Light casual conversation with some humor, not too pushy or demanding or actually to set the stage let me tell you how being approached looks to us. At least to me.
For you, you prob. see a girl you think looks good and you want to date her.
For me though, what happens is that I am doing whatever else, for example chatting with a girlfriend or reading, or playing Candy Crush on my phone or whatever it might be, and a stranger walks up and starts talking to me. So put yourself in that situation and I think a lot of the details will make more sense.
Is this guy physically dangerous? Is he a scammer? Is he somebody I should know but I forgot and I am going to accidentally offend by not knowing his name? Those are the first things that go through my mind in these situations.
So step one should be to put me (her) at ease, seem nice and non-dangerous, let me know who you are and some general idea of what is going on, it doesn't need to be detailed just some context of what is happening. After that my request would be, if I don't seem to want to talk, don't push it too much, remember I did not walk up to you, I may not feel like talking, for example I might be expecting somebody to walk in the door to meet me at any moment or I might be trying to read this chapter before my lunch break ends or whatever. Although this is an art and not a science I will admit there have been situations where a guy persisted more than I wanted at that time and I ended up dating him so I can't give a crystal clear rule to follow here, I would say just don't push it if she tries to end the conversation repeatedly or looks unhappy.
JMO I hope this helps a little!
Approach me in a public place but while neither of our friends/fams are around. They egg shit on and make it awkward. Use a corny pickup line relating to our current setting or an item that I’m holding. If I smile/laugh/make a comeback, its possibly a greenlight for you to ask for my number or a way to keep in touch and get to know one another better. Do not ask me to go out on a date the same day you ask for my number. If I turn you down, just say “I understand” and move on to the next fish in the sea
Just fucking walk up to me and say “ur really pretty” my response: thank you. “I am interested in getting to know u better, would u maybe want to hang out sometime” me: yea sure, *pulls out phone* what is ur number? “ it is 732-123-183”
k its that simple.
You need to tell me who you are. Not in the literal sense. I need to get a feel of who you are. I am not giving my number away to some mystery person.
You have a few minutes. Maybe we're on a train. 30 minutes. An hour. You have a limited amount of time to show me who you are. Goodluck.
Something funny and light-hearted that reference something happening in our vicinity we can both look at so we can both relate to the topic of conversation as it's happening is the perfect thing to start with.
Then just try to keep up the conversation a bit, don't be strange, nervous or 'threatening' and just be yourself.
When you feel it's time - ask them to hang out 'this weekend' or whenever it suites the both of you and exchange numbers then.
Straight to phone number is kinda dumb. You're starting things out too superficially. At least start a conversation and then we have some kind of a hint about you first before we decide to give it to you or not.
Personally, I’d want him to be straight up and ask for my number. I’m a straight up person so I’d want him to be straight up as well. 😌
Any girl who gives a number out without getting to know the guy first is asking for trouble. Likewise if you see me in the street you know zero about me and I'll assume your not really bothered who you date.
Just approach and talk to me. Don't ask for my number because I will never give it to you. I will give out other ways to contact me through.
A funny one liner followed by a nice conversation and then maybe ask for my phone number.
Don’t approach me. I like to be single. I like my solitude doing my own thing without a man dragging me down. Leave me be and I’ll be sure to give off that vibe that wields him out to stay away.
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