Do you agree that handsome guys are more loyal than unattractive guys?

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Generally people say that unattractive guys have a good heart and handsome guys are cheaters. But I oppose it. Because I seen most of the guys who are handsome as loyal guys and the guys who tend to be unattractive cheats on their girlfriends frequently, breaks the heart of their beautiful girlfriend who settled for less with them by mistaking that they are good guys who doesn't cheat on them but in reality I seen those beautiful girls getting treated like shit by their unattractive boyfriends. I seem more girls in loyal relationships when they have handsome boyfriend and not simply by that but personally I seen such handsome guys who are greatly loyal to their girlfriends. Do you agree with the fact that unattractive guys mostly are also unattractive by their hearts?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I grew up being heavily involved in music in many forms - I was in the school band, I ran the sound (i. e., was the audio engineer) for nearly every school activity, I was (and still am) a mobile DJ, and I was close friends with a group of brothers who formed a rock band, got on MTV, and spent 6 years touring with established bands. I went to college to be an audio engineer (oops - the music business was shrinking), and I spent my weekends for a decade running the sound for bars on the live music circuit - each night having 3-4 bands coming through the bar, along with their fans. I continued to be a mobile DJ since the mid-80s, with only a 5 year break in the 2000s.

The reason I mention all of this is because when I say that I spent years and years around many different crowds of people, you need some context. I worked at various bars around the Bay Area mixing live music, and I DJ for all kinds of different groups and events, across many age ranges. Because of this, I have much broader experience than I suspect most people do - though it's certainly not impossible that someone else is at or even above my level - it's just not common.

And, in all of those years being around crowds of people all having a good time, and overhearing conversations, and talking to people during and after shows, etc., my experience tells me that the best-looking people have nearly unlimited options with the opposite sex, and that the VAST MAJORITY of them take full advantage of this. I'm not saying there aren't exceptions. Remember the band I grew up with? 4 brothers? Three of the four definitely took advantage of their status, and the other one had a steady girlfriend that he was with for 8 years - nearly the entire time he was a "rock star."

The thing is: women ALWAYS seem to focus on the exceptions, and never seem to be able to see, or willing to accept, the RULE - the NORM. And I can assure you that for every handsome guy who stayed faithful to one girl, there were 100 or more who didn't - and didn't have to.

The dynamics were a bit different with women - women often cheated on or otherwise abused men they were with if she was beautiful and he was more average - but those men rarely left the girl. Usually she dumped the guy when a better-looking or higher-status guy came along - though so often this didn't work out because the handsome, high-status guys had a whole rotation of girls and weren't about to give that up.

If you're trying to find one of those handsome guys who also doesn't cheat, GOOD LUCK. That's kind of like finding the Boardwalk piece on McDonald's "Monopoly" game. Sure, one exists out in the world SOMEWHERE, but you're likely to go your entire life without ever seeing one in person.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Don't know if this is worth anything, but I am a guy who is attractive enough to be harassed for his looks; and I am emotionally bound to one woman who I feel entirely obligated towards. Thing is, I am emotionally attached, which many guys avoid doing.

I'm also an astrological Leo, and lunar Tiger, if either of these fortunes are relevant to you. I get hit on by other women regularly now, but I know my feelings are reserved for one woman; even if I look at others, I feel nothing other than flattery for their interest.

I have been called handsome by separate women, sometimes by overhearing them talk amongst themselves. I've had women introduce themselves to me, or position themselves directly beside me at the gym. But only one makes my heart beat faster when I think about her, and feel genuinely safe, happy and warm in her presence.

Some men will say I'm just setting myself up for pain, but my feelings are involuntary.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

My ex was very attractive and got asked out almost everyday. Girls threw themselves to him, but I never felt jealous, because I trusted him and I knew he had a choice to be with literally anyone in the world and he chose me.

I also knew that he had turned down very hot girls who approached him when he was taken. And he stayed loyal to me till the end of our relationship.

He got stopped on streets and got asked his number m, was got asked what he is up to this evening, if he is taken, he got catcalled on streets when walking but he kept coming home to me and making me feel like I was the luckiest girl in the world.

