cth96190 · Answer

A woman who plays hard to get is going to die alone.

You can thank the Feminists.

It is now too dangerous for a man to make more than one low-key approach. Even that one approach is fraught with danger.

That one approach can result in an education or career ending sexual harassment complaint, an extra-judicial Title IX star chamber, or a #MeToo cancel mob destroying a man's life.

That is why women have noticed considerably fewer approaches by men during the past few years.

When you say no, a man who has a functional brain and who understands the current situation will walk away and not approach you again.

Your choice.

FreyaRed · Answer

I wouldn't call it "playing hard to get" but "show me who you really are". There are so many egomaniacs with overblown egos among men, that shit tests are necessary evil to get rid of those who think they own you because you had a drink with them.

BlueScorpio · Answer

I don't think that's playing hard to get but vetting. It's cause those guys egos where hurt by the rejection so they retaliate by saying something hurtful to hurt you back. Plus men aren't that damn nice, they are nice enough up to a point and then the real them starts coming out.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

I think it's fine to play hard to get as long as it isn't overdone. There's also other ways to test guys that are probably better than that. Its difficult, it's one of those things that depends on the guy.

Anonymous · Answer

If you actually want a decent guy it’s a dumb strategy because most decent guys including me won’t push any further after they get rejected and move on. If a girl rejects me she doesn’t want me and I’m not going to get with even if she chases me again. I’m not getting with someone who rejected me. She lost her chance. I also really dislike games and have other options and am happy being single so I’d move on very quickly. Overall a bad idea if you want to show actual interest unless you want to attract the rapey guys who don’t respect boundaries

BeMuse · Answer

So you reject guys that you may or may not like, in order to see if they will reactive negatively. But when they move on without making a big fuss, you want them all the sudden, and then you become the crazed lunatic that stalks them as they move on and reject you. Somehow you think that makes you more mature… lol

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I generally agree in principle, but problem is that a lot of women don’t know where the line between hard to get and “abusive, neglectful shit head” is.

Avicenna · Answer

Playing hard to get is a waste of time. If you know you're interested, then proceed accordingly and let him know you are. If you're not interested, just let him know. Not everyone handles rejection well, but that isn't your problem.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Do you define hard to get as head games and deception or what? The first date is essentially a job interview without necessarily involving being hard to get.

morimorishoujo · Answer

I think playing hard to get really isn’t bad. It tests a person’s patience and their will to respect you. If they hop around trying to get you as much as they can and don’t take their time, it’s honestly a fail. It’s never bad to think of yourself as worthy either.

Moose304 · Answer

I recommend caution with all the games. I'm going to say it. A man that is red-pilled will laugh at you, and a blue-pilled guy will chase after you. Most women I know hate and despise blue-pilled men. You can tell me I am ignorant and don't know what I am talking about, that's OK! I stand by my comment!

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Your posts make me cringe honestly. In your other question you showed how much you generalize being close minded. Now you're openly saying you play games by rejecting guys as some sort of strategy... Gonna block you so I don't see your toxic posts on here anymore. Take care

MementoMori_ · Answer

If a girl plays hard to get, I just move on to another one.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

I think it's wrong to play. If you actually Are hard to get, it's acceptable. Don't play games.

exitseven · Answer

I hated all the games girls would play. Things like plsying hard to get or trying to make me jealous. It really soured me on dating.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Testing someone by rejecting them to see if they are mature enough to handle it is horrible. You will most likely end up with someone who is: 1. Too naive to realize whats going on which makes them an easy target to be taken advantage of. 2. So eone who is willing to be with anyo e so they ate not alone. 3. Someone who believes that any type of attention is good attention. A person who truly and honestly cares about themselves will not go with someone who rejects them.

Pohjolan · Answer

Thing is that playing hard to get is counter signaling.

Its only going to work if you are otherwise enough attractive and you also primarily attract guys that don't respect your boundaries.

Its your pejorative to do so but at that age you might consider getting a cat.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

@jennifer_bloom I like your views and your question, no man should be nasty cause of a breakup, I've been rejected and took it like a man.

BrotherBane · Answer

I've seen girls post that they didn't reciprocate interest for 10 months. Then when the guy moves on to another girl, she thinks that he is a player. Don't be that girl.

DoctorSex · Answer

A lot of these types of posts confuse the heck out of me, because I tend to be the one who plays hard to get.. I can't imagine the idea of chasing a woman.

Modern Men's self worth is in the actual gutter.🤦🏾

Fireguy17 · Answer

Sorry, you can play all the games you want to, and you will also lose people that just don't have the time or patience to play games. It's called adulthood.

ChiTown33 · Answer

While i don't wish ill on anyone. I think those that play hard to get reap what the sow.

BLP11520 · Answer

I ask this woman out twice, said ok forget it , dated married and she was pissed I didn't ask her a 3rd time? I was young and handsome

PantyBuyer4Life · Answer

Men are now told not to pursue someone who is hard to get. So it might backfire

TonightYouu · Answer

Its a slippery slope though because a lot of women are too koi and playing hard to get implies that you are not interested

Sabretooth · Answer

Don't you think that this is hypothetical and counterproductive?

Anonymous · Answer

Its not about being hard to get its about being natural. If you're easy to get then be easy to get because acting is the quickest way to turn everyone off

Chhxvb · Answer

Hmmm, to me it just comes across as playing games and dishonesty.

Anonymous · Answer

We (men) get called Sexist if we don't date women that do wanted to date us (men).

red324 · Answer

What do they say when they reject you?

Anonymous · Answer

Women tend to overdue this.

Anonymous · Answer

I freaking hate it.

FigaseGames · Answer

Nice

Mafia23 · Answer

Cool.

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