Is It A Red Flag If They're Very Attractive And They Haven't Dated At All?

[anon1903]

while my dad was dating my mom (lmao), he asked her how many guys she's had. she told him she had an ex, and dad didn't make much of it. well, mom did come from a strict conservative family — and options for asexual women are pretty low, especially during millennials time.

anyways, why do we judge attractive people? some, including me if you'd consider attractive, just don't feel up to it. we just don't want to date period.

and guys are also surprised when you tell them you're attractive, single, in 20s and you haven't lost the v card. like, I don't know, just didn't feel like swiping? lmao.

[DaveJord]

It is to me. But I am 46 not 20 something... 90 of woman have lost their virginity by the age of 25. So the older you are and longer you go without dating or being in a relationship the more of concern it is to me as a man.

But again, you are still very young, so I would not stress over it. You get into your 30's and you are still at the same place... yeah, it's a HUGE red flag. It speaks to your level of emotional maturity and ability to relate to other people on a intimate level.

[SnowedIn]

Red flag? No.

But, depending on age, it might raise questions.

Early 20s? No questions.
Late 20s? Eyebrows raised.
30s and beyond? I might ask. Not a red flag and not to judge but at that point what is it? Religion? Career? Scared of commitment? So shy that they can't? Etc? Again, no judgement but the intersection of age and reason/s is worthy of discussion.

[petitedollbabee]

Depends on the reason, I guess. I would find it very strange if they were in their 30’s or 40’s though. Teens or 20’s isn’t a big deal.

[e232bm]

It could be yes but you never know they may just not have been ready before. It is all situational. Are there other red flags?

[Kaneki05]

Nah but it does mean they refuse to date or have no social life. As someone who is attractive would have dated before otherwise, I know this because even ugly people and people with horrible personalitys have dated someone before. So if the worst people can what's stop someone attractive apart from themselves.

[RingOfFire]

People will lay all kinds of expectations on you in life. But it is your life and you should live it the way you want to. You only get one chance at it. Don't let them make decisions for you because they have no idea what it is to be you. Only you do.

[exitseven]

I really only had one girlfriend and she was saving it for marriage. We were together for 4 years. I met somebody at a party when I was 22. She did not believe me afterwards when I told her it was my first time.

[DiegoO]

There is no real correlation between self-esteem and physical appearance, when it comes to attractivenes.

[RealMarek]

I don’t think it’s surprising for someone in his or her 20s. I wouldn’t be judgmental about it, but would want to understand the context and reasons.

[DextroShade]

It depends on the age: if she's still a virgin at up to 25 it's fine, after 25 it starts to get questionable, and after 30 there is definitely something wrong with her.

[AlinaValdez]

Honestly it really depends on how the person is.

[BlackJeep]

By 30 you should have at least a couple practice girlfriends/boyfriends to figure out what you want/need in a relationship

[Andres77]

To me, it usually means that they have exceptionally high standards

[shades777]

no, honestly who was dating during the whole covid, now people have trust issues and treat it likes its an std even though its not

[Shy_Steve]

I anything that should be a Green Flag, It would only be a Red Flag if he is fairly Confident and talks to a lot of Girls.

[DonFrank]

They are probably subconsciously asking themselves what they would I do if they looked that good. You don't act how them expect and questions pop up.

[the_sinner]

It isn’t for me. It’s their choice and I really don’t find any point in judging them based on their dating history.

[Nikki1989]

It does raise some questions.

[anon1903]

For instance?

[zagor]

No. Unless they're over 40.