Is it unattractive if a girl is too chill?

Question

Often times guys will chase after the high maintenance girls instead of chill girls. Why is that?

Definition of chill girl: low maintenance, calm, relaxed, dresses/acts casual, non bitchy. Just one of the guys type of vibe

Lynx122 · Accepted Answer

I don't think so. Maybe some guys will be fooled if a girl thinks very highly of herself they think there must be a reason. Or girls who are high maintenance are that way because they have a lot of options because they're attractive in other ways but I don't think guys will chose someone high maintenance over someone relaxed if they're equal in other ways. Well at least I wouldn't. Some guys do seem to want just a woman who relies on them for everything and is just a decoration I never really got that. But I don't think they're the majority.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I think chase high maintenance girls because those girls are easier to figure out. They are often self-confident enough to tell a guy what they want. So they provide a short cut information for guys. The chill girl is harder to figure out for guys especially when she doesn´t show a sign of appreciation for him. I would say too chilled can be unattractive because as a guy I´d assume she´s not interested and move on.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

My friends say guys don't like overly chill girls cause the chill girl is seen as having low self esteem and weaker convictions than the controlling girl. This is not always true but its how the girl is viewed if she is overly chill. I've never slept with anybody and I had guys assume I was easy just because I'm not demanding or controlling or aggressive with my friends.

SadyConfused1998 · Accepted Answer

Well I'm not going to become one of them high end bitches just to get a man He'll take me as me or he can keep on walking I don't play that shit

Pinay_ako · Answer

Nah. Chill girls are the best.

Adam1978 · Answer

Chill girls might seem uninterested and is harder to read. Is she just friendly? Guys love low maintenance but they also want someone that show interest. Ie make it easy for them to get something going, but not on the sex part that would make you a slut. He needs to work on that to feel secure when he finally get it.

ZXCwWRQWz · Answer

I loved highly educated girls but the problem with highly educated girls is that they tended to not be chill in my experience: lots of them were feminists, aggressive, didn't share my marriage values, etc. You know, a whole bunch of hyper-liberals. Hopefully everyone knows what I mean. It was very rare that I found a highly-educated woman who fascinates me with conversation topics but shares my basic values. I found her though: been married going towards towards our 14th.

Anonymous · Answer

High maintenance girls are usually very flirty as well. This is what women even "chill" ones don't want to accept or acknowledge.

Women in general are typically very lazy outside of working on thier appearance. Most women's attitude is that they have a vagina and that's good enough.😆 well men are people to. Men like attention as well. And that's why I woman with some personality even if she's actually just a B**** in disguise (cause inexperienced men are trusting with women and easily tricked) will trump a "chill" girl everytime. And besides, that "chill" girl could be a b**** as well to. She's just not trying to hide it.😆

asphaltrhymes · Answer

But not too much one of the guys, otherwise I'd be turned off by that kind of woman. I need a mixture of girly-girl plus tomboy equals 'calm woman'. I don't want chill woman or boss woman or gold-digger woman.
I'd just want, calm woman. Deliberate know letter a for 'a calm woman.'
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The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Chill girls are like a magnet. Boys love being around such girls, I can tell you. Though other girls may or may not have problems with such girls. But boys will definitely help such girls more than other girls for sure.

As for relationship, for me, no one would be better than a chill girl as I am a bit reserved.

RavVid · Answer

With Hi Maint I feel I am contributing to her. But Hi Maint can be too hard work.

Chill is good but maybe you don't feel you contribute much.

I would go for a Goldilocks Maint girl. Does need maint. Is challenging at times but consolable.

MementoMori777 · Answer

nope thats my favorite type of girl, i see myself marrying one of these chill girls a girl you can have a romantic bond and be best friends with is the type of girl every guy needs tbh

cosmosis181 · Answer

Depends on the guy's persona, honestly. Opposites attract usually. I don't do all that rah rah, look at me garbage... in an s/o or make friends. I don't talk much, but when I do, it's intense and non negotiable... so rah rah people just annoy me and waste time. I know several guys... decent ones... who appreciate time around females who aren't trying to be social media look at me models.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

If that's the definition of "too chill" you spelled "wifey material" wrong.

PragmaticProfit · Answer

No, chill is great. Ultimately men want a low drama woman who can help assist them in their mission in life. Highly disagreeable women are a pain in the ass and serve to be a distraction to men who want to conquer and succeed.

BrickBiggems · Answer

No, it is not unattractive. What is unattractive is a high maintenance, controlling, person who perpetually causes drama and stress. I'll take the girl who is independent, laid back and emotionally stable.

exitseven · Answer

I mostly dated the laid back type. My ex girlfriend was sort of a tomboy. The first date I had with my wife was when I took her fishing in my boat. I asked her if she wanted me to bit her hook and she said she could bait her own hook.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nah that's a good thing mostly. Though some girls are like that because they hate women, and that can cause problems if you have female friends. Because you've just met the type who's going to make arguments out of nowhere and be jealous every time you even just work with a girl.

