My parents found out I smoke cigarettes and weed. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

Both my parents found out I smoke weed & cigarettes. I've been smoking cigs for about a month and a half & I've been smoking weed for a year and a half & I love it more than anything. My grades are good, my attitude is good, weed definitely doesn't effect me negatively, only positively. My mom smoked weed when she was in high school and she's been smoking cigarettes since I was born, even before then. My dad, about a year ago went to a two day rehab bc he was addicted to methadone & smoked weed since I was born. I just found out about this a couple months ago bc my step mom told me. But basically yesterday morning my mom was supposed to take me to my dads. So she woke me up and goes "don't make plans for the rest of the summer" and I said "uhh why?" and both my bowl & my cigarettes were in her hands. I was lost at words. Was I sad she caught me? Of course. Do I regret it? No. I'm a junior in high school I don't understand how she can't expect me to try out these things. Especially when my whole childhood grew up around drugs & cigarettes. My mom has asked me several times whether or not I smoke anything & I always say no. Bc what child admits to their mom about smoking? None, that'd be insane. What do I do or say to her? Of course no parent wants their child smoking anything, but it's high school, everyone experiences shit in high school, everyone tries things out, everyone makes dumb decisions, I just don't know how to come back from this or what else to do? My whole childhood literally has been revolved around drugs & cigarettes. I need help. A lot, I don't want to be grounded for the rest of my life, that's a little ridiculous but it's something seriously everyone does or tries in high school, especially my school. every direction there's a stoner or a smoker, it's just how it is. Help.

[serious]

Well, you may not like to hear this but it seems like you are doing things just because other around you are doing those things, you are everyone makes dumb decisions, so I want to ask you do you also think making dumb decision are okay? or do you also want to make dumb decisions and learn from it? what is it that you want? I know nobody wants to make dumb decisions but I just can't understand your sentence. You are talking about trying things out but don't you think you should care about your health also? don't you think you should think before trying things out?

You may not like to hear this but just because people around you are doing things like that, doesn't mean you have follow them, nobody is asking you to follow such things, you are doing it out of temptation and the urge to do the same, but you don't realize the effect it will have on your health in the long run, it will slowly kill you. You may not realize it now but when you do it will be too late. Hence give this a thought.

Plus once you start developing these habits of drinking, smoking cigarettes, weeks , doing drugs there is no truning back, it's easy to start these habits but extremely difficult to get rid of it. I don't know what you are going to do, really. .

I want to ask you one more thing, you said "you don't want to be grounded for the rest of your life" okay, I understand that but what do you want then , do you want to continue doing these things but you want to know how to keep it as a secret from your parents/your family? you don't want your parents to know about this but you want to continue this? so are you asking ways to do that? OR do you want to get rid of these habits because you have realized that it's potentially dangerous to your life?

[Alvokite]

You seem to believe this is a highschool thing. Fine. Quit now so that's actually true. If you don't do it now, what do you think is going to change a decade from now? You aren't going to wake up one day and suddenly be free of cigarette addiction.

There exist many, many patches and such to aid in quitting. Your background is going to make thus very hard - even moreso than the average user - but you can do it. The first step is staying honest with your step mom about it as it is unlikely that you're ever going to quit on your own. Take advantage of this situation to quit while you are in highschool, it is not going to become easier later. It isn't.

Socially... I assure you there are people who never tried any drugs in highschool. Plenty of people at my school tried them, didn't mean I had to. So I didn't. I wasn't even remotely alone in this.

I imagine it would be hard to identify all the people at your school who are NOT doing drugs. But that is because it is harder to confirm the absence of drug use, not because non-users don't exist. I won't doubt that you have a drug user on every corner (Not like I go to your school) but don't trick yourself into thinking that means every student there is on something.

There is a reason cancer stick companies want to get young people hooked... "highschool thing" can easily become "entire life thing".

Yes, this response is more heavily directed towards cigarette use but pot isn't a great idea either tbh.

[Kay211]

What should you do? ... Accept your punishment, that's what.
It's not "what everyone tries", it's a dumb mistake some people make.

I'd like you to look over "Bc what child admits to their mom about smoking? None, that'd be insane."

It's considered insane because you know you're not supposed to do it. Making excuses doesn't solve anything, so stop making them.

"I need help."

Then quit. Throw all that shit away and tell your parents you don't want to do it anymore. It'll be a lot harder to quit in the long run, so you might as well start now.

[Anonymous]

Well, just because they do that it doesn't mean you should too. But they have no right to be mad—they weren't a good example.

Both weed and cigarettes are bad for you, but I'd prefer my child smoking quality medical marijuana over cigarettes that are full of toxic crap.

[kiler1000]

think so? alcoholism.about.com/od/pot/a/effects.-Lya.htm

[Neko_Chan]

"What do I do?"

Stop making excuses for your actions and accept whatever consequences you receive. You're a child, and you live in your parent's house. Those are both good enough reasons to abide by whatever rules they set.

[Mesonfielde]

Your parents are being extremely hypocritical, but they are trying to do what they think is best for you.

""but it's high school, everyone experiences shit in high school, everyone tries things out, everyone makes dumb decisions""

Actually, they don't.

[heywhisper]

You are responsible for your own actions. You live with your parents so you need to respect their rules. Don't smoke under their roof and accept your punishment. Smoking may seem cool but its unhealthy. Take better care of yourself.

[Cómoestás]

There is only one way cigs will take you, and boy you don't want to go to that place because once you do, there's no going back. I mean do you seriously want lung or mouth cancer?

You put yourself in a situation where now it's hard to get out because you're addicted to drugs. Imagine how much money that is going to cost as time goes by. It's going to hurt you in the long run

Those are the facts unfortunately.

[bloodmountain1990]

Truth and the other thing is no matter how many warnings there are about the dangers of smoking, people will still smoke just because they're addicted. I was a heavy smoker the last 2 years and now I'm quitting because it's expensive, very bad for you, and a waste of time.

[Ulyss]

You should be ashamed of yourself to why you lower yourself to these losers who smoke weed

[exitseven]

Let me ask you this one question. If you had children would you like it if they smoked cigarettes or weed?

[psychomonkey]

18 os the legal age of smoking weed so that ain't all bad but dude cigarettes are hella disgusting. And you should quit smoking.

[BrieLove]

Get ready for an ass beating...

[kiler1000]

not everyone does it... just the stupid ones.

[kiler1000]

that elevator goes only one way...

[MrBurger]

what do you do?
stop doing it, pretty simple ey?

[Anonymous]

just stop doing it!