Our conversation fizzled out on the app, he did like my insta stories every now and then and once replied but that’s it. I thought I’ll move on like I normally to since it didn’t progress but I keep thinking about the fact that I’m curious to meet him in person. But there’s another part of me thinking - “if he wanted to - he would.” Would it be a good solution to text him and offer to meet, if so how do I do it in a chill way?🥹 I don’t want to come off as desperate
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I talked to a guy on bumble for a while but we stopped talking almost a month ago. Would it be weird if I text him now and ask him out?
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This happened to me lots of times. Honestly I agree with you, if he wanted to-- he would have. I can not tell you how many women are on dating sites that just want someone to talk to. Then after week or two it fizzles because honestly, how many things can you talk until you really just need to meet?
So, in order to give yourself peace of mind, I would say message him and make the offer. All he can say is no or nothing... but at least you can say you tried, and that is that. If you do not do it, then you will always wonder what if I had.
Girl, I don't think it would be weird at all to reach back out to him! Even if it's been a month since you last talked.
My advice would be to keep it light and casual. Something like "Hey, was thinking about our Bumble convo and I never got a chance to properly meet up. Any chance you're free this weekend to grab coffee?"
Make sure you actually want to meet HIM specifically and it's not just about not wanting to miss out. As long as your intentions are good, I don't think he'd take it as desperate.
Guys can be shy too, so there's a chance re-sparking that interest could lead somewhere fun! Even if not, at least you'll know you gave it a shot instead of always wondering "what if".
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, right? Go for it queen, you've got nothing to lose. And who knows, maybe he's been thinking about you too these past weeks! Fingers crossed for you girl.