In what ways, do you feel the opposite attracts you?

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Aside from them being the opposite sex, I still would not find anything appealing about dating someone who is too different from me. I’d find it quite frustrating and annoying tbh. But apparently a lot of people say opposites attract. So in what way do you find that appealing? Cause I just don’t. I’d feel like they wanna change me or pull me out of my comfortzone. I like to change on my own time, even if that is a quarter til never  #FeelFreeToList

Rockstarrrrr · Accepted Answer

I think it's the excitement.. You shouldn't be attracted to each other but here we are! ... And also when two different people like each other it's like they balance things out and it's kinda fun to explore the other person's personality and quirks... I find myself a lot in that situation... I attract a lot of " opposites " lol... I'm laid back and introverted and mysterious and I mostly attract extroverted and bubbly girls lol... Like I said sometimes it feels good and exciting... Buttt... I agree with you... After a while... The magic would be gone and you'll just find yourself constantly out of your comfort zone and that you can't be really you around them and you disagree a lot... So it usually ends up ugly 🤷‍♂️... There are exceptions tho...

sirderpsalot123 · Accepted Answer

I mostly agree with you. Too different is bad, but it would also be boring if she was exactly the same and thought the same exact way as me.

we have to agree on major things, have similar viewpoints on some things, and it's nice to have some shared interests and hobbies (but it can also be nice to be with someone who will on occasion enjoy your hobby with you, only because it's something they know you enjoy. It shows that they care)

I have always preferred women who are more outdoorsy than I am. Someone who can get me to enjoy being outside. even if just going for walks.

DaveJord · Answer

Honestly, I find those opposite of me attractive. I like people who are self starters and get me out of my comfort zone. I always wouldn't mind someone like you Dizzy, that not really... but chances ae people like you wouldn't give the time of day.

I like being out and doing things, but at the same time I don't like doing things by myself, I mean i can sit home by myself and entertain myself.

I could easily enjoy laying around and spending some time inside with someone as well... but yes regardless at some point in any relationship you have to accept some degree of change, and you either are willing to d that or you are not.

coachTanthony · Answer

There are just some people I run into and something comes over me... can't really explain it. Has nothing to really do with opposites.

Finchie40 · Answer

In a sense we are all opposite , we all come from different paths in life , we all experienced things differently from other’s , it’s very rare to find someone that experienced things exactly the way we have , but when we do meet someone that has very similar experiences we tend to feel more at ease with them because we feel that someone actually might understand us , and the shit we went through. When I meet a girl that had very similar experiences like I did , I feel a better connection and chemistry with her cuz she pretty much understands me , the same way I pretty much understand her , so yes opposites do attract but that isn’t always the best route to go, We tend to think we can accept someone completely opposite , but when push comes to shove we really can’t , that’s why I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl , every girl I rushed into a relationship with , turned to shit because we were just infatuated with each other in the beginning, without looking at the big picture on whether we really have great chemistry and connection , We tend to change ourselves to appease someone else , and that’s where most relationships go wrong, cuz we feel it’s new and exciting , You should never change yourself for anyone period cuz the reality of it is , you can’t change who you really are. When someone thinks they can change you , they are in for a rude awakening when they realize they can’t. Most girls’ I was in a relationship with has tried to change me and I would just look her in the face and laugh , cuz I’m sorry you aren’t changing me , I am who I am , take it or leave it , I am very honest when it comes to meeting a girl I have interest in, I throw it all on the table and let her know this is who I am , I am not Going to waste your time just like I don’t want you wasting mine. Just because we are attracted to each other , doesn’t mean we are going to make it for the long haul. I want a girl that accepts my flaws the same way I will accept hers. We are all imperfect people, but for love to grow between us we both have to be on the same page as things or it will not last. So after having my heart shit on by selfish girls’ I learned to not give my heart completely to a girl right away anymore and take things slow , cuz I don’t want her changing for me just like i am not going to change for her. If me having a few beers on a Friday night sitting on my patio is the worst thing ever, you aren’t the girl for me period , I want a girl that wants to sit with me on the patio after a week of work relaxing and unwinding , i want a girl that isn’t hesitate to come to my arms , I want a girl that brings happiness into my life not misery , so I am honest right from the start , if you have to hold secrets and tell little white lies to someone? then they aren’t the person for you period. Most people lie just to impress someone not realizing they are setting themselves up for disaster. Every girl that has tried to change me to appease her , I kicked to the curb , Cuz I accepted her for who she is so she needs to accept me for who I am , I never asked her to change so why does she think I am going to change for her? I have moral beliefs and I will only commit to a girl that has very similar morals as I do , I don’t want a girl that whores around that can’t be faithful and loyal , if her mission is to bring misery into my life , don’t let the door hit ya in the ass on the way out cuz I will not stand by a girl that doesn’t make me her priority like she expects me to make her mine , it needs to go both ways or we are just wasting each other’s time period , if you just want sex then be upfront and tell me you just want sex but do not fuck with my heart

