Do you agree that trying to make a good impression on women on the first date is a waste of time?

[Anonymous]

Women will bang chad in a rusty broke, down apartment with him just typing "wanna fuck". Meanwhile, if you try to impress or make a girl feel special, it doesn't improve your chances in being with her and you just end up getting used and bled dry.

"Girls want to be treated special brah, so I'm gonna take her to these fancy ass spots and spoil her, I've got the entire day planned"

Yes

No

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Girls want to be treated special brah, so I'm gonna take her to these fancy ass spots and spoil her, I've got the entire day planned"

Don't do any of that.

Be yourself, unless you're a jackass, then be the you that you were before you became a jackass.

Have a shared hobby? Do that together instead.
Don't have a shared hobby? Call off the date.

Don't spend money going out without her chipping in half.

Don't fuck her till she says yes to a ring on her finger.
Don't ask to marry her unless you feel like she's "you" but in a female body.

Any other plan and you're a loser.

[J_a_m_e_s_X_X]

Because every new date is a chance to be the person you'd like to be but not necessarily who you are.
All too often people present a masked version of themselves, which dissolves the moment they are out of the 'honeymoon' phase and in a relationship.

This is why so many relationships don't work out. Because in all the first interactions, people should be exchanging their hopes, dreams, fears, boundaries, and future plans. And sussing out whether or not they could work out together. Instead, they are putting on a front and acting like the 'best' version of themselves which ultimately is not sustainable.

If this is a pattern you recognise, try being brutally honest about yourself, who you really are, and what you really want. Instead of who you 'should' be and what you 'should' want. It may well turn off potential partners, but you won't be wasting their time, and your own.

[J_a_m_e_s_X_X]

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[HelpfulWoman]

we get it, you were unloved as both child and adult. But stop.

[Billlewis]

It is never a waste of time to try to make a good impression on a woman.

[Asker]

yes it is. You should know this after 3 divorces.