Boys help me with this: should I be happy the guy I'm dating is telling me the kind of person he was?

[Anonymous]

I am dating a guy seriously and he keeps telling me everything about his past and the girls he has been , and he said he doesn't wanna hide anything from me but he wants to be very open about who he was. He takes me everywhere with him and he gives me a lot of attention and care. I just feel scared. Should I be happy that at least he is telling me the kind of person he was?

[SteveSmith1985]

Well the problem I have with this is "he keeps telling you". That's not normal/ok.

If he's telling you for the sake of getting to know him, then that's a good thing. But really, that's like... a handful of conversations at most, and often it's a single conversation. And there might very well be a rare mention of the ex, when someone is telling you a story about a past time in their life, which incidentally included the person they were with at the time.

But he shouldn't KEEP telling you things about his ex's and other women.

[SwellStroke]

Some people are just like that, an open book and feel better putting things out in the open. As someone once told me "Whom I am today, will not be whom I am tomorrow. For through the path I walk this day, the experiences will help mold the me of the morrow."
Like a commenter mentioned, the level of respect for you, and/or could possibly be in correlation to his feelings for you. Not wanting things from the past to come out that could jeopardize what he has with you.
Personally I have no problem if asked about things that have happened in my life, however there are different levels with whom I will and will not share things with.

[DCowboy4747]

It shows how much respect he has for you and shows how much he is willing to invest in the relationship. He sounds like he has made some mistakes in the past and is determined not to repeat them in this one. By you knowing his past you can help him not slip back into old habits by being able to see the signs and point it out to him so he can correct his behavior.

[slatyb]

Sounds rather self-absorbed and boring Does he listen when you talk?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure, I don't know whether to admire the honesty or pity the stupidity of it (assuming it's the truth lol). Either it seems to be working though.

[OddBeMe]

Is your scared feelings coming from an expectation to be just as open?


Or perhaps is it intuition this guy is a narcissist?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

An easy unveiling could be a distraction to hide something More serious but sure, honesty is cool

[PatriceONeal]

Being single never felt so right

[KrakenAttackin]

He is a fool.