Why is it so hard to find love in Gen Z?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Feminism. Systemic, industrialized Feminism.

Feminism didn't simply seek equal opportunities for women - that wasn't nearly enough. They demanded quotas for women - merit be damned - and even active hostility towards men.

Let's look at the publishing industry, which women took over in the 90s. In the 90s, novels were written by men at about 75%, and many of the best sellers were men. Today, less than 10% are men. This isn't because of merit it's because women simply decided that they weren't going to publish books by men. Thousands of male writers - even those with successful track records were told outright that they shouldn't waste their time submitting books for review, because they wouldn't be read. The result? The publishing industry has collapsed and put tons of women out of work - but it also destroyed thousands of men who weren't able to get published despite their merit.

The same thing happened in comic books, video games, Hollywood movies, and it happened in schools of all levels, and it happens socially. Under Obama and Biden, colleges could expel (without refund) a male student with zero due process based on the accusations of a woman. Note that this only went one direction - male accusations were routinely ignored and the policies were written only to protect women.

I could give you dozens of other examples, but most of you already know them. The point is, women have used the power of institutions and their own tears to disadvantage men at every possible turn, and now they complain that men aren't confident or successful enough. What the hell did you think was going to happen?

Don't bother to answer that, because I already know that women rarely think about the long term consequences of anything - they nearly always make their decisions by how they FEEL in the moment, facts and logic be damned.

And now, every woman is looking for a top 0.1% man and truly believes that not only will she find him, she DESERVES him. Instead, those men use her, and every other young woman, for casual sex and then throw her away as soon as she becomes a hassle, which rarely takes long. And there are a thousand women waiting in line to take her place.

Meanwhile, every other man is completely invisible to her. They aren't even allowed to approach or have a conversation without being labeled a creep, or worse.

The inevitable result? She gets a high body count, more baggage than a Saudi prince, and ages out of her 20s and hits the wall and ends up single for the rest of her life, with nothing to look forward to but rent and bills.

Sure, most men are single too, but men are used to being ignored and alone, and are much better at coping with it. Most women slowly lose their minds when they are alone, which is why so many are on mental health medication. The most medicated people on earth are middle aged women - with single women even higher than the average.

Your career was supposed to fulfill you. Are you fulfilled?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

When we are kids and we grow up.
The only thing that we know about love is what we see through our panerds, what do we observe?
And in general z. You're probably aren't quite a lot of people are lucky to heor maybe you just have that gift you understand and respect love and power of love love

Just remember this.
There's five thousand different types of love

Just make sure that person that you find has every single type of Blood that you are talking about within them and they can sharwith you.
Do not setthe world is changing fast.

Love is the most powerful force you can have.
And understand and respeople say they do, but they don't even have a clue.

And be patient

avery58 · Accepted Answer

The main thing is the lack of willingness to commit. Many people wanna get to know each other for years before making it official it seems like, plus there is more mistrust between genders than before as well as more misunderstandings between partners. Some of it is valid as people in general have become more easily influenced by problematic behavior via social media, also things like cheating have become easier and more common. Both modern men and women often have more flaws than previous generations.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

Late stage capitalism. It has destroyed culture and lives and art and people nowadays are isolated and depressed as a result.

Community? Never heard of her. Originality? Lmao, not in this economy.

Your brother doesn't want to talk to you anymore? It's okay, Chatgpt will check up on you.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because people have become very selfish and set their preferences way too high. We can thank social media for a big part of that reason

dragoblack · Answer

Because gen z never got taught what love is and mainly got to see the bad examples from millennials, gen x, and boomers. It took me a while to understand what love is supposed to be, but sadly many find actual love & communication a turnoff/boring, because they rather lean to the toxic, abusive, drama-filled relationships they are used to. There's also all of the perpetuated toxic dating advice, manipulation, double-standards & emotional abuse. Dating shouldn't be about testing, manipulation, or playing with peoples emotions "because you find it fun to see what emotional recactions you can get out of them." Or "it's how i get free food & drinks". Dating is supposed to be 2 people who have interest in eachother, going out to have fun and getting to know eachother... that's it. Relationships are "best friends with romantic benefits" sure you will have your rough moments, but taking a moment to cool down and communicating, is how you get through that. Throw gender roles out the window, you both work together to get chores done and make agreements on what the role schedule is. Relationships and dating isn't hard, it's just most of society just makes it hard for bad advice and toxic & trauma reasons.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

