What do you think about girls who date only rich guys?

[Darine123]

I’m Asian who will date only rich men who’s white , black or mixed. And people think I’m a gold digger. When a man chose a girl, he will chose the beautiful one so why can’t I chose a rich one when I have choices?

[Anonymous]

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[scarletyes]

I think it's great, good for them. They get a comfortable life and a man of high value (in that sense) who provides for them.

Men only date beautiful, young women, so why can't beautiful, young women choose to only date rich men?

However, your value will drop after some time. What men value in you is your beauty and age, but once you hit 30 you will be invisble to them. And if they are assholes they will go and leave you for a younger, more beautiful woman. This is not me being a hater, this is just what I've observed and seen most men say. It's the unfortunate truth for us women.

So if you're going to date a rich man find a good one. Find one that will stay with you and be loyal to you AND love you even when you're old and unattractive. Don't waste your youth, beauty, purity and time to someone that will leave you once he has gotten all those things.

Also, bring more to the table than just your looks and age. Find a rich man that is suitable to be a husband. Become a woman that's suitable for being a wife. You're already gifted with natural beauty, great! Now work on other things. Learn how to be a good mom, learn how to cook, clean, learn how to be supportive of your husband, learn how to please him and comfort him, learn how to be kind and feminine, learn how to be a good wife other than looks, because looks fade. If you're with a man that's only after your looks and age, why would he stay with you once those things are gone?

Personally I don't have high standards for how rich a guy is. I shouldn't have such high standards since I am not a prize myself. I am young, but that is probably the only desireable feature I have. I am almost 16 but look like I am almost 36. I have a very ugly face, like a huge nose, small eyes, male like forehead, bad facial structure, a long midface, small underdeveloped jaw, crooked teeth, small lips, my voice is deep, loud and annoying. I am not beautiful, so I don't except to get a rich, beautiful man.

The only standards I have for a man is that he is a traditional roman catholic like me, that he has the same values and plans for the future as me (having a family together) and that we are compatible personality wise. I also hope that he is attracted to me physically and only have eyes for me, even though I know that is probably impossible considering how ugly I am and that I will only get uglier as time passes by.

He can be shorter than me, much older, poor, ugly, heck I don't care. As long as he's loyal, finds me attractive, has the same religion as me and that we are compatible I will gladly consider myself the luckiest woman alive.

Unfortunately for me no one has ever has a crush on me. I will probably end up as an ugly, depressed and lonely cat lady.

Use your beauty, youth and qualities wisely!

[BasedBaeBecca]

Dating should be about finding someone who you connect with and can build a meaningful relationship with, not just about their wealth or status.

It's acceptable to have preferences and standards when it comes to the people you date, but limiting your potential partners to only those who have a certain amount of money or specific ethnicities could be considered superficial and could come across as shallow.

While some may find it acceptable or understandable to date for money and assets, others may view it as "gold digging" or manipulative.

[MrOracle]

You are allowed to date only rich guys. But you should keep something in mind: young, innocent, pretty women are more common than rich men, and time works for them and against you. - they get richer and more desirable as they age, but it's your youth and innocence that makes you valuable to them. Your value on the dating market is peaking now, so for the best long-term results, you should be looking to marry one of those rich guys while you can.

Five years from now, if you are still single, they will still bang you, and some might casually date you, but they won't commit to you. And 10 years from now, you will be invisible to those men, except perhaps for casual sex/one night stands.

That might sound brutal, but competition is fierce at the top of the market, and new girls turn 20 every day, and will out-compete you if they can.

[scarletyes]

Is a woman that less valuable at 25? Aren't women still in their prime and most fertile from early twenties to mid twenties? My mom looked the absolute best in her mid twenties, my grandmothers, my moms friends, all women I know and see on the internet look best in their mid twenties.

[MrOracle]

Statistically, and of course this is an average across millions of women, but a woman's social market value peaks at 22. And it's not just about looks - men value women with less experience (because men would like to share some of her first experiences - if she's already traveled everywhere, eaten in every restaurant, and shared every experience with other men, she is less valuable to men looking for a serious relationship), less trauma, less baggage (emotional and otherwise), and certainly a lower body count.