I have never had an unattractive partner, but I might have felt a bit worried that if he is not used to female attention He might take every chance he gets.

I might have been more worried about him possibly cheating on me than about a very attractive partner cheating on me. But hopefully If he was my partner, that would mean I trust him and I am certain he wouldn’t cheat.

Anna994 · Accepted Answer

It all depends on type of father figure they have/had , but in todays hookup culture it is extremely hard for both men and women to stay loyal, we are being convinced that love can exist outside monogamy which isn't true, we are mixing love with lust so much that today it is almost impossible for any guy/girl to differentiate the two...

Romance is simply forgotten and love replaced with lust, world has become devils playground, and people enjoy it for some reason even though they now that they feel more and more depressed while practicing this modern "love" life.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Your personal observations are based on an extremely limited sample of the population which is not necessarily reflective of the population at large. Also, remember that everyone who cheats does not get caught or revealed and your perception of who is a cheater may be different than the reality that surrounds you.

In my experience, whether someone cheats depends on their character - or lack of character - and not on their appearance.

ManOnFire · Answer

So glad the majority of GaG does not agree with this,  for once  they got something right. Very attractive guys are no better than women who are considered conventionally beautiful: both have track records for notorious unfaithfulness. Your experience is a drop in the ocean.

Avicenna · Answer

I don't think that's true. Attractive men have many more opportunities to cheat.

ScienceThumper · Answer

@thanks_for_the_mho  As a ScienceThumper I got to present the facts and not share opinions.  First let's define what chicken (or cock) vs the egg (or sperm) means.  The phrase "chicken or the egg" is often used to describe a situation where it is difficult to determine which came first. It is a metaphorical expression that illustrates a paradox or a circular argument. The actual topic of discussion can vary widely, but the intention of the phrase remains the same: to emphasize the difficulty of deciding the initial cause or the starting point of a process or situation. It could not just be concluded that a cheater is someone who made a promise and failed to keep it. That a failing person is also known as a loser, the type of men who often dwell in their моm's баsements, whether fuckable or not, one might say failing to keep a promise is a quality that disqualifies someone from being a fucking good trusty friend. Let's all agree that you just did mental mastuebation by reading this paragraph. See how seductive I am, I made you mssturbate... mentally. You just wasted a minute reading incoherent bullshit. Or engaging in mental masturbation. Forgive me father for I know not what the hell I type at times. To elaborate on my roosterbreast remark, the cock vs the sperm metaphor, we don't worship ugly people. We worship hot people. If both people had the exact same brain, thoughts and habits, you'd still not be attracted to the ugly guy, your pussy wouldn't be as moist moist moist very moist when he's around, even if he doesn't care, you do, you are more likely to be submissive to hot people and fulfilling their every wish than an ugly fucker. Your attitude would force him to seek someone who truly loves his cock, unlike you making a compromise. Don't think I'm defending uglies, I think uglies should go extinct, both men and women. This hate and eugenicism is supported by the bible by the way, John 15:1-2 "“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful." You can compare it to a fuckable boy making your pussy moisten, THAT is fruitful.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I think an unattractive guy is more likely to "take the bait", as it were, if someone other than his S. O. hits on him, because it doesn't happen that often. Now I'm not saying I'm the hottest thing walking, but women don't pepper spray me and run screaming upon meeting me. So I've had 5 different women, we'll say "flirt extremely" with me this year. It doesn't have any significance to me. It's not tempting in and of itself, and I'm not even in a relationship. I feel no internal need to jump on the opportunity because it won't happen again, because I'm quite certain it will happen again, likely soon, so there's no scarcity of resources that have to be hoarded for later times.

Now that doesn't mean a traditionally unattractive guy is going to cheat either. Personal conviction, morals, sense of honor, those things have a far greater play in the equation than how someone looks, but if all these factors are present in comparable quantities, then, and only then, would I say the attractive guy would cheat less.

Lliam · Answer

I don't know. You might have a point.

