Genuinely curious if this is something dudes like or does it come on to strong. In general, what goes through you head when/if this were to happen?
the whole thing about who pays and all that crap I just let it go in one ear and out the other if I ask a girl out I'm going to pay if I'm asking a girl out it's because I like her and I like being with her and it's not it's not a big deal to me I don't understand people that make it such a big deal and if a girl wanted to do that on the third date the fourth date it doesn't matter when I would just smile and I would say okay fine and I would say I want to go to this steakhouse probably one of the most expensive ones ever just to see if she smiles just to see if she panicked just to see the reaction on her face.
because I would end up paying anyway or I would just be teasing her just to see her smile or see the panic in her eyes but I would say something like here I'll pay the bill you pay the tip no matter what it can all work out if you wanted to it's not a big deal there's guys out there that don't have jobs they will ask a girl to go out and then expect her to pay her or half that's bull crap and then they argue and cry about it if you ask a girl out make sure you have a wallet full of money or don't ask her out it's that simple
When I asked my (future) wife out, we agreed to meet at a restaurant. We had never met before then. But we totally connected. Our conversation just flowed and time disappeared.
When I walked her to her car, she turned and gave me a tender kiss on the lips before we parted.
Two days later, she called. I was surprised to hear from her. She said a friend had offered her two tickets to see the Rolling Stones and Red Hot Chili Peppers and wondered if I would be interested in going.
Here's the thing. I knew she wasn't into that kind of music but she knew that I was a rocker. So I can't be sure if someone actually offered her those tickets or if she concocted that scheme to lure me on a second date.
Anyway, of course I was interested. I liked her and was jazzed.
We went to the concert, held hands to and from my car and inside, and had a great time. I could tell she adored me and I liked her a lot.
From then on, we became exclusive.
But I was impressed by her initiative and courage in asking me out and covering the expensive cost.
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I'd probably take it as a very good indication that she wants to go exclusive.
I think it's a nice gesture, in my experience it's not at all coming on strong - it's respectful rather, especially as the expectation is usually for the man to pick up the tab in the early day. If she pays for a date and I'd lik e to ask 'well what can we do with this extra money I now suddenly have 🤔
I've also heard women say t'I don't like feeling like I'm not contributing" plays a role in these things,
I think it's a good sign of progress if you're both willing to at least discuss can motivations as well as doing something for the other person.
I appreciate that. That doesn´t mean I let her pay but she offers it then that´s a sign to me that she´s not looking for a free meal to use me.
A woman showing iniative is generally a good sign to me because it makes me feel she´s involved in the dating process.
I have had women treat me before and it really colors my perception of them in a positive light. You really have no idea how little attention and consideration men really get so every little bit means a lot to us.
I would be fine with that but the girls I’ve dated in the past would always invite me to their place for a home cooked meal or they would come to my place and cook. That would always melt my little heart.
That's nice -- it shows she's willing to invest in the relationship. It doesn't have to be expensive, anything at all is fine.
I don't really know as I've never been on a date before, but if I was going to then I imagine I'd pay for my stuff and she'd pay for hers. I wouldn't feel comfortable with one of us paying for both as that would feel like the other was taking advantage.
Bless her heart. The inviter should be ready to pay in any circumstance.
I love it when a woman takes the initiative and asks me out on a date, but under absolutely no circumstances whatsoever do I ever want her to pay the bill.
wow, she must like me and she is going to pay, WOOT WOOT!
I've had some girls ask me out and pay for the date.. It was nice.. It shows they were really interested in me.. I would need some time down the line to know if she's wife material or a little loopy..
I want her to pay her own way on the first date. Nobody would feel obligated or used. That is fair.
cool.
also never reject someone else paying money has no gender.
I would welcome and enjoy it! Unfortunately, it's extremely unlikely.
I would be happy with it - presumably if we went on a second date then we found each other interesting.
I would’ve open to women asking the men out paying or anything Just in my lifetime I have never experienced that before so I would be lost for words
I appreciate the thought. If you want to pay, then you can just pay for your own stuff, though.
Her asking and willingness to pay will not go unnoticed. She would instantly become ten times hotter, but I would still pay.
I'll let you know if such a thing ever happens.😆
I think “cool!” And then ask when and where.
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