“In gen Z?” What is that supposed to mean? Your generation is not “in” something that everyone else is not. I’m assuming you meant “why is it so hard for gen z to find love?” Your generation is influenced by social media more so than any other generation that has come before you. This in turn will result in a larger chunk of people who are superficial. When you have a large chunk of people who are superficial, and their brains are not used to having genuine interactions and forming genuine connections, this will inevitably lead to fewer and fewer people being in love. There’s also a good amount of truth to what @mroracle said. Many girls in your generation have unfortunately allowed feminism to rot their brains. Feminism brainwashes young women into believing that men are beneath women, men are not needed to make a society work, and men are the root cause of all difficulties that they face in life. When these type of ideas are instilled into the minds of young women, it completely rips apart the foundation that traditional families are built upon.

Curious_Wife · Answer

I'm Gen X so I can't really say for sure, but this is a phenomena I've been hearing a LOT about lately and I have some thoughts:

1. I think the overwhelming number of people who have their noses buried in their phones is part of the problem.

2. The same phones I mentioned above also have such easy access to porn that it maybe creates some unrealistic expectations and possibly anxiety for the average guy.

3. Someone else mentioned Feminism - and I think that is definitely part of the problem as well. I'm a woman, but I'm not a Feminist in the way I've seen it evolve today.
I'm all for a woman being smart, strong and independent enough to not NEED a man to thrive, but not to the extent that Feminism today seems to push the idea that masculinity is toxic.

4. Due to point #3 - men are less likely to approach women for fear of being labeled a "toxic male" - society seems to intentionally be neutering men to empower women, but I don't think it's smart to do this. Allow men to be men, let them hold the door open for women, ask us out on dates, etc.
If the woman isn't into the guy - he shouldn't fear rejection... just move on, accept you weren't compatible, and don't be afraid to talk to the next woman.

There's a lot more to this, but bottom line is - women shouldn't be harsh to a guy who approaches her (if she doesn't like him, nicely decline his approach), and guys shouldn't be afraid of approaching women (if she rejects you politely, shrug it off and don't take it too hard).

Anonymous · Answer

You know that saying It takes two to tango? Well, in this narcissistic, superficial, social media, triggered, cancel culture age we live in. A male and a female have to find "commonality." Still, I think women and girls are so influenced by music, celebrities, social media, and "friends" in trying to create this delusional lifestyle. I know you may think this post is attacking "women" and that's "incel" behaviour.

But I've said it before, and I'll repeat it, males aren't perfect and females aren't either. I can't have sympathy for a dude dealing with a gold digger who broke his heart, I can't have sympathy for a woman who is heart broken over a toxic douche that used her like a tampon. Women and girls are pickier - he has to be taller, more muscular, richer. To girls or women reading this, if a guy used her horny mindset, he would expect any female he pursues to have big boobs and big ass and to cook great food, is that fair? No.

I'm at this point now where I don't care because the expectations, demands of females nowadays is not realistic and its a headache and that's why more guys don't want to pursue women. For what? To pay for her dinner where she's going to be boring on the date and not talk much and reject him on a second date or break his heart down the road. Women and girls nowadays aren't loyal and don't offer much. I'm sorry but it's true. I also blame feminism for creating today's woman or girl to be "masculine" and nothing to me is more unappealing than a masculine woman or a "boss babe" who is controlling, bitchy and rude.

Clear_Skies10 · Answer

Porn these days is full of cheating themed content. It's all encouraging and glorifying cheating and degrading your partner. After a while that stuff has an influence on people. They also become red pilled and they feel that women are just gonna use them and destroy their lives.

Purpleronnie · Answer

You mean the socially anxious , the ghosters , those obsessed with superficial connections on apps? Those so scared of being vulnerable , projecting their insecurities on others , those hyper-focused on picking faults within potential partners? , the “icks” and the “red flags” that only succeed in making them feel more isolated and less open to new people and new experiences? Those who don’t dare call it a relationship but instead a “situationship” so that basic respect for themselves or others need not exist?