On one hand, handsome guys have way more opportunities and have probably taken advantage of them when they were young. They've experienced women. So when it comes to choosing a steady partner, and they have their pick of many, they not only choose one that is physically attractive, but also has other qualities they desire. Because of their experience, they don't just latch onto the first beautiful girl that comes along. They can afford to be choosy.

On the other hand, an unattractive guy hasn't had nearly as many opportunities and feels starved. If he finds an attractive women, he will be over the moon. After while, his low self esteem may diminish and he might feel like a stud. He might even start taking her for granted. Because he never thought that he was high quality, he might start unconsciously thinking that his partner must not be super high quality, either, if she chose him.
Because he hasn't had many opportunities, he might be apt to be tempted if he has a chance to move up to a higher quality girl.

BullShark · Answer

Since when does someone's physical attractiveness equate to how loyal/disloyal they are? Your experiences are your own but if you go around thinking that all attractive men are loyal, while all slightly unattractive ones are cheaters and liars, you're in for a rude, rude awakening, sister.

How loyal/disloyal you are all comes down to what sort of a person you are on the inside and what kind of upbringing you have and people you associate with are. I've seen plenty of men most women may consider unattractive because of stupid standards like height, dick size, bank balance etc, but all of whom treat the women around them with respect and affection because they all have had a mother and a sister whom they love which is where they learned these things from, while I've also seen plenty of hot studs who go out of their way to play with the feelings of women they know are attracted to them, only to have multiple side chicks on the side without their knowledge with the mindset of "what they don't know won't hurt 'em."

In conclusion to my essay; treat people the way they really are and not based on their attractiveness levels. Physical attractiveness is temporary anyways.

Anonymous · Answer

You are kinda both right and wrong.

"Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder" is a good quote for this. Cause there is no such thing as a "handsome guy" or "unattractive guy"... those descriptions are entirely based upon your own opinion about what's attractive and not.

This is basically where you are kinda right in your opinion. Because the guys you think are handsome maybe happens to be good guys. For me it's the same with girls, the attractive ones (according to me) are the nice ones...

But the girls I think are attractive aren't necessarily the same girls that someone else thinks are attractive...

And of course there are some guys and girls that generally are considered attractive by a majority of the people... but my experience with those guys and girls are that they are often terrible people (not always ofc).

And I think that it is about these people we speak about when saying that handsome guys/girls are less loyal than the unattractive ones... because the handsome ones dated half the class in high school and almost never have had troubles with rejection and if they got rejected they knew they could just ask anyone else... meanwhile the unattractive ones will do anything to hold on to that one person they managed to get to like them

hahahmm · Answer

Nothing to do with looks. Has to do with the guy's motives for getting with you & what he wants out of life.

Loyalty is not something a guy owes you unless you are married. A guy can be disloyal simply by dumping you. No cheating required. Married guys are only half as likely to cheat as unmarried. The vast majority of guys never cheat. If you want to increase the odds of having a loyal guy, make yourself the best woman you can be. Get a guy who takes you seriously & thinks it's worth giving you a ring. This is harder now than ever but not impossible.

EnglishArtsteacher · Answer

No, not necessarily, since "Handsome" is subjective, and quite honestly, I don't notice a correlation between looks, and loyalty among men.

I think the reason why you (or other people) are saying this is because of "Lookism", a psychological bias. We as humans tend to judge "ugly" people harsher than "good-looking" people, so therefore, we automatically associate negative traits with "ugly" people more frequently than "good-looking" people.

If an "ugly" person does something slightly unloyal, then they will be demonized by others.

If a "good-looking" person literally cheats on their significant other, then people will say "oh, they just made a mistake", and give them a pass.

SeymourBill420 · Answer

No, definitely not the case that more handsome guys are more loyal then lesser attractive guys.

The lesser attractive guys especially if you're attractive quality woman. Will literally be clingy and pretty much let you shit in his face. And he will worship you like a goddess and hope you never leave him.

On the other hand, a popular handsome guy. Or even a non-popular handsome guy, can definitely become popular with the ladies right from the get-go. Because women are clung to more attractive men. And even if the more attractive men are taken. Some of the types of women out there don't give a shit, and try to take that guy from her. Or it being purely sexual, and just getting together for a hookup and getting another notch in his belt.

