I’m dating a guy who I really like but I can tell he’s not my forever. Do I tell him? What do I do if I don’t want to end it yet?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been dating for 1-2 months. We hit it off on the first date and can talk non stop when we’re together. I laugh a ton around him and overall I really enjoy him. But I can tell he’s not the one for me, and I think it’s because the sexual chemistry is off for me. I don’t desire to have sex with him. We have had sex a couple times and for me it’s either there or isn’t and unfortunately it just isn’t there for me. It makes me sad because I love going on dates with him but then when the intimacy part comes I almost cringe. He’s not unattractive and it’s nothing that can be fixed, he didn’t do anything wrong, it’s just not there. He’s been wanting me to come over/see him more frequently and be more spontaneous in seeing him, and normally I would be if the sexual desire was there but I’ve been keeping him at arms distance and spacing our dates out 1-2 weeks apart because I’m just not feeling crazy in love with him. I also don’t want it to end because I genuinely like being around him and talking to him every day. What do I do?

[shanshu]

I think you should break it off, otherwise you are leading him on and the more you stay with him the more he will prob fall for you.

I wouldn't suggest you are not sexually attracted to him, you might put his confident down, especially because you've had sex with him he gonna know you weren't into it.

Just say something like, it's been wonderful but I don't think we should see each other anymore, say you don't feel a spark and the reason you stayed with him aslong as you did is you hoped it would appear because he's a great guy.

Tell him you seriously hope you both can still be friends because you won't want to lose him in your life

[Lliam]

I totally understand what you are saying about the lack of romantic spark and sexual connection.

You should level with him asap so that he doesn't get in too deep. The longer he thinks you are a couple, the more painful it will be for him to find out the truth. Plus, you shouldn't waste time seeking your ideal partner.

I have no idea how to tell him. Maybe say that you really like him, enjoy doing things together and being friends, but you just don't feel romantic toward him.
That's a tough one, but it happens.

It would be nice if you two could continue to be friends, but that's probably not possible.

[Lliam]

Thank you for the MHO.
Sincerest best wishes as you pursue your dreams and happiness.

[Jessica405]

Don't waste his time. If you really don't see a future, tell him before he gets in too deep. Don't let him fall in love with you, then tell him.

[DonVitoCorleone]

I think you should tell me immediately. Greetings from Sicily. 🇮🇹🇮🇹🇮🇹🇷🇺

[Asker]

Greetings to you from the US☺️

[MsProsperity]

Seems like you want him to be your friend. Be honest with him. Maybe he might improve sexually lol who knows

[KrakenAttackin]

You think at your age Chad is just around the corner?

[Asker]

I’m not into Chads, sorry

[KrakenAttackin]

Every woman is into Chads.

[Asker]

I’m here to say I’m not. I can acknowledge they’re good looking but I’ve always liked my men a little off putting