Nah , I couldn’t possibly understand why people like that have an issue finding love 🤣🤣

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

6 pack abs

6 figure salary

6 feet tall...

For what? A high-body-count bitch who is 30lbs overweight and broke, and thinks that the 6-6-6 guys should consider themselves LUCKY to be allowed to speak to her?

Nope. Nope. Whole lotta Nope.

Modern women are (generally) unhinged and unrealistic. Don't care if you are the exception (any chicks reading this and losing their shit). You ALL think you are the exceptions, meanwhile I've not met a modern woman who actually, legitimately, knows how to actually do anything useful, other than spread her legs. Nope. Pornhub is free.

Miristheiss · Answer

The promiscuity of women and access to cheap, degenerate sex being so readily available.

Feminization of men

The culture no longer valuing marriage, not pushing for it, not protecting it.

Easy, no fault divorce and alimony makes it where people don't want to do long term commitments. If someone can just get bored, leave but make you pay ;them and take your stuff why even bother.

Dating apps ruined dating.

People are dating for fun, dating for casual sex, dating for free stuff. No one goes on a date to determine compatibility for marriage.

Explosion of porn and the amount of women that do porn.

Anonymous · Answer

I think we’ve irresponsibly given women too much choice and power. They already have enough power in their beauty and soft feminine nature. Men will always rush to aid an appealing female. And taking it a step further, more and more, I think it is important to protect them from everything they have been given exposure to now. Because why is women’s mental health in greater statistical decline, despite living in the “best, most liberating times?”

Suddenly it’s like they’ve been given an endless, worldwide buffet of options that would be willing to mate with them and it’s really not good. Nature never intended the internet and dating apps to completely over-stimulate and inflate a woman’s sense of worth to the levels they are reaching now, consequently because of all this choice that they could never have IRL. Men outside of the 1 of 1% do not have this luxury either. They just simply don’t… so there is a big void between the two genders.

lucas262 · Answer

Thats a short question with a long answer. But essentially we were all sold a lie. Romantic love hasn't been around very long. Dating as it stands has only been here for 70 or 80 years.

people now have infinite options, infinite attention addictions and too little patience.
We've also been sold that men and women love the same. And love and sex mean the same things to us when men and women love quite differently.

And the fantasy is now breaking because people see it dosnt match reality.

We will never have the simplicity our parents had. We're dealing with things now no generation ever has and we're crumbling

HighValue · Answer

Because women have been exposed for their extremely bad morals, selfishness, greed, untrustworthiness, and and uncaring nature from past generations. More and more men are looking at relationships logically instead of just leaping into things and getting taken advantage of by women now.

jmr2191 · Answer

The social graces that used to guide us in courtship, respect, and general communication have been discarded, leaving the culture in a subjective free-for-all with no rhyme or reason. On top of that, conscientiousness is plummeting in younger generations, meaning just getting together has become more difficult. The inflated expectations of both men and women aren't helping, either. It's tough out there.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm a Gen Z (I'm 20) and I think social media, online dating and porn mess with things. While I'm not looking for love yet (still in college) I have found that it is still fun to have relationships and now in my case a casual friends with benefits. I don't know if I am ready for love yet. Message me if u want to chat about it

BCRanger10 · Answer

Feminism, social media and smartphones, unrealistic standards, poor examples of what to give and expect in a relationship. Gen Z men are also becoming more conservative and more Christian and Gen Z women are... not.

OneViewpoint · Answer

They are the participation trophy generation. They've never had to fight for anything and lost. They think all they have to do to win is show up. Shielding them from adversity has created soft, weak people.

ultrafrikandel · Answer

Because a lot of guys are scared to talk to woman, like we dont want to be rejected or stampled as creeps. Online girls only look if you are very hot or have money.

Also something I see is because of the corona pandemic we have lost a lot of social interaction and have got a lot of social anxiety.

Even tho feminisme is getting more populair and important, girls dont really ask guys out.

Anyways that is how I see it around me and my own experiences

capriVib · Answer

High hypergamy compared to the past

aceleon · Answer

because aside from everything the guy below me said. we are still a bunch of kids. what kind of nonsense is this? finding love? as a kid?

