Are you happy with the change in the dating market?

[Lynx122]

I watched a video and they talked about how humanity has 2 options when it comes to the way dating goes. 1 is the traditional way where women get paired up with a man who is willing to take care of them for life. The other one we're going towards now is polygamy/harem. The women all think they can be with the rapper, the athlete, the actor etc. Because a famous guy might hit them up on instagram etc. But they get discarded because they're just one of hundreds. In the end everyone is not satisfied.

I'm not saying this is the case for every woman but compared to places where traditional marriage is still a thing this is very much where we are. Since I've just been to India I can say the differences are immense. The sexual liberation as they call it this is what it leads to. So are you happy with the results? If these 2 are the only 2 options which one do you think is better?

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say it’s not hard to find a good guy if you are willing to accept somebody with weaknesses and vulnerabilities and superficial flaws like a chubby belly or weird voice or shy in public. It’s the women who only respect power and dominance and bold confidence that end up with serial cheaters or abusers or uninterested avoiders that don’t appreciate them. I believe nature designed it this way because not every woman is meant for marriage, since the world is overpopulated anyway. If a woman lacks honesty and compassion she should stay single.

[Lynx122]

That is true :D

[mandyfire98]

You know how you help the dating market? Get rid of dating apps and go back to actually meeting people in real life, back when people didn6have issues dating. These issues only popped up when everybody started using tinder. The entire process of dating apps is superficial. It's 200 percent just based on pictures alone and swiping on a human being. Being able to swipe a human being willy nilly like they are nothing is a horrible process.

[Lynx122]

It's too late for that now. All future generations will grow up with this as the only reality they know. Some will get away from this path but the impact of dating acts etc. has already happened.

[mandyfire98]

I disagree. I think a shift can happen. The issue is people living on the internet. Not touching grass. But I don't think it's too late.

[Jamie05rhs]

I knew what the options were when I was a little boy. As a Christian, I chose to be 1-woman man. I was swimming against the tide, as everyone else had aspirations of fucking multiple girls. But I never wanted that, ever.
I was 100% confident in my decision. It just felt right to me. It seemed like the fair and just and moral way to be.
But I was honestly shocked when the all of girls started acting like prostitutes. Even now, it's still hard to wrap my head around. It's complete madness. It doesn't even benefit them.

[Crimsyjo]

A prostitute would get money and gifts (and good sex. Maybe) so benefit hugely. Just saying. I also think that is not the only two options. But agree getting into a committed relationship is HARD. With so many "easy options" sexually out there. And the difficulty meeting someone naturally and building up attraction over time.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Crimsyjo They don't benefit in the long run. They end up old and miserable with nothing to show for their lives. And a lot of them get hooked on drugs.

[Jamie05rhs]

But yeah. I totally agree with the last part of what you said.

[Crimsyjo]

My nan was a prostitute. I didn't know her during that time. Only knew from my mum (who hated it). But my nan as an old woman? You would never have guessed and she was married the whole time I knew her. Kept to herself, loved her cats, had a soft spot helping out people down on their luck (she helped a guy who was a homeless drunk pull his life together). So I don't know. Life can be many things to many people and even doing terrible things doesn't necessarily write someone off for life.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Crimsyjo That's a fascinating story. Thanks for sharing.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO!

[Zestyassmf1997]

I’m not happy with it but…you just gotta play the game. Make sure you’re one of the guys at the top of the ladder.

[Lynx122]

True ^^ I think I'm going in the right direction :) How are you doing?

[Zestyassmf1997]

Okay enough, I guess.

[CozyCoffin]

It was often socially accepted for men to have one mistress or multiple mistresses. In older societies, early versions of monogamy were not truly about monogamy, but about men owning women in order to ensure that the children inheriting from them were theirs. Romans could have 1 wife (born of a Roman citizen) and multiple concubines (who also did not need to be monogamous).

Depending on the cultural norms, even before now, societies either practiced free love - mostly the man expecting the wife devoted to him as she really had no choice, while he either had sex with various women or even just had one mistress.

