In what ways, do you feel the opposite attracts you?

[DizzyDesii]

Aside from them being the opposite sex, I still would not find anything appealing about dating someone who is too different from me. I’d find it quite frustrating and annoying tbh. But apparently a lot of people say opposites attract. So in what way do you find that appealing? Cause I just don’t. I’d feel like they wanna change me or pull me out of my comfortzone. I like to change on my own time, even if that is a quarter til never #FeelFreeToList

[Rockstarrrrr]

I think it's the excitement.. You shouldn't be attracted to each other but here we are! ... And also when two different people like each other it's like they balance things out and it's kinda fun to explore the other person's personality and quirks... I find myself a lot in that situation... I attract a lot of " opposites " lol... I'm laid back and introverted and mysterious and I mostly attract extroverted and bubbly girls lol... Like I said sometimes it feels good and exciting... Buttt... I agree with you... After a while... The magic would be gone and you'll just find yourself constantly out of your comfort zone and that you can't be really you around them and you disagree a lot... So it usually ends up ugly 🤷‍♂️... There are exceptions tho...

[DizzyDesii]

Lol i agree! I keep attracting opposites and then i start self sabotaging shit just to break free from them

[Rockstarrrrr]

Dayuum... You're really living my nightmares lol... Seriously stop, don't fall for it... I think cool wolf chicks don't mix well with normies and also normies totally don't deserve them lol... Probably only a wolf guy is good for them... Good thing they're kinda hard to find 💀😂...

[DizzyDesii]

Lol i think I remind them daily we’re too different until one of us bounce. Im not looking to waste either of our time but this is what happens when i tell then we won't work and they say “lets just go with the flow”. I haaaate the flow. I like a longterm plan

[Rockstarrrrr]

I love your mindset

[DizzyDesii]

I adore yours as well :)

[Rockstarrrrr]

Aw that's nice 😄🥰

[sirderpsalot123]

I mostly agree with you. Too different is bad, but it would also be boring if she was exactly the same and thought the same exact way as me.

we have to agree on major things, have similar viewpoints on some things, and it's nice to have some shared interests and hobbies (but it can also be nice to be with someone who will on occasion enjoy your hobby with you, only because it's something they know you enjoy. It shows that they care)

I have always preferred women who are more outdoorsy than I am. Someone who can get me to enjoy being outside. even if just going for walks.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn’t get bored of that at all lmao.

[sirderpsalot123]

Understandable lol I know a lot of people feel the same

[sirderpsalot123]

Thanks for MHO 😎

[DaveJord]

Honestly, I find those opposite of me attractive. I like people who are self starters and get me out of my comfort zone. I always wouldn't mind someone like you Dizzy, that not really... but chances ae people like you wouldn't give the time of day.

I like being out and doing things, but at the same time I don't like doing things by myself, I mean i can sit home by myself and entertain myself.

I could easily enjoy laying around and spending some time inside with someone as well... but yes regardless at some point in any relationship you have to accept some degree of change, and you either are willing to d that or you are not.

[DizzyDesii]

I only wouldn’t give you the time of day because of the age difference. You’re like 2 years younger than my dad. Other than that, I always loved your mindset

[DaveJord]

Your dad is pretty awesome guy I bet then!! LOL

[DizzyDesii]

I dont talk to that man

[DaveJord]

At least tell me he is handsome! ;)

[DizzyDesii]

I mean i dont know how to answer that since i look like the female version of him 🤣 We have the exact same smile and face, just different skintones and he has facial hair 🤣

[coachTanthony]

There are just some people I run into and something comes over me... can't really explain it. Has nothing to really do with opposites.

[DizzyDesii]

But do they turn out to be a majority opposite of yourself?

[coachTanthony]

Yeah sometimes which just goes to show those chemicals you feel for someone doesn’t always sway you in the right direction

[Finchie40]

