just to be clear I’m in high school so it’s more common to be friends with someone before dating them and on top of that if feel really uncomfortable going out with someone I didn’t know well.
On top of that I’ve always been a fan of the best friend to lovers type thing so if he’s not crushing on me while we’re friends before dating I just don’t want it.
I likes few different guys, one very special on in particular but I’d like to befriend them and get to know them as “friends” before I shoot my shot and If I get lucky maybe he’ll do it for me.
What can I do to befriend a guy I like?
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First, I also was a huge fan of this. It's not quite the same after school is finished, but it always seemed to work really well. So philosophically, I agree with you completely.
Now, the more practical: Well, there's no specific or special way to go about becoming friends with the guy you like. It's the same as the way you make friends with anyone. What makes it 'different' is simply the fact that you have feelings for them. Since they don't KNOW that yet, then really, there should be no more pressure than making a regular friend. To him, that's all that's happening.
So really, don't overthink the 'how' because you know this already. You've made friends before, and probably didn't really THINK too much about it. Just go talk to the guy. About anything. You don't need an excuse, just insert-your-ass into his life. Just don't overthink too much the "how".
Your plan is good. The "How" you strike up a friendship need not be a stumbling block. It CAN be a stumbling block if you overthink it. Don't worry what he might think if you say 'this or that.' I doubt you worry too much when meeting people who you don't have a crush on.
You are at your best when you're not thinking and calculating when interacting with people. It's best to show him "that natural you" as much as you can. The way to do THAT is to not overthink/worry too much and just, go for it! (the friendship).