Do you think my dad secretly hates me and wishes I was never born? He’s nice to my face but ignores me to the public?

[Anonymous]

I’m 15. My dad is kinda famous (regionally but might be nationally soon). I’m not gonna say who he is. But he’s coming out with an album soon and he mentions my brother and my step mom on it but not me. Like my step mom has two songs about her on it and my baby brother has one. My dad also named my baby brother after his grandpa (I’m not named after anyone), and the song is like a generation song so he could play it to his kids (he’s only 3 years old). My dad talks about not wanting to mess up the kid and telling him about his life expirences when he gets older in interviews. He also says my baby brother was the greatest gift he ever got. He always talks about my brother and rarely me. He also says he wants more kids. I do get along with my dad and step mom but feel left out. When they go out for date nights I have to watch my brother if the nanny isn’t available. I also hate how he takes my step mom and brother to nyc for interviews/ promo and I have to stay in LA with my mom. I live with my dad and sometimes see my mom like once or twice a month or whenever my dad goes on a trip and I have to stay behind because of school. When I was little my dad got full custody of me because my mom had mental breakdowns and he met my step mom when I was 4. My mom and dads breakup was very messy and bad and I was only like 3 months old. My dads always been overprotective of me but ever since my brother came into the picture it’s all about him and I feel like I’m just a walking shadow watching them create a new little family and a burden. I don’t fight with anyone in my house so I don’t know what the problem is. I feel like my dad secretly doesn’t like me.

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[Anonymous]

Your dad shouldn’t be saying those things like I don’t wanna mess this kid up and greatest gift ever about your brother. I don’t know if it was hard for them to conceive your brother or what but that’s just cold. Does your dad think you’ll never see these interviews? I think your dad is preoccupied with your brother because maybe he’s always wanted a son (not saying he doesn’t love you it’s just sons are different than daughters) or maybe the fact that he’s 3 and has a lot to learn and your 15, I mean you practically know basic right from wrongs. 3 year olds require more parental guidance and love than a 15 year old because they are super needy and super dependent. I mean to me, it seems like your dad had you at a young age and went through hard times with your mother and now he’s happy with your step mom and wants to settle down and have kids. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you and that your not part of the family, because you are. He just wants to expand it. As for why he doesn’t have any song for you - I honestly don’t know. That’s cold too. I think your dad is kinda being an ass towards you.

[Anonymous]

Your such a fucking jealous drama queen. If your dad didn’t love you he wouldn’t have gotten custody of you or even bothered to stay in your life. Yeah he may love your brother more but that’s because he’s a toddler. Toddlers are attention seekers. Your 15, 3 years away from being an adult. Adults don’t care if parents love them. They get their own lives. You don’t need daddy to hold your hand anymore. Grow the fuck up and stop being jealous because your brother gets more attention than you. I can see why your dad resents you.

[Masselin]

He doesn't hate you. I got a step dad when I was 4. I can honestly say it can be difficult for a father to connect with a daughter, so he's probably trying to let you get closer to your mother because he doesn't know how best to be a good father to you. He already broke up with your mother, so there's going to be residual guilt. But, he has to focus on his family now. While you are his daughter, and are blood, your step mother is not. Think of it like this. If a lion went and had a kid.. then something happened like another male won over the kids mother, and he moved on to someone else, had a kid with them and now has a family and another kid that wants to be part of that but really isn't fully, the father would protect the first kid from the mother who didn't actually have it because it's not exactly hers so the motherly instinct isn't there... that was a lot. I hope you can understand. Yes it can fuck you up at times but dwelling on it brings a lot of pointless thoughts that will leave you with nothing but scars.

[lonley-harted]

Just sit down with your dad and talk with him tell him how you feel (being left out, how you think he hates you) cause how would he know what your thinking if you dont tell him. I'm sure your smart, beautiful, attractive, funny, nice I'm sure you'll figure it all out. But don't wait till it's you late cause you'll hate yourself for the rest of your life.

[Bear41]

He has custody, but he probably has to get permission from your real mom to take you out of the state of California. I have full custody of my daughter and my ex has only supervised visitation. I do not need her permission to leave the state because my exwife doesn't live in the state.

[Anonymous]

Your dad hates you because no parent totally neglects a child for no reason and loves the other one. Maybe go live with your mom