ohsheeT · Answer

I do artwork called fo wood burning you lay out a piece of wood furniture grandfather clock picture frames whatever and you hook the power lead to one side of the wood and a negative lead to the other side of the wood opposites positive negative you turn it on and in a heartbeat you have five to 10 veins of electricity rushing towards each other Opposites attract it makes the most beautiful design but the moment they hit they create an ark they create a weld and explosion of sort I think when it comes to people when Opposites attract it's because they bring out the best in each other they don't hold each other back they're always has to be some sort of balance you can't control anybody and before you get together you already have to know who that person is their goals what they want and that is either a turn-on for you or it's not but you can't change anybody and why would you even try it if you're with that person the last thing in the world you want to do is be with them because you want to change this that makes no sense to me I've had a couple relationships like that and they wanted me to be there all the time with them it was a long distance relationship but I could not be there like that I think it could have been one of the best relationships ever but that's just not me I cannot sit still and entertain somebody it would have been a much better relationship and it would have been one on one I believe opposites do attract There's Something Beautiful about it there's something special about it but you have to know that person and know that you cannot change anybody you have to let them change on their own and that would eventually happen because of respect trust and love

electromagnetic · Answer

To me, opposites don’t usually attract.
I have a very grand personality, very talkative, and exploratory. Finding someone who doesn’t have a similar personality I find a little weird.
I cannot strike up a conversation knowing my partner will not voice his opinions.

This is just the same in my circle of friends.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

In terms of appearance - I was never attracted to men in my country. Was always attracted to men who are totally different.

I think it has to do something with my countrymen being just 4 million and the genetic diversity is not very broad. Yeah, we have some blond blue eyed, some redheads with green eyes and some middle Eastern looking guys. My brother for example has green eyes and brown hair, I have reddish hair and black eyes, my mom has blonde hair and bluish eyes and my dad has reddish hair black eyes. I mean genetic make up is diverse. But I can tell looking at our guys that they are from my country and it never attracted me.

I always knew I would marry a foreigner. I don’t know what his hair color will be like or what his eyes will be like, but I know he’ll look different and exotic to me.

Lliam · Answer

We have to have common values and some common interests. But I also value some differences. Even though opposite views on certain things like religion, politics or social issues would cause Irreconcilable differences, I value intelligent, open-minded discussions. I learn from different points of view.

As I said, we need to have some common interests. But that doesn't mean that we have to have ALL the same interests or do everything together. We're entitled to do things on our own. And we can talk about our passions and experiences with each other without us both participating in them.

magiusX26 · Answer

things that canbe or are complinetary oppisites. an example being one person builds things and the other decorates those things or one runs a business but sucks at the paperwork level and the other is great with the paperwork but maybe sucks at running a business otherwise. basically creates a balance to things, yin and yang.

a more classical example is a rough basis in beauty and the beast. where belle capms his savagery. also seen with the adege of "music tames the savage beast" .

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Yeah the old addage opposite attract isn't completely as it seems. You must have same values and certain habits. What I'd like opposite is if one of us is anxious the other is fearless, I like having different strong points as it gives variety, if one is good at a certain subject etc, likes, jobs , though certain things or business we may still do together, our main job should differ

RavVid · Answer

I think opposites attract is limited to the extrovert/introvert divide. An introvert finds it socially easier with an extrovert partner and possibly an extrovert might find it stabilizing to have an introvert partner.

Don't see any other opposites working. A thrifty with a let the good times roll? A risk taker with a OHS compliance officer?

Phoenix98 · Answer

I guess in some instances it's good to be with someone who's more social then me because I am not at all a social butterfly so having someone more outgoing helps me get out more amongst people and just being out in general a little bit more.

Otherwise I prefer someone different but similar to myself.

exitseven · Answer

I dated a girl who was the opposite of all the other girls I ever dated. I thought I would do something different for a change. She was not athletic and never went to college. She was a bartender and her whole life revolved around drinking and partying. It was fun for a while until she got too crazy. I think I just wanted to see what it would be like to be with somebody that was sort of an artist and a free spirit.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

So, I used to be a sucker for a bad boy smile, muscles and style. Now I find myself attracted to a good singing voice and being made to laugh, and a dorky smile!

RobT312 · Answer

I agree, too opposite and you have nothing in common. I guess a little opposite is nice as it opens you up to new things. I guess I like opposite to the point of it complementing each other.

lilyanony1 · Answer

I like men, I've dated men from different backgrounds. Their differences appealed to me. But it can also be a hindrance because they weren't so open minded

Ad_Quid_Orator · Answer

Hmmm, I'm an introvert but I think it's interesting to date a girl who's a social butterfly. I guess you get to learn about where people with opposite views are coming from.

SunnyRS · Answer

Opposites do attract me a little as I don't talk much but I love to listen so I am attracted to people who talk more, can initiate a conversation and can deal with my silence without being bored of it.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I found someone that likes most of the same things that I like. I do know people that married someone who was totally opposite than how they are. I think sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't

Agape93 · Answer

Sometimes. It's hard to quantify what does it for me, when and why

iron_ninjs · Answer

They usually don't. I'm mostly attracted to a girl with similar interests and mindset.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

They're very attractive. Because they bring a different perspective to the table. It's like a whole new world to discover. It makes things exciting.

Shark_61695 · Answer

I'm really negative so I find positive people attractive.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I like being challenged. People who are too like me rarely do that.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

I'm not sure what you mean by that but I prefer women who are intelligent in a different way than I am

hiyamotherfers · Answer

i dont feel like it does

Abdulwahh · Answer

I prefer similarities too.

TrillXHippy · Answer

No they don’t

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