Time works against all of those factors for obvious reasons, and no degree, career, income, or anything else can compensate, because those aren't what men value in a relationship partner.

This isn't anything new - it's how it's always been. What has changed is that Feminism has taught women not to care what men want, because they don't want women and men together. They want women to be reliant on the government, not a husband, for safety and security. That makes them much easier to manipulate.

[marrk]

You had me until your last statement. Wouldn’t that mean men have always been easily manipulated by the government? 🤣 or if you disagree, you have to at least admit that saying now that, due to your logic of the government not wanting men and women to be together and that making women more easily manipulated, it stands to reason men are ALSO now more easily manipulated. 🤡

Don’t get me started on safety and security when Enith was getting beat up by her husband and couldn’t get a loan to leave her husband and start a new life, because only men could have loans and could stop their wives from drawing from their account.

[MrOracle]

Don't get me started on the rare exception as the rule - the VAST MAJORITY of married women were happily married. I'm not saying that it was a fairy tale - that's not reality - but abusive relationships were the exception, not the rule, despite Feminism falsely exaggerating how often this happened.

And, yes, being single does make a percentage of men more easily manipulated, by the government and otherwise, but not nearly to the degree that women are. Without a man of their own, women are utterly dependant on the government, and then look what happens when the government withdraws that protection - have you seen west coast cities like Seattle, Portland, San Francisco, and Los Angeles? Those cities are no longer safe, especially for women. And so they vote the government even more power, so everyone can be abused further.

[marrk]

Please provide proof that they were happily married as well as about your second paragraph as I’ve not heard of this.

Here is my research. I took the liberty of pulling quotes for anyone reading this thread, but of course it would be wonderful if anyone read the articles I linked :)

theconversation.com/you-couldnt-leave-your-husband-it-wasnt-done-the-story-of-the-women-behind-the-first-domestic-violence-refuges-160895
In the UK of the 1950s and 1960s, women facing abuse in their own homes were trapped. There were almost no domestic violence services, no specialist laws, no counselling and few housing options. There were no refuges at all. And people didn’t talk openly about it (just as Edna had not).
So there was virtually nothing to help women experiencing violence, little public recognition that such violence happened and almost no assistance from the police who, if called to a “domestic”, tended to regard a man’s home as most certainly his castle.

www.pbs.org/.../
It was no longer acceptable for a woman to shut her husband out of the bedroom.

www.forbes.com/.../
Technically, women won the right to open a bank account in the 1960s, but many banks still refused to let women do so without a signature from their husbands. This meant men still held control over women’s access to banking services, and unmarried women were often refused service by financial institutions.

Married women in the 1800s had no right to their money, land or bodies. This was due to a legal practice called coverture, which stemmed from the country’s colonial heritage. Under coverture, a woman’s property and legal existence transferred to her husband upon marriage. Married women were also considered property of their husbands under the law of coverture. This meant they could not seek gainful employment or manage their assets independently.

[marrk]

www.betterhelp.com/.../
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence reports that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been the survivors of violence from an intimate partner in their lifetime.

However, it was not until the 1970s that there was any real progress. During this decade, the United States saw the opening of the first domestic violence shelter in New York City, and more countries and provinces were developing laws or fines for domestic violence (though the consequences were often minimal).

time.com/3426225/domestic-violence-therapy/
The study, which was published in the Archives of General Psychiatry, looked at 37 cases of assault between couples in Massachusetts courts and found a common trend: “though reasonably hard-working and outwardly respectable, [the husbands] were in reality ‘shy, sexually, ineffectual mother’s boys.’ The wives also fitted a pattern—’aggressive, efficient, masculine and sexually frigid.'”
Perhaps we shouldn’t be surprised that 1960s scientists subscribed to such rigid gender norms wherein shy men were “mama’s boys” and bold women were “frigid.” But the science behind alcohol causing a role reversal in every couple, which was another element of the study, is questionable at best: “Usually the wife was boss, and her weak-willed husband was content to play the subservient role — until he had a few drinks. Then ‘role alternation’ would take place, and the husband would insist belligerently upon his conjugal rights.” (By “insisting on conjugal rights” the writer does probably mean rape.)
What’s most shocking is that doctors believed that a man beating his wife under these circumstances was actually a good thing. They called it “violent, temporary therapy”

[MrOracle]

You understand that this survey counts ANY type of violence in ANY relationship - including being grabbed or pushed away, even once, and does not take into account that person's own behavior at the time. It's exactly the kind of heavily biased surveys that activist groups use to manipulate people.

