2 years ago I moved back to my country and my husband agreed to get a visa and move back to my country with me. I went and then it was agreed he would follow when he got his visa. He applied and his documents got sent back as he did not include one document. Then due to the frustration of the long distance we argued a year ago and ever since our relationship has not been too good. He was waiting for another document and his dad was diagnosed with cancer shortly after his documents were sent back a year ago but he still insists on coming to my country but I have not seen him in 2 years as he does not want or ever ask me to come and visit but yet he still says he wants a life with me. But he has not spoken about the visa in 2 months. He will not ring me also. I text him a few times a week and get crazy mad as he is not moving forward with anything and he keeps telling me that I need to calm down before we move on but he won't let me see him, ring him or tell me any update on the visa and he expects me to be calm. He also has me blocked on Instagram, facebook and whatsapp but yet he says he still wants alife with me and he kept saying last year that he would do the visa this month. I am at a loss with him? I was thinking about going over at the end of the month to either sort something out or just file for divorce as I can't do this anymore and I rather speak face to face to sort it out.
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Should I go over to sort it out?
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Sounds like your wasting your time with him. If your married and this is how he's showing his eagerness to get back with you, good chance he's already found a substitute of his own.
I usually don’t believe in ultimatums. But in your case. It could be the best move to get on with your life.
Do you think i should go over first so we can come to a conclusion?
Face to face is the most respectful way to handle something of this magnitude. Providing that you can stand your ground and not be swayed by some sweet talking husband. Plus you can see first hand of the things that he is telling you why he can’t come to your country.
If you decide on divorce. You will be able to get things in motion while you are visiting your husband.
Hope that things work out for the best. Good luck!