Would you date a gamer (as in multiple hours a day online)?

[MikeyObrien]

This person plays video games for hours a day. They still have a job and what else but they just play 3 or 4 hours of video games a day.

Yes I would

No I would not

[D_Bone_Steak]

Depends... I mean, I've done relationships where she plays an instrument or has a legit hobby and I consider gaming a passtime hobby. It's not any different from someone who watches movies or reads books for that amount of time. I play guitar, and when a game comes out that I'd enjoy playing and I have free time, I might take a break from my guitar playing to just chill on some games. People are too quick to knock video games like it's such a bad thing... but is it really?

I mean think about all the dumb and stupid hobbies A LOT OF PEOPLE DO. Clubs/bars, eating out all the time, substance abuse, and so on... all cost more money than the 60-something dollars for that game and it takes up just as much time. A lot of the games actually are cheaper than that if you consider a game could last for months, technically a Netflix sub is more expensive over time... I've seen people blow 100's in a night and then just end up tired and burned out the next day with some of the so-called pass times I just mentioned.

I say it depends because I still spend 90 minutes hitting the weights and I brush my teeth and get a shower in. If the gaming gets in the way of that kind of basic maintenance... then I consider it a problem.

I mentioned some women I've been with had hobbies of their own, and I think I like those women better. 1) They know how to entertain themselves, 2) It allows me time to do my shit too, and 3) a woman with no real hobbies or interests of her own is just fucking annoying. They beg for attention on a constant basis and can only come up with shit like eating or shopping to pass their time and you know what that means $$$$$ A woman that doesn't have any real interests of her own are the first ones to accuse you of neglect or some shit like that. They simply don't know how to entertain themselves by themselves... because that shopping and eating out, quickly becomes something she wants to drag you into doing with her and before you know it you'll end up spending your days just doing chick shit all day every day. My current chick used to be so bad that she'd start complaining about me lifting weights even... because she wants to eat, and do the so called "going out" (shopping). Mandatory expensive vacations was something I had to really lay the law down about. I have no interest in seeing stupid shit and taking pictures. Military, so I've already seen it all and took a shit there as far as I'm concerned. I'm ranting... sorry about that.

It's healthy and perfectly fine, just so long as it's not abused to the point of it fucking up basic shit for themselves. They could be spending their time doing things that are a lot worse and more expensive.

[JacobJordan]

Wife response: I married one and started a family with him. He no longer works as he has enough money for the rest of our lives and then some. He does take care of everything a man should and I take care of everything a woman should. We spend time with our kids regularly and he has some time to relax as do I.

[wolfcat87]

NO. That's a LOT of wasted time. If they are spending that much time on gaming, they are neglecting family, educational, and self improvement opportunities. I would very much prefer someone focused on being a better person than a person who wastes their lives on gaming.

I do love a former gamer, but he weaned himself off of gaming and is now working a better job, educating himself, went back to college, has traveled more, is more of a family man, and is currently working on his pilot's license. All of the things he was not doing while sitting in front of that screen. He admits that gaming has less appeal when he's actually taken the time to enjoy what life has to offer. He still games, but only occasionally.

[MikeyObrien]

Couldn't you say the same about Any hobby though? Like if you watch TV and movies you're wasting time. Do you feel the same about people who do that?

[wolfcat87]

If they are spending excessive time on unhealthy things then yes. There are healthier hobbies like reading, exercising, taking classes, etc. It's like junk food vs healthy food. Unhealthy is fine in moderation, but too much leads to a mind that's unhealthy and not as versatile.

[MikeyObrien]

I agree that's why I said they play video games after doing their daily goals. I'm not talking about some obese dude in his basement who hasn't showered in a week lol.

[wolfcat87]

I also saw for 3-4 hours specified in comments somewhere. That's a hard no. They could get a college degree with those hours, start a business, have a second job, learn a new skill, learn a new language, etc. I would not tolerate a person so wasteful with their time on earth. If it were 3-4 hours a week maybe.

[Rei13]

I am a gamer too so I would, however the person would also have to enjoy doing active things too. If gaming is the only thing they do outside of work it’d be a hard no

[DarkWinterNights]

All things in moderation. What types of games do you play?

