Is it a good idea to start looking for a new job after I broke up with a colleague I was romantically involved with?

[Anonymous]

We were together for almost 2 years and agreed to be “civil” but things are just turning sour.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... I would simply keep my distance if possible, if I were You. However, being a man, I would most likely start looking not just for a new job, but for a country without an extradition agreement with my own, to avoid any vengeance that could be unleashed upon me. That's one important reason I will never go out with a woman from my workplace. The other is that she'd only be attracted to me if I were higher-ranking, and if I went for it, it would trigger power abuse charges either from some jealous coworkers during the relationship or from the woman in question herself if something went wrong (basically, if the relationship ended up with a break-up for whatever reason). It's generally an awful idea to go out with someone from Your workplace, unless You are the CEO and You can buy both the silence of everyone in Your company and the inaction of the police and the judicial system (or unless You're a woman - if You were a low-ranking man, You wouldn't find anyone attracted to You anyway - but that would only work if You wanted to go out with the CEO, as no other man in the company in his right mind would take the risk). And if we disregard all the judicial issues... It's simply awkward afterwards, just like You've just experienced for Yourself.

[Anonymous]

You have learn to be civil regardless with your colleagues, yeah, it might be awkward but stay with the job until you find something better. But with this job if you're comfortable in the position and you get paid well, in this economy today you can't allow a break up to completely turn your life around. The job market sucks right now. I don't know your work experience or academic experience but if you have qualifications to look for a job in say human resources or business or finance then sure it shouldn't be hard for you to find another job. I personally wouldn't leave a job because I broke up with a girl but if I knew management liked her more then inside job politics would probably want me to go if she talked behind my back. If that ever happened, I would personally go to HR and sue the company with a legal tribunal for letting me go over some petty shit like a scorned girl trying to get the out of the company. Especially if the guy is respectful to her, focuses on his own work and doesn't bad mouth her. I hope couples who end up breaking up can be civil and respectful to each other at work. This isn't jr high or high school or college when people can break up and be bitter and vengeful with a company. Not saying you would do that or you're like that but I've heard some bad stories from others.

[AutumnSerenity]

There was a couple at my former organization that divorced. The ex-husband ended up leaving because the ex-wife was more popular/well-liked. If the split was amicable and all is civil at work, you could stay. If you’re sensing any hostility, then you may need to move on.

[sheikalana]

This is why you should never date your coworkers. Maybe is the right thing for your to start looking for other jobs cu it won't be easy to see your ex all the time.

[kingmaker21]

Very well said

[ArrowheadSW]

I had to do that when I was 26. I dated a coworker but it didn't work out. I was happy to remain civil over it but she turned toxic and weird. So I started looking for another job. There were problems with the company also, so it was a good idea otherwise to leave that job.

[HoraceB]

I would definitely look for a new job. I had a very similar situation in the past where I was interested in a girl I worked with & pursued her for almost a year. I found out at the end that she had been dating another guy there, and they ended up getting married. It was devastating. Everytime I saw them I wanted to cry. I found a new job after that and avoided them in the meantime as much as I could.

[Anonymous]

Lol dating in the work place. Screw finding a new job, Id fire you for that. Seriously its idiotic to date people in the work place, Just plain stupid... But hey, you're thinking with your vagina, not your brain so what do you expect. Its normally men i have to lecture about this.

[Booklover_90]

This is why workplace romances should be avoided at all costs. Things can become really awkward when things don’t work out. At any rate, do what you feel is necessary at this point.

[ProbablyClueless]

That sounds like it would be a good move for you to do, yeah. I swear, workplace relationships are just disasters.

[fuddly]

Good idea to look around the job market

But it must be difficult to change your partner, your job... Your home? All at the same time

I sympathise... i have my own issues... Similar in scale

[RavVid]

I would say so especially if the relationship was known about in your workplace.

[Brady]

The relationship shouldn't hav anything 2 do with what job u hav.

[KrakenAttackin]

You dumped him and are dating other "colleagues" already. Yeah, you should leave.

[OddBeMe]

Not sure how they’re related…

I would always be searching for the “best job”.

[Sonjita]

Lol no he can get a new job

[boggboss]

Sounds like a good idea if it's a option

[pickles77]

Do you still talk with him?

[Anonymous]

That sounds like a good idea to me.