Together 5.5 years, engaged to be married in 7 months. Saw he is swiping through dating apps? He lied first, then said just wanted to see who’s there. Leave or stay? (Page 2)
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If you guys separated I could understand it. I know if I were with someone and she was on tinder or something I’d be very upset. Once that trust is gone it’s hard to ever get it back. You’re going to always be suspicious of him and that’s not a good way to live
He's engaged! This is a pivotal moment in his life! It's a SCARY time! I guarantee you 99.9% of guys will do a little bit of serious thinking when they have that "oh shit" moment and realize that they are about to be MARRIED.
Don't you want him to be 100% sure before he pulls the trigger? Don't you want him to have no regrets?
After 5.5 years, if you still don't know if you want to be with someone, then you are wasting time.
@BlueScorpio I understand your point. I'm just saying that some people might have jitters. It's only human.
This sounds like a pretty tragic situation, together for that long, engaged, then you catch him doing that and the first thing he does is lie to you? (How exactly did that go by the way?) Then after lying to you he changes his story? I'm sorry you even had to question whether or not to continue with the marriage after this much of your life has been invested with him.
I don't trust liars.
No reason to stay with someone whose still checking his options after asking you to marry him.
It’s far better to find out he’s an a*s now than later. Bullet dodged.
Call of the wedding. Every thing was fine for 5 years. I don't know who popped the question but clearly it was a mistake. I would say leave but at the very least do not marry this guy
Stay but ask. Communication is really the only thing a marriage needs.
Sometimes people keep old tinder accounts to vicariously live. I would argue it’s like porn. Not cheating, we all think dirty, or what if…not a big deal. Unless you also have evidence he’s actually dating…
Please please leave. If y’all aren’t even married yet and he’s doing this, you’re throwing years to come away. Also. in my opinion if he wanted to marry you ; it wouldn’t take him 6 years to decide to do it
Sounds to me like he is looking for a better offer. If he finds that, don't be surprised if he dumps you.
At least web know the asker is a lot more way better then you.
You asked but can't handle the answer? Why bother asking? I'm thinking you already know the answer. You will always have that bit of doubt in tour head whether he is seeing someone on the sly.
I didn't asked the question dumb ass!
@Alwayreckles93 You could well be posting as an anon. And how does it seem that she knows more than me? If she did she wouldn't be asking her question on here. *rolls eyes*
This should not be a question. If you are in a committed relationship and the other person is on dating sites, you end the relationship and find someone who is honorable.
Is this for real? Sounds like a troll. I would think the answer would be clear. Maybe I’ll help: do you want to pursue a relationship with an admitted liar?
If he's “looking” seven months BEFORE the wedding, imagine what he will be like seven YEARS after the wedding!
Put the hammer down and give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't cut it out, or just simply isn't worth the commitment anymore, then leave.
Trust your gut instinct never go wrong n saying that he just wanted to see who was there what kind of excuse is that
Oh, dear!
He's having second thoughts.
Seems like he's exploring his options even though he'd deny it.
This is the universe trying to warn you. What you do with the information will determine whether your life is peaceful, or traumatic. Unfortunately most people appear to be on a path of trauma...
Evidently.
No matter how far fetched it might sound, that seem to be the case for more people you might think.
I mean to be fair, the book and movie series most women masturbated to after all is 50 shades of Grey.
That is about peaceful calm love and not abusing handcuff strangle type of content though... Right?😅
Bodily Sadomasochism is a word I stumbled upon unintentionally while watching regular tv a quite long time ago actually.
No, I am nowhere near being that type of man.
Chremastophelia is what could be united with harm if shit hits the fan an done without safety boundaries.
I just wonder why. This freaks me out hella much.
Might as well ask. What's the worst that can happen? You leave. That's it. Might as well ask to be sure.
That's a bad sign. If he does that it's more then likely he is searching for contact with other females sooner or later
You are beautiful you deserve better cancel the wedding. He is an idiot!
Tell him
"Why window shop when you own this"
Big red flag. He's bored and even if he didn't cheat he had the intention to.