Let's have a survey that actually APPLIES here: how many women have experienced significant violence FROM THEIR HUSBANDS in their marriage? Certainly it won't be zero, but it's not going to be a number that motivates people to write big checks or go out and protest. Your survey doesn't separate HUSBANDS from some bad boy that a woman might have dated briefly at some point, and that is intentional. Feminists are actively against marriage or even relationships between men and women.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are allowed to date only rich guys. It is your right.

Girls who date only rich guys are called "gold diggers."

[Avicenna]

It's your life, date whoever you want. That said, you have a relatively limited window in which to do this before you're competing against younger women with a lower body count.

[Alli39]

I mean, mild judgement because, frankly, it sounds like you're not really dating for the right reasons. You're interested in his money, but (unless he's also dating for the wrong reasons) he's interested in you, ya know? Like, being rich does make him a better person or a better partner. So on one hand, you do you, but on the other, it's pretty unkind to the other person if they're thinking you actually like them as a person and are making emotional commitments, but you're just using them to buy you things. If you want to be a sugar baby then you should probably make sure the person knows they're a sugar daddy at the very least.

[Darine123]

Well, when I said I’m dating rich mean I date them like a guys who’s not rich and never ask them for things. They would buy me and take me to trips without me asking cuz they rich and can afford it

[Mallic00]

Yeah you're literally just a sugar baby...

[Alli39]

So it's fine as long as you never ask? That doesn't change the fact that you're valuing these men for their money and the material things they provide rather than for who they are. If they're serious about you emotionally, this would be really hard on them to find out unless you're being clear about why you're with them.

[Mallic00]

Know what? Why don't we just leave her be? People like this seems to only ever learn the hard way.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think that’s a lost game for them.

You’re basically trading your beauty and youth for his money.

Your beauty and youth are the assets that aren’t permanent,

his money can be traded with new beauty and youth, once yours is no longer interesting for him.

You will be left with a broken heart and an inability to take care of yourself. Because you were used to being taken care of in return of your beauty.

Now, instead I suggest you build your own wealth and decide to marry a man because you love him.

[RavVid]

In mate selection we are obviously going to pick the superior partner. So I have no inherent objection to a guy picking the most beautiful girl he can get or a girl picking the richest guy she can get.

BUT is a highly desirable trait the only desirable trait to shoot for? Every guy knows that breasts sag over time. An extremely beautiful & charming woman can easily cheat because they get options. A very wealthy man can easily cheat also for the same reason.

So I would counsel there are a set of traits you need and not just one, no matter how abundantly they have that key trait.

[_piotr]

I think it is normal for girls.

Before romanticism movement, wealth was an important factor in classical marriage the same as social class/aristocratic titles.

I however wish to add a few thoughts:

• Money is hard to earn. Women have their looks for free from birth.
• Looks is an integral part of the person, money can be separated from a person.
• Money dwindle when used, looks is infinite until it eventually fades in very late age and even then not always completely.

It may depend on person, but for me going for looks is not equal to going for money. I would be overjoyed if my spouse loved my look, but I would be unhappy if I learnt she is only with me for money.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You are a gold digger.

Its ok to choose based on looks and personality, but not income.

You don't have "choices", no one wants a gold digger, especially a guy who has a lot of money.

Why should I marry a woman who's with me for my income? When I could have one who I'm mentally compatible with, and pays her own bills, and isn't going to divorce me to get half my money or property?

No gold digger is worth being with, they have zero dating value to any guy wanting a longterm relationship.

[Friendlybro79]

I think you by your own description defined what a gold digger is.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I'd say it's fair that most people want a physical attraction to a certain degree in any relationship.

So a mean choosing to be with someone beautiful is not a fair comparison because we all look for mates we're attracted to ( most of the times). That isn't 100% of the reason you are with them hopefully.

Is money the only thing you care about? Also, no one is saying you can't try to only date rich men.