Angelo75 · Answer

All kinda overly sensitive people walking around, demanding that they must "get" something out of a relationship instead of thinking that they must "give" their best in a relationship.

lightbulb27 · Answer

don't know, I've met quite a few that do well. it may be location, luck, or just life. it was hard for me and others, others have one plus marriages.

jshm2 · Answer

It isn't. Quite the opposite in fact.  The "problem" most have is that they are fucking idiots, and cannot be in relationships, while holding such views.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

The ones I know don’t seem to have a problem finding love. Most I know in my area are even happily married. Probably helps that they do not spend time online nor did any of them meet one another through the net. Get off line!

mistixs · Answer

It’s always been hard to find love but maybe Gen Z is more stunted psychologically due to formative years being affected by the COVID pandemic

spartan55 · Answer

Because very few of you know how to actually communication in person. You run your love lives through social media then wonder what went wrong.

Guylovesgirl · Answer

Because Gen Z grew up with endless options online, but real connection takes patience and vulnerability.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Because you’re weird. There’s no such thing as friends with benefits or situationships. You fuck a rando, you’re a slut. You fuck the same person on a regular basis, you’re in a relationship. Everything else is bullshit

Staximus · Answer

I was working at a bar when the gen z kids started turning 21. I'd have to say they were the worst of any age group at effectively interacting and communicating with people they didn't know. Like they don't have any social skills.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

Too many women nowadays engage in risky sex such as anal sex, oral sex, no protection, toys, etc etc etc - those women aren't for me 🤮🤢

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Social media and the internet.. without it people wouldn't be acting so stupid..

genericname85 · Answer

cause in the years they were supposed to learn how to find a partner, they were banned into lockdown. one of the infinite reason that was a really dumb idea back then.

es20490446e · Answer

People are too scared, social inept. They don't communicate, they are too passive, they play too much hard to get, then nothing can happen.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Whitesnake will explain the problem in the language of song:

Greek_goddess_Iris · Answer

Because all the Gen Z boys are sitting behind the computers playing Witcher and GTA.

Flower7 · Answer

The internet gives too many options and makes it so partners are easily replaceable.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is not. Try harder.

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

Feminism has brainwashed our generation to believe that men are dangerous and that being a stay at home mom is being opressed. None of which is true

Anonymous · Answer

Gen z lack social skills, are more superficial compared to prior generations, feel like they have more options than they actually have due to social media

Anonymous · Answer

Because a lot of Gen Zers are not interested in monogamous relationships. This is not true of my friend group or my school overall, but more so like people my age worldwide.

Anonymous · Answer

What MrOracle said is spot on. It's complicated, but feminism has essentially driven a wedge between the sexes and destroyed male/female relations. There has been so much damage done that I worry it can never be repaired.

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

It seems challenging because social skills have been really watered down since the pandemic and people seem to just hav accepted it

Wodens_Apprentice · Answer

Cause Gen Z women don't want loser men & thanks to feminism & DEI policies that's exactly what most of us are.

Ironco · Answer

Because you all are a bunch of narcissistic self entitled douchebags... I said what I said.

TallAnon · Answer

You're raised very protected with lots of news giving you concerns and warnings; Just take a risk and do something stupid.

LiamJHayden · Answer

To me love is given, not found. It becomes difficult when people develop absurd expectations.

stayorgo · Answer

Why bother if you need love use your hand there is porn. And thank God there are hookers. YOU'RE WELCOME and ENJOY

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Social introversion. Overuse of social media. Lack of social skills

Panthero80 · Answer

It can be a difficult thing to do for millennials and gen Xers, too.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I never managed to find love.

TylerDurdenn · Answer

It' hard because they're looking for unconditional love, wich it doesn't exist.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s always been hard, since we got kicked out of the Garden of Eden. It wasn’t easy then and it won’t be easy now. Yes it sucks.

Anonymous · Answer

Because people are really dumb and pretention without reason

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Cause everybody hoe-ing nowadays

CarolinaCutie5 · Answer

It's not you're just not attractive

Flowersareawsome22 · Answer

Actually it's the millennials Would say.

Anonymous · Answer

I blame rapid changes in society.

blackeagle007 · Answer

I’m totally out of touch. What’s Gen Z?

Anonymous · Answer

They are all dating guys in Gen X

qwerty2469 · Answer

Too many women have dicks

jeffersongutierritos · Answer

because women are not trustworthy

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