HI! I'm a 20-year-old guy, I'm studying cinema and for this reason my parents often reproach me for my choices ("Couldn't you have chosen a serious university?" or "Couldn't you have been interested in medicine or physics?"). This already makes me feel bad. I have interests in art, cinema in particular... but I know perfectly well that I will hardly have a future in this area, because few do.
I work in a nightclub. Basically, discos have always intimidated me and I've never been comfortable with them. However, I decided to look for a job in a nightclub to deal with this feeling of unease. Now, I suffer less from the environment, but I can hardly speak because I have a stutter and loud music only makes it worse. I wanted to look for a job as a waiter in a normal (less noisy) place. In August I go to work in a club.
Regarding girls, absolute zero. I don't think I'm too bad, I'm tall (about 188) and I keep very fit. I don't think I'm ugly (sure... I'm losing a lot of hair though). Girls don't figure me out, except the ones I'm friends with (who often talk about the "cool guy in class" or the "cool guy they're hooking up with"). In short, I hardly ever see girls interested in me, and I often have very low self-esteem.
Perhaps this was also caused by a childhood friend of mine, who was (and is) very handsome. We often went on vacation together or went out on our own business, and every time there were girls who turned around and asked for his number. He then got engaged to a girl and stopped calculating me. He was one of the very few friends I had.
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I think the most important thing to remember is that you aren't really interested in most of the girls out there, sure some of them look nice but you wouldn't want to talk to them even if you weren't getting in your own way like you are.
Even amoungest the ones you could like you are obviously looking for one who likes you too, otherwise whats the point, so you should never view it as a problem or a bad thing if nothing ever happens with those people, right?
These are not the droids you are looking for.
Women are like credit cards, you can only have one if you don't need one, so stop caring about the outcome.
It is definitely a numbers game, it should be obvious but the more people you are able to interact with the better the chances of finding one that you like and who likes you back so anything you can do to increase the amount of dice you get to roll is likely to be a good thing.
The best thing you can ever do is invest in yourself, just develop yourself all the time, persue your interests, try to be self aware and do what you can to grow and learn and it really is true when 'they' say that no one else can love you until you love yourself so try to be a positive, loving and supportive inner voice to yourself on your journey.
Just flirt but don't expect.. if u get a chance try to humble them... like being mean sometimes only..😁
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