How would you feel if you found out your partners primary motivation to dating you was they thought they could 'fix' you?

[Still-alive]

Aww thats sweet of them! best of luck to them trying to 'fix' me.

Uhhh thats pretty messed up that they think i need 'fixing'

I mean i do need fixing but i gotta do it myself. it's not their job

They likely are more messed up then i am

Hey as long as they're putting out i don't care what their motive is for dating me

I actually prefer we both be broken instead of us trying to 'fix' each other

Different feeling (how would you feel?)

[WhitneySnow]

Torn between the second and third choices, but probably the third

[WhitneySnow]

Thanks for MHO

[LovingJo]

Good luck. 😂 Only I can fix me 😘

[LovingJo]

Thanks for the MHO 😘

[ManOnFire]

I voted B. I knew a girl once who started trying to see if she could change me to her liking in order to date me. Keep in mind I wasn't really interested in dating her, just wanted to stay friendly, so it began to irritate me when I noticed she was trying to "motivate" me all the time, but she was really hoping she could mold me into something she would want to date. She also had personal problems of her own she needed to fix.

[antelope51]

A joke my maid of honor told me. "When the chapel door opens and a bride goes to meet her husband, the first thing she sees is the aisle. Then she looks up and sees the altar, and then she looks over and sees him. And that's what she will think for the rest of her life—Aisle altar him."

Sadly, this fallacy is kind of hard-coded into the female psyche. That they can mold men into some better version of themselves, yet men rarely change. And (as my dad says) the flip-side of this is that men will expect women to stay the same... and they don't.

I could say it's a product of society, but I actually see it in male and female dogs as well. Male dogs are pretty happy-go-lucky and easy-going, and what you see is what you get, and that's the way they'll always be. The female dogs, however, start off as very eager-to-please, get insecure in adolescence, get more empowered as adults, and then very bossy and commanding to everyone around them, and naggy at the end of life.

This leads me to believe it is a product of evolution and not society.

[AaronKrieger]

Not sure what major issues there'd be to fix, but if there was, then I would be possibly pissed. In my brain, I hate it if someone pitys me in any kind of way.

[FreyaRed]

Sweet but I don't think he would have necessary competency to fix toxic parts of my personality. I would dump him for imbecility of trying.

[menina]

That's messed up. I would be upset and I probably would break up with him.

[MemeSupreme]

weird like is there even any interest to date or am i some project to them lol would weird me out

[LazerBean]

They must not have a good relationship with their father.

[elizamichale1]

Well i m happy the way i m n thankfully my partner is happy with wht i m

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would think they see something that I have no knowledge of seeing.

[Samrasheihk]

Hey as long as they're putting out i don't care what their motive is for dating me your like this

[SeaStorm1]

can't really fix people. you can only fix yourself on you ownterm.

[electromagnetic]

I mean he can try.