In a sense we are all opposite , we all come from different paths in life , we all experienced things differently from other’s , it’s very rare to find someone that experienced things exactly the way we have , but when we do meet someone that has very similar experiences we tend to feel more at ease with them because we feel that someone actually might understand us , and the shit we went through. When I meet a girl that had very similar experiences like I did , I feel a better connection and chemistry with her cuz she pretty much understands me , the same way I pretty much understand her , so yes opposites do attract but that isn’t always the best route to go, We tend to think we can accept someone completely opposite , but when push comes to shove we really can’t , that’s why I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl , every girl I rushed into a relationship with , turned to shit because we were just infatuated with each other in the beginning, without looking at the big picture on whether we really have great chemistry and connection , We tend to change ourselves to appease someone else , and that’s where most relationships go wrong, cuz we feel it’s new and exciting , You should never change yourself for anyone period cuz the reality of it is , you can’t change who you really are. When someone thinks they can change you , they are in for a rude awakening when they realize they can’t. Most girls’ I was in a relationship with has tried to change me and I would just look her in the face and laugh , cuz I’m sorry you aren’t changing me , I am who I am , take it or leave it , I am very honest when it comes to meeting a girl I have interest in, I throw it all on the table and let her know this is who I am , I am not Going to waste your time just like I don’t want you wasting mine. Just because we are attracted to each other , doesn’t mean we are going to make it for the long haul. I want a girl that accepts my flaws the same way I will accept hers. We are all imperfect people, but for love to grow between us we both have to be on the same page as things or it will not last. So after having my heart shit on by selfish girls’ I learned to not give my heart completely to a girl right away anymore and take things slow , cuz I don’t want her changing for me just like i am not going to change for her. If me having a few beers on a Friday night sitting on my patio is the worst thing ever, you aren’t the girl for me period , I want a girl that wants to sit with me on the patio after a week of work relaxing and unwinding , i want a girl that isn’t hesitate to come to my arms , I want a girl that brings happiness into my life not misery , so I am honest right from the start , if you have to hold secrets and tell little white lies to someone? then they aren’t the person for you period. Most people lie just to impress someone not realizing they are setting themselves up for disaster. Every girl that has tried to change me to appease her , I kicked to the curb , Cuz I accepted her for who she is so she needs to accept me for who I am , I never asked her to change so why does she think I am going to change for her? I have moral beliefs and I will only commit to a girl that has very similar morals as I do , I don’t want a girl that whores around that can’t be faithful and loyal , if her mission is to bring misery into my life , don’t let the door hit ya in the ass on the way out cuz I will not stand by a girl that doesn’t make me her priority like she expects me to make her mine , it needs to go both ways or we are just wasting each other’s time period , if you just want sex then be upfront and tell me you just want sex but do not fuck with my heart

[DizzyDesii]

Love this. I agree with a majority of it

[Finchie40]

They way I look at it @DizzyDesii I was perfectly fine being single and living my life before any girl came into my life , the reason I accepted her into my life was because the chemistry and connection and attraction was there , the positive energy that made me smile , my intentions was to have her smile as well and be happy and positive , treat her the same way I want to be treated but in time she becomes bored , thinks she os missing out on shit , starts blaming me for everything , comparing me to other men making me feel like I am no value to her anymore , have my heart broken for whatever reason , and left standing there thinking WTF did I do wrong to find out I did nothing wrong it was all her selfish decisions , finding excuses for her actions , to realize she just took me for granted and that’s fine and dandy , Go live your life but don’t string me along for the ride be honest , if you no longer want to be with me then be honest about it , don’t worry about hurting my feelings cuz you already did by blowing smoke up my ass the whole time and that’s what pisses me off and that’s why I no longer give my heart completely to a girl fast , most people in general do not know What the fuck they want in life , they think they want Love and romance and a partner to stand by them but the second they receive it it isn’t good enough anymore something is always missing. My intentions with any girl I hook up with is having her by my side for the long haul and sadly that’s hard to find these days because people are just straight up selfish and only do what is best for them , and that’s fine and dandy but be honest about it , don’t trick me to fall for bullshit , That’s all I ask from any girl that shows interest in me , Yes I love sex , but I only love sex with a girl that only wants to have sex with me , the same way I only want sex with her , but if she starts using sex like a bargaining agreement I’m sorry you aren’t the girl for me and I will express my feelings

[Finchie40]

Of concern and let her know how I am feeling, If things don’t change then don’t be surprised when I choose to walk away , When we first met intimacy and affection wasn’t an issue at all , we would screw like there is no tomorrow. But all of a sudden she changes her mind , so who changed? It sure as hell wasn’t me , if I started denying her sel and affection then I’d be the one that changed , so again it needs to go both ways , you can’t expect someone to do for you if you can’t do for them , So that’s why I am honest right from the start , I am who I am and I am not going to change so be honest with me or you are just wasting time. I love girls that are honest , Girl’s that lie are
Girls that need to be left on the street where they belong cuz I am not going to cheat on a girl that is honest with me period that doesn’t change on me , if she is treating me like a King she will definitely be my Queen , Sadly most girls I been with treated me like a King then turned me into a joker

[ohsheeT]