[Pyrofox]

If you want a rich man then you better have to boot the skills to be a mother if thats what they are looking for then in a woman that will eventually be the wife or mother to their kids. And be aware what men value and what women value are TWO separate entire categories.

[Darine123]

I know what I offer, that’s why I wouldn’t rate men lower then me

[Mallic00]

Because people think that you ONLY love the money, meaning you've probably never done an honest days work in your life, are completely incompetent by your self, and will ditch the poor bastard if he ever goes broke.

You're only as faithful as the amount of money someone has AND you're also probably the type that would "Offer" to get back together with the same people you dumped if they ever got their money back.

I would like to think you would understand how disgusting this mentality is, but that's probably hoping for too much.

[Darine123]

Well, I have my own money and job. I choose to date rich men cuz their mentality is better than you. And that’s doesn’t mean he gave me bunch of money when I date them !!

[Mallic00]

Then why specifically rich girls? If you're not just a glorified sugar baby, then what does a rich dude offer you? Or are you just the type that loves to flaunt status or something?

[Darine123]

Cuz I want someone who can provide in my future. Guess what? Rich guys never complain when they want to spoil their girls but broke men like you have a problem cuz u can’t afford a girl

[Mallic00]

That's an interesting way of saying "I'm lazy and I want someone who can baby me like a child so I can spend my days being a stay at home housewife"

If that's what you want fine. But drop the high and mighty act and acting like you're somehow superior for being a glorified prostitute.

Actually no I take that back sex workers are far more deserving of respect then the likes of you.

[Darine123]

Did you read what I wrote on my post? I think your brain can’t proceed what I wrote there. I have my own job. I choose to date rich men because I want a guys who can take care of me and my family in the future. I wouldn’t date a homeless. I’m sure you wouldn’t date a girls who weighs 400IBs. Guess what more? Rich men they never complain about spoiled their girls cuz they aren’t broke like you. B

[Mallic00]

Look only get your foot in the door. If the only thing you judge someone by is how much money they make, you are going to find yourself in a very very sorry state down the line.

Might not be today, might not be tomorrow, might not even be 10 years from now but someday, you will realize just how shallow and short sighted it is to obsess over money

[Mallic00]

My guess is when you hit your 30s and suddenly no rich dude is gonna wanna waste money on a crusty old hag.

[Darine123]

Yes, but I’m sure looks can give girls more opportunities. It’s not about how much money. It’s I choose to be with a guy who’s successful and ready to take care of a family. I wouldn’t want a husband that would make me 50/50 on small apartment. This is point of view I hear from broke guy like you

[Darine123]

Well, I’m dating to get married n I’m not going to wait till 30 lol. You so funny. Broke ass men opinion

[Mallic00]

Oh save it. This isn't about a family, you just want someone who earns enough that you don't have to work. You're just lazy stop trying to deny it

[Mallic00]

Then you best get to spreading them legs

[Darine123]

Yes , I’m spreading it for sure for a guy who deserve it. It’s about future family. You broke? Hahahaha. Rich guys they never complain about giving me anything. And it’s same as I date normal guys just me and him can do more things than broke men. I bet you ugly asf that girls don’t wanna f w you

[Mallic00]

Tell me this if the guy suddenly lost his fortune due to bankruptcy, bad investments or just poor business decisions and there was little chance they could rebuild would you stay with them?

[Darine123]

Yes, I would. And my ex also go through that shit and my family helped him out. Tell me would you date 400IBS girls?

[Mallic00]

... do I have the option to encourage her to get in shape?

[Darine123]

Just date her , just imagine you swipe on tinder and see her 400IBs in pictures. I bet you would swipe left on her lol. A beauty is a girl’s property and money and success is a man property. It’s reality that you can see.

[Mallic00]

That is such a shallow way of thinking.
By that logic that means I can be as abusive as I want as long as I have money right?

Seriously I see that same shit from girls who are like "Why are you choosing that ugly bitch over me? I'm so much prettier than her!" As if their pride was hurt because someone chose a less conventionally attractive woman over them.

Look if you genuinely only date rich dudes because you view it as a way to secure your future? Fine. But my advice is don't make someone's finances the only factor, lest you find yourself stuck with a real creep.

