What should I do please?

[artsy_dragon]

I'm at university Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm, my schedule is different obviously but I'll just leave it like that so it is easier. I work part time 3 days a week. My shifs change but I can do 2 shifts after university for 6 to 8 hours. I work 12 hour days on Saturday and Sunday is my only day off.

I am awake depending on what shift I do at work. If I am not at work that day, I am home from university by 6pm. I am normally so tired I fall straight asleep. I wake up around 12am. I shower, get food and then do all my assignments, clean etc.

If I do have a shift after university I normally start at 6pm and then do my shift. Normally I finish at 1am. I sometimes I eat and sometimes shower by generally I am bed as soon as as I get in. Some of my university days are at home and I start later than 9am. But if I am on campus that day I am up by 8am.

I'm usually late to classes depending on the day. I generally wear the same clothes as I don't have time to do washing. I drink a lot of coffee. I am not kidding. I buy the cheapest coffee I can find and carry around a jar of it. I need hot water and I am good to go. I nap whenever really. I do my assignments on breaks or on the train.

Saturday's are the worst days, especially if I am at work the night before. My normal shift is from 12pm to 1am, this is because of my 1 hour break. I normally split my break into two half an hour ones. When I get in the door from work on Sunday morning, normally around 2am. I fall asleep instantly. I wake up around 2pm. I am up till about 2am and the cycle starts all over again.

It was worse before. I did more shifts, took extra classes and I was volunteering. I got exhausted and was in hospital. This is cut down but even now it is to much. My boyfriend works full time and even with his and my wages we can still not afford much. We will have to go to a food bank now as we are not entitled to any help. And I don't want to take out another student loan again.

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We also have 3 dogs who we rescued. We have to pay for a dog sitter/walker as we are never at home. I don't want to do it but we are going have to give them to a family member and if that doesn't work then they will have ti go back into a keenel and most likely be put down this time ☹️

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1 y

I think I have solved my problem in this post. Food bank and take the dogs to a family members for a while. We have sold almost everything we can. Our family are struggling as well so they can't help. Everyone is struggling. Our rent is going up again at the end of the month. About the same as our monthly food shop. Yeah we are going to have to go to a food bank 😔

[Rosexøxø]

6 hours is good. 4/5/6 are usually “sweet spot” hours. Mostly 4 and 6.

Depending on a person, either of these kinds of sleep hours can really leave a person feeling content, and not so sluggish when they wake up.

You may not like it and may be lacking Zzzs anyway, but try to find which one works best for you. If not, I don’t see any problem with you continuing your (usual sleep) schedule/ routine.

You need energy. Your body will rest during the 5-6 hours. If you’re sleeping you will be recovered. That’s a given. The reason you need to stay alert is because of possible triggers such as: dehydration/ hormonal imbalance/ lack of vitamins. Drink some water, invest in some small portions of vitamins, and take something natural for alertness like ginger or some other herbs/ or teas.

Vitamins help because in today’s era not all food promises energy 👐 to complete tasks. You’re not a military member, a firefighter, or athlete-

BUT

you are indeed, completing tasks that require energy. You’ll need to get energy either from food or supplements.

As far as actual meals- food bank is a wise choice. Depending on the expiration of the food, and the regulations of the food bank, I suggest you take a portion for your day or week, and a double portion to go into your own pantry. Canned foods are helpful, as well.

So now you’re energetic, rested, hydrated, alert, vibrant, and you’re adequately fed and prepared.

If you need certain hygiene products, those may be available at a food bank. If not, you can shift your spending by looking/ consider downloading the “free app” or some like it where people are basically giving away items they have online for free. You can get notified, check the location if you must, and have your boyfriend do the pick up for any items you may need. I’ve heard about it, and I trust it. Will recommend to my sister, as well. Do your research on it, if you must!

So now you should have some extra cash for other spending such as personal or dog items. At this time? Consider thrift store shopping if you absolutely need new clothes, and even if you just want some. I had bought a very nice cheetah-print blouse, from a thrift store, before my internship to Ohio. It wasn’t all I got. I mean… really sweet stuff there.

Try to be mindful of gas and anything you do use and pay for, like water/electricity. Turn off the car as soon as you’re parked, and/or not using it. Try to stay in similar rooms with your boyfriend and vice versa, so electricity is only used in one room, instead of double.

Consider buying your pets food from a market or from the food bank. I’ve seen people feed their wolf-dogs eggs 🥚, beef, peanut butter mixtures, etc. if “top tier” dog food is too much for you both, consider switching up your dogs’ diet. You can provide their food (labeled) items, with the family and ask the family to watch them for you. Maybe part time, if not full time.

With your schedules, go for opposite times you and your boyfriend work, so someone will always be home/ able to do chores/ etc.

If your boyfriend isn’t in school, ask if he can do some extra hours of work, so you can drop back an hour or two. Especially if you need to take up volunteering again.

If you both have unreasonable schedules, just spread it out so it’s more reasonable/ less taxing/ and less stressful on you all. You’ll graduate.. if not all in one day, in a year or so. Find a good balance 😅. Can’t take 30 classes in a week. Be reasonable and patient with yourselves.

lol

Wishing all the best to you both. You both clearly work hard, which is great, now you need to back up that drive with some logical tools to help benefit you. 🙏

[artsy_dragon]

Thank you so much and I will certainly look into that!

[Rosexøxø]

Ofc! Sis! Rest easy! Be safe 🙏

[Guy13]

First stop at 8:15am is with the school’s psychologist so that you can get out in front of this impending train 🚂 wreck.

[artsy_dragon]

We don't have anything like that. I have to pay for it.

[Guy13]

You do I’d it is a college 2 year college or university. You need to go to President office for explanation cause you are unaware of Government requirements

[artsy_dragon]

Yeah I am not in the US

[Guy13]

Oh, SORRY !! We Americans tend to assume... sorry. Hope this all comes together for you and yours.