My dad always puts me down, Why is this?

[Anonymous]

My little brother stole 3000 pounds from my parents bank account last week and is yet to be punished, I think they are ignoring the problem and putting all the negative energy towards me. My dad has always put me down, I went downstairs and he told me off for not putting the washing out. He says I need to py rent or move out (I'm 17), he chooses when I get my hair cut and I have no say. He sold some of my stuff when I was asleep. He's always in a bad mood. He used to hit me and my brother and has used a belt in the past but can't now because of our age. He always says I'm pathetic, need to get a job and give him the funds I earn and that I'm a disappointment, why?

[one_true_alpha]

It's probably because he's insecure about himself, everything he says to you is pretty much mirrored back at him, because he's the one that is pathetic and is trying to exert too much control over you. This shows that he is a weak man and a weak parent for not wanting you to be better than him, which is what every parent should want, for their child's success. This is what I would want for my kid too when I have one, to be miles better than who I am. I believe you need to confront him and tell him how he makes you feel, and if things don't change then you are just going to have to leave as soon as you can because that's not a health environment for you to be in.

[one_true_alpha]

Thanks for MH, I hope everything goes well.

[RuthAnnGaG]

My dad is the same way he is 70 years old and was not good to me and my younger brother. Just try to fine a job and GET THE H+LL OUT OF THERE. MY DAD still puts me down. IT appears that I could be your mom, but try to do your best why home, I am still the black sheep but I am on my own. IF YOU CAN GET HELP, he may need it too. . WE ARE doing the best to bring our kids up better. so friend FIND HELP FOR your FAMILY, SHOULD NOT DO THIS ALONE. he may not know he is doing this to you my DAD DID NOT until my step mom left him too. Good LUCK

[Anonymous]

I am sorry to here that you dad is like that. I know some are but have no idea why. Just remember that you are better than that. You don't deserve what he is putting you through but you are the better person. Don't worry, whatever happens you will be okay. I suggest that you get a job and move out as soon as possible and enjoy your life. I know that this is difficult though. If you need help then there are support groups out there. I don't know if you have realised but what he is doing is a type of abuse

[Anonymous]

Call child service. Now! That is mental and physical violence and since you 2 are underaged, the service can help you. Your brothees life will go down the drain and you will have strong mental traumas if you dont do something

[Anonymous]

Parents are weird like that sometimes. It's not fair and I don't know why. Have you tried confronting your dad about this behavior?

[Princessofpersia]

Sorry hope things get better. My dad is like that too sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Did your father remarry?

[Asker]

No, he has not

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, then he has no excuse for treating you that way. What does your mom do when this happens?

[Asker]

just tells him to stop then he will shout at her, call her a alcoholic and stuff