Sometimes no amount of money is worth it.

[Darine123]

You talking nonsense right now, I never said I dated them only cuz how much money they have. But I wouldn’t want to be with a homeless. If I only date rich guys , that’s my preference. Just like you have a type of girls you go to. And not all rich guys I want to be with. I met a lot who are a lot nicer than yourself. You don’t need to put your opinion on my post if it ain’t helping anything. And I got an answer now that you wouldn’t date 400 Lbs girls lol, just like I won’t date homeless. Look like you can’t get a girls too. Ugly guy probably you are

[Mallic00]

You're from Thailand right? You know better than I do that a few thousand dollars and a trip to Pattaya can solve that problem real quick.

Of course if you have relatives living there that would probably explain your train of thought.

[Darine123]

I’m not from Thailand? And please don’t dig into my personal life. I’m born into a family that already has money. And I want guy who’s same level as me. You’re so broke that’s why you keep fighting over sth like this

[Mallic00]

Ah that explains it. A spoiled rich girl. No wonder you seem so useless. Yeah I'm done wasting time on you.

[lightbulb27]

it's their choice whom to date and probably helps eliminate a variety of problems. but it's one shallow attribute, there's others more important.

I wonder what you think of men that do "financial makeup" to deceive women into thinking they are wealtheir than they are... they are just making themselves up.

id rather choose based upon character. the money and looks can come and go. Even a less skilled and wealthy girl could be a winner... with character.

[Daniela1982]

I think they are called Gold Diggers. Heidi Klume didn't marry her husband because of his looks you know. Seems like a bunch of sports figures also have trophy wives. Money attracts Gold Diggers like flies are to shit. Love has nothing to do with it. It's security and lots of money if they get divorced.

[Julie_TS]

@Daniela1982 Kidding, yeah? You do realize that HK is worth more than all three of her husbands combined.

[Daniela1982]

@Julie_TS See! The more money the merrier.

[richardcory]

Date who you want, but for your sake be sure you know what you are trading. If they are providing money, what are you providing. As you get older, their wealth is likely to increase, if you are trading on your beauty, that is likely to decrease.

[Jonnyanalog]

If a guy rich guy pays you to go to a party with him, out to dinner, or a whole host of other social events that’s not a date, sweetheart. That’s an called an escort. And judging by your tasteless, simple-minded replies, you come across as uneducated and low class.

[RealMarek]

Go for it, but please be honest with the rich men that being rich is a standard they must deliver for you. Money comes and goes, and they should have the chance to make an honest, informed decision with full knowledge about your criteria and intentions.

[EmmaMary]

It's women like you that give the rest of us a very bad name... Thank you so much Ms. Gold Digger.

[Darine123]

I said dating rich guys!! Mean I want someone who could go far as much as me? Would you date with a homeless girl?

[hellorambo]

@Darine123, yes, yes I would if I find myself in that situation, I’d also help her find a job or pay for her education to get a well paid job. But I also wouldn’t mind dating a wealthy woman if it some how happened (of course I’d still work my ass off). I Don’t really care about their financial situation, as long as they aren’t materialistic and try to make my wallet float I’m fine with almost anyone.

[Berethor]

Why don't you admit that you gold digger? because beauty is part of body, money is not.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Gold_Digger

[Darine123]

So would you date an ugly female, that fat or look really really bad?

[Berethor]

Not sure, but you the one who would date someone ugly for money, not me.

[Darine123]

I never dated ugly rich guy, I dated the one in their 30s and still looking good 😂. I can see from your pictures that u broke

[Pixiebih]

Go for it it, but you better keep your good looks and be okay with being cheated on. From my experience most rich guys will also go for rich girls. The ones that don’t go for rich girls usually end up cheated on their poor girlfriend because they know they can just hop in the next girl that’s only looking for a guy that’s rich.

[DextroShade]

You had best hope you qualify for a relationship with these men because otherwise they will just use you for sex and return you to the streets. Also wealthier men are much more likely to cheat on you than average men so you had best be prepared to accept that as well.

[rigmarole]

They are cum dumpsters that are easily manipulated by future promises of monetary gain. Just wave a few carrots in front of their face, use them, and then throw them away without ever giving them a cent.