Why is he always jealous of other guys being around me (please read)?

[Anonymous]

This guy who i've dated is always jealous when another guy is near me. He also asked if my friend that I hung out with was a guy or girl, and he would ask me who a guy walking near me is (even though I don't know him). He would text me every few days asking how i'm doing. For some reason he always ends up texting me again. I know we always go to his place, we eat and watch movie but we end up having sex. We went out to eat before and he wanted to take me to the mmovies but I didn't feel like it. He said he loved me once before dropping me home. He also always pays for food only once awhile I will. He also holds my hand when he's driving and tells me he only has me

[RespectfulGuy]

For sure he fears losing you.

At late 20s, I wonder if you and him are ready to settle down?

Perhaps suggest marriage may ease his insecurity? You may see how he reacts by suggesting marriage as a possibility (it's not a proposal but you may observe his reaction.)

If he doesn't show any enthusiasm, maybe he just find you a good sex partner.

But if he's all enthusiastic, then you may have found a guy who really adores you.

To conclude, us guys have soft spot too. And maybe he's a romantic. He could really be in love with you. Hence test it out.

[Asker]

As he’s Muslim I once got insecure about him having more than one wife, I asked him and he said that “no ofcourse not I can’t even afford one how do I have four?” And I don't know if it’s a joke he said “yeah I’m gonna have you and someone else”. We dated for three months and then I broke up with him because I thought he was seeing someone else as some weekends he didn’t message me but his excuse was that he’s with family. He is close with family and cousin and he says that if he has other people why would he see me. So we broke up and then a month later I asked to be in a relationship again at first he won’t. And then he said “fine”. I said I would delete the dating app we met on and he said he wouldn’t. Then I ignored that because he probably just needed more time to trust me again. He would almost always be the one to initiate contact even if we stop talking for awhile. Once I asked him if he’s committed to me and he says that I keep blocking him. So I don’t know

[Asker]

He looked really happy though when I talked with him about marriage but I don't know if it’s just ego boost

[RespectfulGuy]

If he's religious and his family too, then it's probably real he wants to marry.

But one thing to note: he may want you to convert to Islam too. And Islam do not take it lightly (to the threat of death) to anyone trying to leave the religion.

This means if you happen to divorce, you may not return to you current religion.

And yes, polygamy is allowed in Islam. If money is what he considers, then he may have 3 more wives if he becomes a millionaire or billionaire.

And prenatuial agreement may not be accepted in Syariah Courts.

All in all, he could be really in love with you. But if you're required to change religion, then you must know it's a one way street with serious consequences should the marriage fails.

[Asker]

So we stopped talking because I told him to stop talking to me or ill call the cops. I dont know if I should talk to him again. I love him but there's so many mixed signals.

[RespectfulGuy]

Legally, you're entitled to the rights to be left alone.

Hence whatever decision you made is to be respected.

My view: better clean cut if you're not interested (or cannot commit) than to lead him on.

Hence, block him on all social media and not talk to him again. Don't even give him the slightest hope that you may change your mind. (That's the best kindness you can give him.)

[RespectfulGuy]

This is news today, over here:

www.msn.com/.../ar-AA1hFLb6

[Asker]

I love him and want to be with him but I feel like he doesn't want to commit

[kylee2437]

Sounds like a toxic situationship/relationship dynamic. You like him because he does things for you meanwhile his personality is not good for your mental health

[Anonymous]

Sadly, many men are insecure.