[CozyCoffin]

I'm not happy with it, but I also don't care. They do their own thing. I'm not a part of it. No one wants me and unless she makes the first move (direct, not that stupid hint bullshit), I'm not going to ever be.

[Crimsyjo]

Awww *hugs*

[Crimsyjo]

Yes I recently studied Mary Wollstonecraft and women were nothing but property to a man. A slave if they got married and destitute if they didn't. Women were also taught to "use womanly wiles" to attract a man. Act helpless and childlike to get them to want to look after them. Men too were raised to think being a man meant showing no emotion and being an ass to women. And your right. It all basically came down to men not wanting to waste resources on raising offspring that were not theirs. Hence they could cheat but not the woman. Interesting stuff!

[thegreenyogi]

I think evolution and change is the only way to progress. So change means freedom and more freedom in relationships means less discrimination. That said for me personally I prefer to date one person at a time because polygamy isn't my thing.

[Lynx122]

This is not a new thing 80% of cultures from the past were polygamous but monogamous cultures were more successful because a family is a better environment for men women and children. That's why a religion like Christianity spread so much because it created a more successful society than the alternatives at the time. I'm not a conservative person I don't mind change.

I'm just asking is this really a change for the better? I'm not sure about that.

[PeachyPie93]

Well I think the internet destroyed the world. It made things too easy. So cheating is easy and on the rise. Women think sleeping with everyone is "liberating" when it isn't, you are just lowing your self worth and your value as a moral human being.
I personally hate the dating market, but every once in awhile you do see some decent human beings come around who like the traditional way. Though not that many lol.

[Joshydavid25]

No, people are more lonely than ever, and that's because we don't seem to know how to connect anymore honestly.. Thanks to social media and dating apps, standards have become kind of silly and one flaw gets you discarded like you were a jobless loser.. In the real world it's not as bad, and there's still plenty of people who do connect, but even then it's seeping into the real world enough.. When people have more choice, or think they have more choice they became demons.. LOL..

[Nikki1989]

What change?

I have not seen any change at all. Everyone I know are either happily dating or they are married.

[Lynx122]

That's great for you :)

[DextroShade]

Option 1 is far better and is what all successful civilizations were built upon; even in the Islamic civilizations polygamy was only allowed for the wealthiest men and was limited to 4 wives. Option 2 is how barbarians and cavemen operated and has never been compatible with anything resembling civilization but feminism seems determined to drag us back to the Dark Ages.

[Inbox]

Don’t forget the other 95 genders too apparently

[myloveforuisinfinte]

Lol I never dated anyone in my life😂😂so I don't know what change happened?

[Lynx122]

I'm talking about the difference between monogamy and marriage being the standard and now instagram, onlyfans and tinder being the standard.

[Pohjolan]

I think the future will be a combination of top guys with harem's, guys/gals in traditional relationships and guys with sexbots and ladies with cats.

[Lynx122]

Probably yeah XD

[lightbulb27]

I'm married.

but I think it's a mess due to many factors.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I haven't experienced this. Dating seems about the same as it has for the past 20+ years. That said, I meet people in real life, not on my phone, so your mileage may vary.

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe I am too young to have noticed, but it seems to me to be the same now as it was when I was a teen. Some people have ridiculous expectations. Some settle for far less than they could get. Some are fickle. Some get attached super easily.

[Billlewis]

I think it's wonderful, because women have so much more power now.

[Anonymous]

No, the dating market has gotten a lot more complicated now that you got trans men/women in the mix and most of them won't let you in on that little detail.

[FenixG45]

Some of us still don't use dating apps!

[Lynx122]

You're 60 what you do is completely irrelevant to this discussion. I don't use dating apps either but that doesn't negate the impact they, and social media in general, have had.

[FenixG45]

No dating app is going to replace IRL!

[FenixG45]

Age is irrelevant

[NathanDavis]

I've never had these kind of issues...

[Lynx122]

I'm talking about society.

[NathanDavis]

me too... my "society" doesn't deal with this crap

[Anonymous]

Nope, does anyone?

[loveslongnails]

I can't say I agree with that premise.