[Rei13]

@DarkWinterNights lately more cozy games like stardew valley but also games like monster hunter. What about you

[DarkWinterNights]

Ah nice, I’ve played those before. A friend recently got me into Baldurs Gate 3 so I’ve been heavy into that for bit.

[Little_Bumblebee]

It all depends on whether or not I would feel neglected or not. And whether he can prioritize friends, family and other responsibilities.

If gaming takes over his life and expects me to serve him everything. Then no.

I had a boyfriend who gamed a lot and it wasn't an issue. We gamed together, he introduced me to Borderlands 2. We played around 200 hours together.
And when he gamed I sat next to him doing my own thing.

So it all just depends on how he handles it.

(Also, gamer tage is a huuuuuge turn off. And a red flag)

[ColHathi]

Gamer tage?

[Little_Bumblebee]

*gamer rage
Sorry, typed too fast on my phone

[ColHathi]

Oh right, yeah, for sure.

[MemeSupreme]

if i don't feel like im dating a man child bc of it then idc. like if you sometimes spent 10 hours in a day on an awesome game like rdr2 i'd be cool with it lol i get it

but gamers lowkey are red flags lmao just can't be wasting your life on it every day

[Gochogirl]

It's just like any other hobby. If they can't balance their private time with their relationships, then it won't work. Doesn't matter if it's gaming, making art, or playing sports. So I'd date a gamer just as easily as I'd date someone with other hobbies as long as they maintain that balance.

[Kaamraj]

Only the top level gamers earn any money from playing. And most of them are men. If she's playing multiple hours per day and not earning money then she doesn't have time for our relationship. And if she is earning and earning well, it means that she is a celebrity and a brand name and I'm not into that.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Of course I would. I play video games (not that much especially the last few years) but I will always remember how a friend of mine broke it down to me. He said hey when I'm playing video games I'm near my girlfriend I'm not out getting in trouble, drinking, doing drugs etc I'm just passing the time. That always stuck with me

[DaBiggestBird]

Assuming they already a real Christian and all, totally. I think it’s a cool trait for a couple to sometimes be content with just having alone time together, as in simultaneously having time to themselves and being in each other’s presence. Not having to interact with or entertain each other every time they’re in the same room. I Da Biggest Bird am also a gamer so she and I could destroy trash cans in Apex Legends or Rocket League.

[jahaims]

4 hours is a bit much. At least 8 hours of work per day. Plus the commute, grooming/hygiene, cooking/eating, 8 hours of sleep, exercise, household chores etc. That doesn't leave much time for a partner or being a well rounded person. 8 hours of work 8 hours of sleep 4 hours of games. That alone takes up 20 out of the 24 hours in a day.

[JesseP1nk]

If you work 8 hours a day and game 4 hours a day. Then why you need a relationship? For what? There is things around the house that needs to be done. Later gonna have kids- that also need their time. No im not gonna do all this alone. So no, i would not date a gamer.

[Sirenboobzilla]

Absolutely. My boyfriend is a gamer. I don't game as much as he does, but every Monday night we have a decent group on our discord where we all play together. Mostly Halo.

[DarkWinterNights]

As described, yea. I probably wouldn’t date a gamer who does it as a job or takes it too seriously though. It’s a fun way to unwind and play through a story for me. I’m done with competitive gaming and mmo guilds.

[Alwayreckles93]

No not at all. You millenial 30 year old men just can't accept that your adults not young people grow up. Sad instead of reading the bilbe.

[PeachyPie93]

No because I dated a gamer and they tend to like games more than actually going out and doing fun things together.

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm a gamer myself, so at least we could align schedules :D

If we connect, I would at least try :D

[AaronKrieger]

As long as you have a life and it doesn't hold you back, then no one will care that you play video games.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Doesn't sound bad to me. Especially if you're talking and playing a game with them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

She actually has to be a gamer (and an artist), or I won't date her.

Co-op couch gaming for life is the best perk of marriage, even superceding sex in my opinion.

[WhitneySnow]

Only if they were also kind and attentive to me

[robhazelnut]

Existence will tell. Gaming for 3-4 hours a day isn't a deal-breaker.

[robhazelnut]

Gaming for 10 hours a day, on most days , isn't either.

[tzdc21]

Heck yeah. I'm a gamer too so I'll probably be playing with her.

[BourbonAndBacon]

Hard no. She's got to be adventurous and have a social life. I'm not staying inside if its nice out