When a girl say's "I am just like one of the guys, I never got on with woman." it can be fine but it can also be a major red flag.

Sanser · Answer

How do you think that? I think that the girl you described is perfect to hang out! I think you are doing a drama here lol. Obviously a energetic person is atractive but a chill girl sounds kinda a safe space and a person very desirable!

Anpu23 · Answer

Nah, it's fine. As long as she can dress up when appropriate.

Billlewis · Answer

As long as she's sufficiently demanding and likes to tease me relentlessly without letting me have any penetrative sex with her, everything else is negotiable.

Lliam · Answer

Based on your definition, I like chill girls, as long as they look feminine, like being female, are heterosexual, enjoy sex, and have feminine mannerisms.

matchrestore · Answer

Not at all- I've always been way more attracted to chill girls, I married one, and I'm friends with a bunch. High maintenance just doesn't look good to me... I don't see the alure of it all.

mommymommymommy · Answer

Yeah. It means she has no passion. men want to see that she's passionate about something. Chill people tend to be boring

Guardian45 · Answer

Not at all, they're just REALLY HARD to find. Otherwise, I would have married one!

Shamalien · Answer

Wtf is a chill girl and where are they 😂

High maintenance women are often good looking, so men will put up with the bullshit. Most men, any amount of bullshit (which they should not). Ofc there are very sweet high maintenance women as well who give as much as they take, and there’s nothing wrong with that in my opinion

shades777 · Answer

don't think there's a such thing as too chill, your either chill or your not

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I like a girl with a great personality and a girl who loves to smile and has lots of humor

pierre7i · Answer

Not at all, it's quite the opposite actually -- a chill girl is especially attractive !

MicroJ · Answer

Personally, I prefer a girl who is chill. In my experience they tend to be more down to earth, and more fun to be around.

Drewtate · Answer

Depends largely on how attractive the girl is.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

You kinda answered your own question with "one of the guys". I like my guy friends but wouldn't want to date them, same with a chick who's one of the guys.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Almost sounds Giga Chad and that’s always a good thing. Filthy Casuals can spend their time getting some spiritual education.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a good vibe so long as it doesn't devolve into being sloppy.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I would imagine the guys would prefer the lower maintenance girls but I am guessing they chase after the higher ones because it is easier to tell if they are into them.

Anonymous · Answer

I want apple juice i didn't had from last 2 days 😭😭😭

ericclayton · Answer

The younger generations of men and women tend toward the "exciting" types. As you get older, you prefer stability.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Chill is generally a desirable quality. Being high strung isn't any good.

Kelly6 · Answer

It’s more attractive because that kind of girls are rare

Meropatrick · Answer

High maintenance girl put effort to Look perfect. People like perfect looking people

Nahid1707 · Answer

No way, this is good  You’re a good drama free mom  Why wouldn’t a guy like that? It’s a great personality trait

jshm2 · Answer

Because she is either lazy, stoned or apathetic. But thinks herself quirky and "chill". Tend to be a waste of fucking time, tbh.

convo_king89 · Answer

I like chill girls. The kind of girls that don’t wear thongs.

Juxtapose · Answer

No, quite the opposite. I don't like too much drama.

Christoff92 · Answer

It don't really bother me. Then that tells me that she's also very courteous 😌

Sparkie460 · Answer

Another phrase describing " chill" Is down to earth. That's my favorite type of woman

Anonymous · Answer

Usually if a Girl is Chill it means She is not showing interest in us so we go after the other Girls that do show interest, But Not every Guys does that, You Girls keep forgetting about Shy Guys.

They don't chase after any Girl because they are Shy odviously, You Girls keep forgetting about them and ignoring them.

No wonder why you Girls keep ending up with the Jerks.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

I rather the chill down to earth girl. Love a girl chill on the couch in pj's, or short n t shirt, or better yet panties n tang top. Drinking and watching movies as we cuddle, or playing Xbox of she into it.

dragoblack · Answer

Would rather have a chill girl than a moody one that causes drama for entertainment

NYlatefun · Answer

Not at all! I love chill girls, it’s so cool!

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Best kind of women at least for me. I don't like trouble and drama at all.

Cb142 · Answer

no tbh its most when one thinks she's too good to talk to others

Jerre · Answer

No, it is not. I enjoy being with “chill” girls.

SnowedIn · Answer

Not one bit unattractive. Please... no drama! Lol

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No if your attractive then you're attractive high maintenance or not

Danisgivingit · Answer

I love chill. Every once in a while I want her to really go all out though. Nice to know she would do both for me

Anonymous · Answer

By their fruits you'll know them. What do the actions of guys tell you.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

The chiller the better as far as I'm concerned.

BLP11520 · Answer

I wouldn’t think so

Mansearching · Answer

Nope. Not at all.

Grond21 · Answer

They are sought by more high strung guys

bananathunder · Answer

no... that's sexy af in my opinion

nawtee_me · Answer

not at all, chill baby chill...

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

They're exactly the ideal girl

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