Should I give a guy a chance if I am not his dream girl?

[Anonymous]

He has a crush on me but I found out that his dream girls and his former crushes (he was obsessed with) were all tall skinny blondes while I am a short Asian girl.

I think he thinks I don’t like him because I ignored his obvious stares and now suddenly stopped. I hesitate to approach him because Im afraid that I’ll not be good enough and always Second best to him while he to me is the most handsome man I’ve seen and totally my type.

I also know that he doesn’t have much relationship experience and since I am also so different from his dream girl type I am afraid that he sees me as an experiment or a stepping stone to better women. What do you think and what should I do?

Give him a chance

Don’t give him a chance

Depends

[NamerOfStars]

Are you, objectively, the most attractive woman in the world? No? Then there's always going to be someone better looking than you out there. It's always a possibility- but a guy who's worth a damn isn't going to ditch you just because another possibility comes along. Make him WANT to be with you, and he won't ditch you even if you're intruded on by someone who is objectively the most attractive woman in the world.

[Fireguy17]

Take a chance, but with guarded optimism.
Just in case his "dream girl" comes along, if you want to try to see what happens.

[Anonymous]

This happened to me. Unfortunately I found out months later. He is into blonde or redheads and light eyes. He basically told me brown eyes are ugly. I personally did like the idea of some settling for me. Didn't make me feel special

[Asker]

But he seems to really be attracted to me even though we didn’t have much interaction at all. And I don’t think he would ever say somebting insensitive to me like that

[Opinion Owner]

That's good.

[Asker]

Yeah ok but if he thinks brown eyes are ugly why did he crush on you?

[Opinion Owner]

He just wanted to get laid and then we ended up together because he's too lazy to date. We broke up though

[Asker]

So he wasn’t actually crushing on you just horny?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. It was quite the blow to my ego. Because he played it off well super enthusiastic in the beginning. The. Even he's friend told me he was just excited to getting laid, because he hadn't had a girlfriend in a while

[Tharithi]

If he’s that lazy and pathetic why u want him

[Opinion Owner]

I dumped him I found this out after months of dating. I thought things were going good because he was being so enthusiastic.

[Asker]

:( And did none of his friends hint or warn you?

[Opinion Owner]

One friend did.

[Asker]

What exactly did he say?

[Opinion Owner]

Basically, that my boyfriends ex either were blue eyes or redheads or blondes. He also only dated women in really good shape which I am not, a bit fluffy. Which he told I was fat too. The friend told me he even told him he wasn't serious about me, and the friend thought it was fucked up

[Tharithi]

How long have u let this guy use u.

[Tharithi]

U already gave him yourself so what is the point of your post

[Opinion Owner]

What's your problem lol. I didn't know he was using me! When I found out I dumped him! Jesus

[Nikki1989]

A dream girl to a guy changes every 5 minutes. Ignore all of that.

[Asker]

All of the girls (even normal girls in his area that don’t follow him back) are blondes though so he clearly has a type. I’m afraid he will ditch me once he sees a chance with a girl of his dreams

[JHAYES317]

My dream girl is not only a girl that PREFERS short guys to tall guys, but also PREFERS small penises to big penises. And doesn’t discriminate based on men’s hair loss. Also slightly taller than me, and slightly older. And not obese. So finding a girl like that is virtually impossible, so inevitably I’m going to have to settle. That’s just how life is for a lot of men unless you are tall, handsome, well endowed etc.

[Tharithi]

Why are they your type and why u find them so beautiful

[Asker]

I don’t know, I just gravitate more to men who look like him

[Tharithi]

Look like what? Why are u insecure

[Asker]

Looks: Tall, slim and athletic, clean, nice broad shoulders, full dark hair, defined jaw line, nice smile

Personality: intelligent, educated, curious, sensitive, well mannered, attentive

Im insecure because I look nothing like the girls he usually admires and I am afraid that he only sees me as a consolation prize

[Tharithi]

How old are u both

[Asker]

We are both 26