I do artwork called fo wood burning you lay out a piece of wood furniture grandfather clock picture frames whatever and you hook the power lead to one side of the wood and a negative lead to the other side of the wood opposites positive negative you turn it on and in a heartbeat you have five to 10 veins of electricity rushing towards each other Opposites attract it makes the most beautiful design but the moment they hit they create an ark they create a weld and explosion of sort I think when it comes to people when Opposites attract it's because they bring out the best in each other they don't hold each other back they're always has to be some sort of balance you can't control anybody and before you get together you already have to know who that person is their goals what they want and that is either a turn-on for you or it's not but you can't change anybody and why would you even try it if you're with that person the last thing in the world you want to do is be with them because you want to change this that makes no sense to me I've had a couple relationships like that and they wanted me to be there all the time with them it was a long distance relationship but I could not be there like that I think it could have been one of the best relationships ever but that's just not me I cannot sit still and entertain somebody it would have been a much better relationship and it would have been one on one I believe opposites do attract There's Something Beautiful about it there's something special about it but you have to know that person and know that you cannot change anybody you have to let them change on their own and that would eventually happen because of respect trust and love

[DizzyDesii]

Damn, I wish you would've used at least one period or exclamation mark.

[ohsheeT]

I know I keep asking GaG for more of them as I have used all the ones they haven given me. Shhh I used them as bread crumbs to find my way back to my page s h h

[electromagnetic]

To me, opposites don’t usually attract.
I have a very grand personality, very talkative, and exploratory. Finding someone who doesn’t have a similar personality I find a little weird.
I cannot strike up a conversation knowing my partner will not voice his opinions.

This is just the same in my circle of friends.

[DizzyDesii]

100% 🙌

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

In terms of appearance - I was never attracted to men in my country. Was always attracted to men who are totally different.

I think it has to do something with my countrymen being just 4 million and the genetic diversity is not very broad. Yeah, we have some blond blue eyed, some redheads with green eyes and some middle Eastern looking guys. My brother for example has green eyes and brown hair, I have reddish hair and black eyes, my mom has blonde hair and bluish eyes and my dad has reddish hair black eyes. I mean genetic make up is diverse. But I can tell looking at our guys that they are from my country and it never attracted me.

I always knew I would marry a foreigner. I don’t know what his hair color will be like or what his eyes will be like, but I know he’ll look different and exotic to me.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow never heard of someone not being into a whole country lmao

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I love them but they are too religious and too conservative for my taste.

[DizzyDesii]

Must be the southern states of america lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Except for it’s Eastern Europe and they are die hard Orthodox Christians haha, I’ve got nothing against it, but I feel like we are not compatible in major aspects of life.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea thats what my serbian and german ex were. But i was happy about it

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There every third guy cheats their wife with either lover or a prostitute because they think there are some things that a wife shouldn’t do, because wife is holy.

Why do I need a husband if I can’t be my unholy self with him?

[DizzyDesii]

Dang thats crazy

[Lliam]

We have to have common values and some common interests. But I also value some differences. Even though opposite views on certain things like religion, politics or social issues would cause Irreconcilable differences, I value intelligent, open-minded discussions. I learn from different points of view.

As I said, we need to have some common interests. But that doesn't mean that we have to have ALL the same interests or do everything together. We're entitled to do things on our own. And we can talk about our passions and experiences with each other without us both participating in them.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea this is the first year i really paid attention to different perspectives and the intelligence of it all turned me on. But i know deep down it would be short term satisfaction that clouds my true judgment. And yea, i dont need someone whose 100% like me. But certainly 90+ 🤣

[magiusX26]

things that canbe or are complinetary oppisites. an example being one person builds things and the other decorates those things or one runs a business but sucks at the paperwork level and the other is great with the paperwork but maybe sucks at running a business otherwise. basically creates a balance to things, yin and yang.

a more classical example is a rough basis in beauty and the beast. where belle capms his savagery. also seen with the adege of "music tames the savage beast" .

[DizzyDesii]

Now that one i can relate too because i would date construction workers but i’d be the one into the interior decor half. I dont see it as a balance thing tho. I consider it similar creative mindsets

[magiusX26]

that is just a matter of different philosophies and perspectives with the same outcome.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Yeah the old addage opposite attract isn't completely as it seems. You must have same values and certain habits. What I'd like opposite is if one of us is anxious the other is fearless, I like having different strong points as it gives variety, if one is good at a certain subject etc, likes, jobs , though certain things or business we may still do together, our main job should differ

[DizzyDesii]

Yes this would be great

[RavVid]

I think opposites attract is limited to the extrovert/introvert divide. An introvert finds it socially easier with an extrovert partner and possibly an extrovert might find it stabilizing to have an introvert partner.

