My dad blocked me on Facebook AND blocked my phone number so I couldn't text or call him :( what do I do now?

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I am 30 years old and am an only child. My parents are still together and we've always been close. I have never been married nor do I have any kids. My parents haven't approved of my boyfriend that I've been with for a year. It's been rocky because of them. I own my own house have a career and all of that so honestly I don't feel like it's any of their business well anyways my dad went and blocked me from Facebook and my phone number. It really hurts my feelings and I don't feel like this is him being supportive. If he truly loved and cared for me I feel like he would talk to me face to face to tell me what his problem is instead of ignoring me. I don't know what to do now and need advice. Now I feel I can't talk to my dad or trust him with things since he feels like he can just ignore me so easy :/

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Well in all due respect, you were the one who started this first. You know that what you were doing they didn't approve, and now you figured you can do your own thing, he figures that you don't want him in your life anymore without respecting that he disapproves of your life choices. At this point, he is hurt. " If he truly loved and cared for me I feel like he would talk to me face to face to tell me what his problem is instead of ignoring me. " I think you know exactly why he is behaving the way he is. I believe he made his stance clear and you ignored them, so he's cutting you off. He doesn't like who you're with. You made it clear to him that it's none of their business. Now you told him in not so many words that what he thinks is meaningless. And your living with your boyfriend. That is more than enough reason for him to cut you out of his life. If my child did something like that, especially when they would be taught to not shack up or have premarital sex before marriage and the reasons why. I probably would have done the same. He's protecting himself now. So I think you need to seriously think about how your life choices affect other people. He does love you. But he doesn't accept or agree with what you're doing. It's your life. Your choice. Yes. He can't stop you or force you. Doesn't want to. But he has to focus on him now. He's only doing the next best thing. There is nothing you can say or do to change his mind. You made your choice, and he made his choice.

BikerGirl89 · Accepted Answer

He is blocking you and avoiding you because he is showing you how hurt and bothered he is. He wants you to see how much this decision you've made to be with a man he doesn't approve of, affects him. Parents love their children and can never imagine watching them move on in life with a man they dont think can take care of you when it is their time to go. Especially someone's daughter.

You are like a delicate flower to your dad. His job as a man and dad is to protect you from anything that can possibly make his little girl unhappy or hurt you in some way. Don't be upset with him that he has done this. Instead try to understand from a parents point of view, regardless if you have kids or not. I don't either.

Even if you think your boyfriend is good for you, parents have this fear that he isn't. Parents know best and we often don't listen because we think we are grown and wiser. Our parents have been in this world and experienced longer than we have. Go over there, have a talk with him. He may not welcome you right away but time and patience will give him some room to think about things and calm down.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

Be the Bigger person And go to His House And... Sit Down, No Frown, And Talk with Dad, Who is probably 'Hurts my feelings' Himself, Plus very Sad.
I Feel that Families who Pray Together Should Stay Together, And Not ever Have to Stand on those 'Ignore me so easy' Ceremonies Here, dear.
Good Luck. xx

LunaJ · Accepted Answer

you left out the important part in your story. you told us the result of something. can't give you advice when i don't have an idea what might be the reason of his act.
first of all, why they dislike your bf?
looks like you're from a normal family and he's for some reason not fits in

marcobanks · Accepted Answer

Your father's being completely sophomoric about the entire situation if he has an opinion he should welcome an open dialogue with his daughter that's sad and I'm sorry that your dad is being such a child about it I don't know what you can do about it it's his loss but I understand that emptiness you feel because you spent 30 years value in his opinion and disrespecting him I think that parents don't understand today's technology in a sense that it's more than just a social media site and it carries a lot of weight to block somebody on Facebook but for people that are a little bit older it's not as severe as it seems to you and his eyes at least that's my opinion he's just punishing you a little bit I guess for lack of a better term

jess99898998 · Accepted Answer

Thats not your dad. Dads don't do that. Thats just some dude yiu happen to know exists. Kinda like my dad. Does your mum know whats going on? Can you still speak to her? If i was you, i'd make the effort to comminucate with him. Then your being a daughter and not following his bullshit ways. If you don't get anywhere then you can say you made the effort. And you'll have to let him go. I had to do the same. I was 27 when i finaly walked away. He broke my heart when i was about 5. And it took me all those years to realise he don't care about me and he's actually hindering my life.

Kreneman · Answer

Your not at fault because you are a grown woman that can make your decision and its your own personal business like you said. Still love your father and give it some time. Allow your relationship to grow more with you and your boyfriend because if the relationship last eventually he will come around. Your dad loves you, he is trying to protect you but at the same time he is regretting it because you did nothing wrong (Be patient and live your life). 😉

notwanting · Answer

Ok, your father is basically trying to play mental seage warfare, I'm only 17 but I'll try my best to help you out, my best guess is to wait it out, don't contact ether of your parents, this will put pressure on your father because your mom will be upset at him, let him know that if he wants to throw shit, it's bound to hit the fan, but don't be angry he's trying to do what's best for you , even though it may be wrong he's trying to keep his little girl out of truble.

hlb76 · Answer

Looks like act of helplessness from his side, he doesn't approve something and doesn't know how to influence you so he thinks it's good idea to show that through Facebook, I don't know your boyfriend, maybe if I was your dad I wouldn't like him but still it's not a way to solve anything especially you're an adult person, I would try to reach him maybe through your mom, explain somehow that it's your life and you're good with it, I think parents should support what's good for their children

GrayWhi2 · Answer

Parents often get angry with their kids if they do something that the parents don't approve of. I think your dad sees something in boyfriend that goes against his ideals or he thinks the guy can't take of you or something. If it's bothering you too much just go and talk to him.

jennybean · Answer

You poor girl it's not fair to, you i, haven't seem my dad most of my life did don't call or come over he never has the time for me I turned 40 and he neverd showed up so I know it hurts right now but justed ask him for a coffe and ask what's bugging him

Anonymous · Answer

first of all!.. you are 30 ,  i am concluding he is above 60!.. that means one leg in coffin, so talk to him and spend a little time with him!..  your parents want a grandchild!.. i can tell!..

Sadly_It_Fell_Off · Answer

That's a tough one. Why don't they approve? Is this a typical move on your dad's part? Is he typically manipulative?

Anonymous · Answer

Hiya love,
What I think you need to do is go around to your partner home when they'll be home. And just sit down an talk to them, then explain to your dad how you feel.

One thing, this won't be easy, but it's worth a shot.

Decentguy · Answer

well its not your fault. you should try asking him whats wrong

hellacray · Answer

Well why don't you just drive over there and talk? I mean I don't know what happened, but maybe you pissed him off.

Bibii8 · Answer

Show him what his missing. If he's gonna treat his only child like this he's the one missing out. Your gonna have ur own family one day so dont worry about it. I know it hurts.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't do anything. Just be in touch with your mother. Eventually he'll get over it.

TheFlak38 · Answer

You think he blocked you just because of your relationship?

HamAndCheese · Answer

It sounds like he's pretty hurt too. I'd just give it time.

krishh0805 · Answer

Well!! You should talk to him and understand what's his problem? Why is he doing so?

Ksmith789 · Answer

He blocked you on social media, so go talk to him in person, he's your dad and you love him.

Divock · Answer

Go face him and iron out these issues

LastNightmare · Answer

How's everythng now with you and your guys?

My dad blocked me on Facebook AND blocked my phone number so I couldn't text or call him :( what do I do now?

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