How do you go about someone looking older than their dating app photos?

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I recently went on a date with a guy who’s profile says he’s 29. During our date he mentioned that he was 29 but honestly he looks more like 35 in real life. He was really nice and fun but I didn’t even recognize him at first. Clearly his photos were outdated. How do you navigate this? Is this a red flag? I’m super turned off by the fact that he used photos that are clearly deceiving but I don’t know if I’m overreacting and being unfair. I don’t understand people who use photos that aren’t accurate, it’s deceptive and it makes me question whether they’re honest in other areas of their life.

Drew-1990 · Accepted Answer

Well unfortunately this is going to happen. A lot of us don't take selfies or have pics taken very often. I have almost no pics of me and I have to have people take random ones just for dating apps and that is just awkward honestly. Also people post their best pics cause people are so picky online if you don't have a good pic, especially guys, you will not get matches. Then you got people that look older or younger than their age. People almost always assume I'm younger than I am maybe this guy people always assume he is older than what he is.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

"I’m super turned off" Then, when he calls to ask for a second date, tell him you aren't a good match. And then go find someone else. Whether you are turned off shouldn't depend on what other people think. Just trust your instincts and keep moving along.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

I don't care much about appearance, so it wouldn't affect me at all. If you had a great time with him, what is the problem here?

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Men will keep the same pic for years so they can trick women into liking them 😂

Avicenna · Answer

Well, are you attracted to the guy? I think most people on these dating apps are being deceptive to some extent anyway, either explicitly or by omission.

jamesgoldman · Answer

If I was into that whole scene
I'd say thank the gods as long as they don't look like they are about to retire

N. b. Many guys don't take a lot of photos, this one on my profile is my most recent snap and that is fast approaching 5 years ago

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

Ladies don’t y'all enhance your beauty it’s not like you look even 70% the same by the time you get up and by the time you leave the house 🙄 I’m condoning if he’s lying but it’s like a 5 year difference is it that big of a deal? If you connected with him that’s what matters most.

strateguy632 · Answer

as soon as i saw the similar person, who looked older than their old unupdated profile picture, i would turn around and not even sit with a deceiver!

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I don’t think dating apps is a reasonable place to expect honesty. That’s just me. Glad I was able to avoid going into that world.

slatyb · Answer

Red flag to me. My wife took five years of her age in her profile but quickly confessed. She could have taken ten and I wouldn't have questioned it.

spartan55 · Answer

Kind of like most pink users lying about their age on here.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Not necessarily. Photos have different lighting and stuff than IRL. I look older than my age too. I’d say as long as he doesn’t look like he’s 49 instead of 29 it shouldn’t be a big deal.

Anonymous · Answer

Wait till you get to be my age. EVERY woman on a dating apps pics over 40 looks 25.🤔😆😆😆 I don't think there a single woman honest about her age at that point.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Another reason to avoid dating apps.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I just turned 30, so do I look 30? Or 35? or 25? I was just 29 lol 😂😂🫢🫢🫢

Jay-_- · Answer

I don't know what to say about the question but now that we're on this topic, do I look my age?

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

You got catfished by age? That's wild lol

In_Trance · Answer

Nobody looks like their dating app photos

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