Don't see any other opposites working. A thrifty with a let the good times roll? A risk taker with a OHS compliance officer?

[DizzyDesii]

I agree

[DizzyDesii]

Well then again, im shy and like shy guys because one of us becomes a little more extroverted to bring the other out of their shell. So we kinda change together if at all. I like that

[RavVid]

That is a nice side to the equation. I like it.

[Phoenix98]

I guess in some instances it's good to be with someone who's more social then me because I am not at all a social butterfly so having someone more outgoing helps me get out more amongst people and just being out in general a little bit more.

Otherwise I prefer someone different but similar to myself.

[DizzyDesii]

Yep i mentioned below that i like if we’re both shy because it pressures one of us to step up and lead. Love it

[exitseven]

I dated a girl who was the opposite of all the other girls I ever dated. I thought I would do something different for a change. She was not athletic and never went to college. She was a bartender and her whole life revolved around drinking and partying. It was fun for a while until she got too crazy. I think I just wanted to see what it would be like to be with somebody that was sort of an artist and a free spirit.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea those type would make me run

[Sirenboobzilla]

So, I used to be a sucker for a bad boy smile, muscles and style. Now I find myself attracted to a good singing voice and being made to laugh, and a dorky smile!

[DizzyDesii]

Sooo are these opposite of you or similar lol

[Sirenboobzilla]

I guess it's more similar to me. I'm definitely a dork. I'm in no way a pro but I can keep a tune. And I make people laugh when I start cursing in Czech.

[DizzyDesii]

Lol i get turned on when people start snapping in Spanish 🤣

[Sirenboobzilla]

He's Hispanic! I love it when he snaps in Spanish XD
Best part is, his entire family thinks I can't understand much. Buuuuuut, while I can't speak it, I do understand it fairly well.

[DizzyDesii]

See i can speak it bt can't understand it 🤣

[Sirenboobzilla]

One thing they hear me shout a lot is 'kurva sakra' which is Czech for GOD FUCKING DAMMIT! His grandma thinks I'm trying to say 'Curva Sagrada' which is Sacred Curb in Spanish... which makes no sense. He doesn't want to correct her cause she's a devout Catholic XD

[RobT312]

I agree, too opposite and you have nothing in common. I guess a little opposite is nice as it opens you up to new things. I guess I like opposite to the point of it complementing each other.

[DizzyDesii]

Yes i dont care to experience new stuff but a little opposite is okay if in terms of them not having the few traits i dislike about myself

[RobT312]

Hahahaaa yeah minus the bad traits

[lilyanony1]

I like men, I've dated men from different backgrounds. Their differences appealed to me. But it can also be a hindrance because they weren't so open minded

[SunnyRS]

Opposites do attract me a little as I don't talk much but I love to listen so I am attracted to people who talk more, can initiate a conversation and can deal with my silence without being bored of it.

[DizzyDesii]

I guess that part makes sense. Like i suck at listening so i like listeners buuuut he has to be a talker as well. I dont wanna be the only one holding down the convo.

[SunnyRS]

I always make sense. 😎😎
True, but with me, I need an initiator. I can carry forward the convo but not start it on my own.

[DizzyDesii]

I like to take turns initiating. I mean its the least I can do since in the end, I’ll be running shit anyways 😂

[SunnyRS]

Hey, it's good for me as long as I am only running the 100 metres in the 400 metres race of the conversation. 😅😅

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

Hmmm, I'm an introvert but I think it's interesting to date a girl who's a social butterfly. I guess you get to learn about where people with opposite views are coming from.

[DizzyDesii]

Yep i mentioned below that i like if we’re both shy because it pressures one of us to step up and lead. Love it

[Sparkie460]

I found someone that likes most of the same things that I like. I do know people that married someone who was totally opposite than how they are. I think sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't

[DizzyDesii]

I think for the most part it doesn't

[Agape93]

Sometimes. It's hard to quantify what does it for me, when and why

[DizzyDesii]

Maybe you are curious and like mystery. I don't know I don’t lmao

[Agape93]

Lol I am curious but mystery annoys me if it isn't about knowledge

[DizzyDesii]

Yea like i ain't tryna join the scooby doo mystery inc gang. Fck that

[Agape93]

Lol xD

[iron_ninjs]

They usually don't. I'm mostly attracted to a girl with similar interests and mindset.

[DizzyDesii]

Ikrr