Whereas a lesser attractive guy would only be concerned about you being the notch in his belt

Flatmanlewis · Answer

In my limited experience, I’d say the opposite is true. I have never been a cheating mad so I can only comment on what I’ve seen from the sidelines. I work in a make dominated profession and it seems to me a lot of men cheat based on opportunity. In this particular case an attractive man probably gets more opportunities, than one physically unattractive. Also, the handful of men I know who are probably on the less attractive side, who happened to bag themselves a uncommonly attractive woman, seem to be the most loyal of all.

This question all operates under the supposition that women asses men based on their looks as much as men do to women. In my experience a man can be physically attractive and be treated like a “boy toy” (as I’ve heard females call them) but those same males find it very hard to work their way into a committed relationship.

TheorionMage · Answer

The NATURAL innate animal inclination-of-Nature (sans conscience) is to spread your genetic 'seed' as widely and often... INTO your perception, of the most 'desirable' fertile female Ovum given access TO you... BUT, 'real life' goes BEYOND mere 'conception' sex drive~

If SHE is as 'discerning' as Yourself, she has invested FAR more (9 months of HER womb's nurturing at least) and Nature inclines her to NOT HAVE wasted her resources toward HER & your progeny. AFTER conception, the pragmatic negotiation kicks in!

'Quid pro Quo' Does HE value your (shared plural) offspring... to invest in its nourishing and imprinting of values (parenting)? In "the wild" animals 'imprint' through observation and learn in their first 'formative' years ~ SUCCESSFUL surviving of your genetic progeny is Nature's DESIRED end result.

JacobJordan · Answer

I would say 50/50 so for many guys their first partner is a huge confidence boost. This is where the problem will start. Because there are 2 outcomes. 1 they remain loyal. Or 2 they become a shittier person and become unfaithful. And for guys who had no options and then gained self confidence and had more options the second will lean into that HEAVILY. Where as the first will go "well they had their chance and they thought i was ugly, poor, etc" where as handsome guys have all the options and again 50/50 they either are loyal due to familial or morality bonds or they are shitty and because they can pick anyone and replace anyone they do so.

Miristheiss · Answer

I would disagree. Your looks, by themselves, have nothing to do with it.

That is just the natural character of each individual person. Handsome men (if all other things are equal such as charm, charisma, job, income, status, game) will have more women showing interest in them.

Unattractive men probably get little attention from women and have to put in a lot of effort to get any girl to like them. Handsome men will have lots of interest from women and will have many, many more opportunities to stray if their character is the type to do that.

HawkPerception · Answer

Well I wouldn't say I'm the most attractive guy, but I've never been the one to break up in a relationship before. And I've never cheated or done anything to make them feel uncomfortable in the relationship either.

So I'd say that that's an incorrect assumption. If anything, I'd assume that better looking people cheat more often because they constantly have more options and therefore more temptation. They also tend to have an inflated sense of ego and feel even if they don't get away with it, they can find someone pretty easily.

James_Likes_PPL · Answer

There might be a slight truth to that due to less attractive men feeling insecure and seeking validation else where but I think that is more relative to the difference in attractiveness between partners than a generalization of all unattractive men.

sawno · Answer

Its all about the guy, handsome guys have more options to cheat. Unattractive guys have more temptation to cheat if it does get offered because of how rare the opportunity is. How that balances out is hard to predict, but a guy with a proper character won't cheat on you regardless.

MrCharlie13 · Answer

Baing attractive or not does not influence how faithful a man will be.

You noticing "ugly"guys cheating more doesn't mean the "pretty" guys cheat less. It only means "pretty" guys are better at not being caught.

Also, take into consideration that "pretty" girls usually are less tolerant to a "ugly" guy being unfaithful than to a "pretty" guy because of appearances and social prejudices related to the apparent beauty of each member of a couple

chrissykerdock · Answer

both will cheat on you so if your passing up good looking guys because they'll cheat on you think again... a fat ugly guy will cheat on you just as well... men in general like conqueiring territory rather than just love one girl... i'm not saying guys who like one girl don't exist but you can't base it on looks is all i'm saying

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