ok so a few days ago I had my first date, and by the end of it my first kiss with this guy I really like (the kiss was really short because I was nervous). And apparently it went well because we have plans for a second date on Sunday! Last time we went out for dinner and this time were going to see a movie... Since I've never done this before I don't really know what's expected physically on a second date...
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You shouldn't walk into a second date with the mentality of thinking what's "expected." Guys don't walk into the first date thinking whether the girl "expects" him to pay, etc. Whatever happens, happens. Whatever you feel like doing. And if the other person has a problem with it, then that just means the two of you weren't compatible. Maybe that means you need to find a "more" sexual partner, or a "less" sexual partner. But it doesn't mean that he's an @sshole or that you're boring or slutty just because the two of you aren't sexually compatible. You can't "force" a square peg to fit through a triangular hole.
As a rule of thumb, if you want to do something sexual, no matter what number date it is, just do it. On the other hand, if you don't naturally feel like doing something sexual, no matter what number date it is, don't do it. What's worse than a girl that's borderline asexual? One that is having sex with you out of some feeling of obligation or guilt - that's disgusting and a turn off. Sex should be mutually desired and wanted, and if it's not, then it's not worth having, no matter how much you think the other side wants it, expects it, or would appreciate it.
On the other side of the same coin, and with equal force, if you feel like doing something, please don't hold yourself back. That kind of behavior is frustrating, annoying, and sends out all sorts of wrong messages to men, including the message that you're just not as sexually interested in him as he is in you - and that's just best case scenario. Worst case scenario? You may be sending off the message that you're riding some Cosmo/Oprah ego-trip (e.g., "I'm so worth it, if he wants me, he's going to have to wait, I want to see how patient he is, it'll totally be worth his time in the end, because my vagina is made out of gold, I mean platinum, I mean palladium, with suction pumps, and vibrating walls that hum at 12,000 rpm.")
Moral of the story is, don't hold yourself back, but don't push yourself forward either. Just do what comes naturally and know that there's nothing wrong with that.7