Have you ever confused LUST and LOVE?

Question

Lust is mainly sexual or physical, with no desire to bond with the person on a deeper level. Love, in contrast, involves feelings of intimacy, vulnerability, and putting in the effort to build a stronger connection. Certain signs may help you figure out whether you're feeling love or lust toward your new partner.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

When I was younger, definitely. Also, love takes time to develop. A person cannot "love at first sight" that is more than likely just lust. Of course, lust is a GREAT start to have for a romantic/sexual/bio hell even LONG-TERM union! However, you can lust for a lot of people, especially when you're young and your hormones are through the roof lol. To love is sometimes to make unpleasant sacrifices and in this day and age, where people have become unfortunately all too selfish, it is HARD to do! Lots of narcissists running around thinking they can handle relationships and life lol. Life is risky and so is "love", but love are chemicals in the brain. It's a feeling. So is LUST! LUST is ALSO chemicals in the brain. Thing is, LUST can very much produce a baby/another life so we should be careful with that. LOVE is also developed over time (oops, I think I already said that lol. I'm tired from work lol). And it's also not easy to love because it requires thinking of things other than yourself.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

All of my relationships and situations I have confused lust and love.

Positivity700 · Accepted Answer

Nope

I understand love as that thing that even through toil, pain, sorrows looks at someone and still sees the best in them. Attraction and intimacy are enjoyable moments of icing on the cake but pure love is forgiving and unconditional. It's caring deeply for the wellbeing of another and it comes with mutual rewards and good times too. It takes time to develop. first you are attracted to someone, and then you love them. In that order.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

nope... I always had it very clear

and this comes from all my infatuation and crushes I had as a kid and a young teen, which were all "kiddy naive love" of course

but then, at some point when puberty did hit like a MF train and for real hit me... I knew what lust was and how vastly different that feels, lol

so, since then... I do not mistake either for the other

LovingJo · Answer

Hasn't everyone? If someone says  NO  to this, then they're lying!!! 💯❤️

Mansearching · Answer

I had a girlfriend in the past that she really picked me up. Our first "you could call it a date" i stayed at her place. We did have sex. It was like everyday after. Even mornings when i worked graveyards. So I think you could call that lust.

msc545 · Answer

As a recovering sex addict, I used to do this all the time. Never again.

trina_x · Answer

this one guy i dated, i thought i loved him but i really had no feelings

LiamJHayden · Answer

Maybe as a teen, but definitely not since. I know when I am interested in her as an individual and when I see her as just a potential sexual partner.

Anonymous · Answer

I think most people know the difference between love and lust, but choose to confuse them because of social constructs. Love and possessive jealousy, on the other hand, I've seen confused more often than not.

Love is wanting the best for someone. Romantic love adds wanting to BE the best for them (and also lust). Jealousy is not wanting to lose that person because THEY bring something good to YOUR life.

SonOfPiper · Answer

I can take this step higher. What is it when you have a close friend who you suddenly have a lustful desire for? Can it still be lust if you know everything about each other and been through times of sadness and joy together?

Subarugirl · Answer

No, the two have always had a very clear distinction

SlothySlob · Answer

I haven't yet. The few times I was with women I would feel one of two distinct emotions. "I want to be with her" or "I want her".

Anonymous · Answer

Love is a service to care and protect, NOT a feeling. What you describe as love is searching for said lust feeling. As if chemstry should tell you to trust when chemstry tells a man to sleep with everyone.

Passing_by · Answer

Yeah, used to happen sometimes when I younger

mobiusforniner · Answer

Lust is thinking with my smaller head.  Love, I can feel it in my heart. Because it hurts.

SpokenTruth · Answer

I have never confused love with lust. I never went for anyone due to psychical attraction It took a desire to bond and the feelings of intimacy.

es20490446e · Answer

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Tracker1958 · Answer

I will say last because the only value a woman has to ever get a man to give her the time of day is between her legs. If not for sex, men wouldn't spend a penny on them.

Twalli · Answer

I don't think you can be in love without some amount of lust.

Songomatic · Answer

You are confusing this with Friends With Benefits😄

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

I must feel love first in order to develop lust for a person

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, but when I usually good enough to remind me when I do. 🤣🤣🤣

legalboxers · Answer

there's always a fine line there

Nikki1989 · Answer

I did it all the time when I was younger.

SnowedIn · Answer

Often I used to. Not so much anymore.

thegooglepixelfan · Answer

It could be. I can be unsure other times not.

Iron_Man · Answer

No way

Lynn2001 · Answer

It has never confused me

Anonymous · Answer

No, these 2 are not hard to differentiate.

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