Girls, How much of a red flag is it when a woman tells a guy that there are lots of other men interested in her?

[ProbablyClueless]

So, I know how men feel about this kind of thing, but I wanted to know the women's perspective on this issue.

I recently had an argument with a woman I started seeing over something something pretty small. I don't want to go into what the argument was about, but please just accept that for the purposes of this question, the issue was small.

She blew up about the issue, demanded I apologize for whatever I'd said, told me that we would be done unless I said I was sorry. She said that people in love don't say the things I said, that I don't deserve a woman like her, and that she has dozens of men who are in love with her that could replace me if I don't "admit that [I am] wrong."

Mind you, this was coming from someone that I had known for a little less than a week.

Needless to say; "ProbablyClueless Incorporated" will be pursuing other candidates for the position of "lover" at this time.

I think most people would probably agree that ending that relationship is a good idea for a lot of reasons, but I was wondering specifically about what women think of other women who tell the men they're dating about how other men are interested.

What do you think when you hear a woman say something like that to her man?

Land mine, not a red flag; RUN

Kinda sus, but it doesn't have to be a bad thing

I don't see any problem with letting men know I can replace them...

[AmandaYVR]

But this one is an entirely different situation. This girl's a narcissistic menace and she was threatening you. You kick this one, and all others like her, to the curb.

She's a different breed than the others, who are just trying not to conceal anything that would upset someone later.

One is about transparency; the other is trying to exploit and coerce a guy into behaving how she wants him to behave. And that's bullshit.

[Changiis07]

I'd basically be saying that so they know other man are interested and that if things end I would be able to move on but haven't done so because I'm giving the current guy a chance

[ProbablyClueless]

Is it the kind of thing you would say in a fight?

[Changiis07]

I wouldn't want to say that in a fight no but in the heat of the moment it could potentially come out

[Roxy0050]

I think it really depends how she says it and in what context. I personally try to downplay other mens' interest in me when in a relationship because it can make a guy feel insecure, but the topic can come up in a certain conversation. Not to show off or threaten, just because sometimes it is not easy to be an attractive women with a lot of people showing interest when you might prefer to be invisible.

For example, if I have someone being persistent with me when I have told them I am committed, I would definitely tell my partner, like, this guy who is interested in me doesn't want to take no for an answer, just to share about the frustration in my day with the man I love.

[Lauliss]

Definitely a red flag. That's very arrogant to say and she has a lot of simps waiting for you two to finish and get with her. You don't say that to your partner, no matter the gender.

[ProbablyClueless]

That's the way I heard it too. Anything along the lines of "you're lucky you have me, so shape up because you won't do better than me" is going to be met with an automatic "bye bye" from me.