I hate my dad and want nothing to do with him?

Question

So, my parents got divorced when I was six. It wasn’t until I was about 10 when I realized the kind of asshole he was.

Then, when I was 13... my whole point of view changed. When I was 13 he really let his true colors show and now I despise him. I literally want nothing to do with him.

He’s been in prison for a year and a half now and he recently got out. Yesterday, he called my mom and just hearing his voice, and even acknowledging the fact hat he’s my father makes me sick. Like just hearing his voice made me angry I almost started crying because of how angry I got.

And I know a lot of you are gonna probably say I have daddy issues. Well I don’t, family issues, yes. But not daddy issues, I hate my dad, that’s the end of the story. But I just wish there was some way I could forget about him, or someway he could just die.

Does anyone else here have a family member they feel this way towards?

jc_miller · Accepted Answer

I can't say that I have similar issues cos I don't. I can't say I can give you an insight on how this feels cos I myself can't even begin to imagine how you must feel. But what I am learning from this (thanx for sharing btw) is that different pple are tested differently in in life. And if you can't solve a problem then don't let it get in your way. If it were my dad (god forgive ) I'd probably just ignore him of i couldn't get rid of him. I'd doubt he can hurt u but if you don't feel safe around him then there's always restraining orders. I might have my own problems that I worry about but you sharing what u did made me greatful that I don't have this problem. Therefore, I think it's better for your mental health if you can focus on the positive. Think about taking care of your mum for instance. Appreciate the blessing she is cos recently my friend lost his mother and that really struck me cos I wasn't greatful for mine. MY last advice would be talking to a close friend who can help and listen to you. Also it's not a bad decision to speak to a psychiatrist. There's no shame in that. Trust me they're not just for crazy pple. They can really help tbh.

I said it once, I'll say it again: thanks for sharing. Hope you hold yourself together and get through this. Good luck :-)

Andreas300787 · Accepted Answer

I dont hate my dad. I rarely have such strong feelings for a longer period if timem He left my family when I was around 14. Suddenly my mom had to take care financially for 3 kids. she was a housewife till then. we lost the house and we fell quite hard to poverty. I knew we would make it back out of it but it took us 4 over 10 years to really get back up. For this I could hate him.
But he is just kinda unimportant for me. He is alive, he went back home to another state here in my country and I even have contact with him via social media on birthday, Christmas and such. but often I really forget that I actually have a father. Its really weird. even if I became father myself it could take me sone weeks before I would remember to tell him. Not because of hate, just because he doesn't matter at all.
Try to forget your dad too. Wish you all the best!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I hate my dad too. He's a selfish alcoholic. He mentally and physically abused my mom until she divorced him and he left her with nothing. I was 16 when he went to punch me, caught himself and said if I called CPS that hed beat me until the cops came. I moved in with my mom after that. We were fight on finances and he refused to pay court ordered child support. His drinking has gotten worse, he temporarily lost his job (which to be fair, actually wasn't his fault) but he took advantage of being able to collect unemployment and made my brother pay for my dads mortgage. Unfortunately my brother still lives with him at 23 and feels responsible for taking care of his drunk ass.

Veronica101 · Accepted Answer

I feel that way about my father, I'm not sure I'd wish death upon him though. I also feel that way about my grandma on my dad's side of the family.

GuysConfuseMeMan · Accepted Answer

I've had a family member do some fucked up shit to me and others, but I wouldn't want them to die. Prison though? Definitely.

owens97 · Answer

not that strongly but both my grandads r pretty awful and one I've only seen twice in my life and call him max which is his name sometimes just cause there biological doesn't make them a good person and sometimes even tho they r family u need to remove them from ur life to be happy

dano65 · Answer

My sister and I were angry with each other a few years back. I came pretty damned close to hating her. Maybe I did at times. Wishing people dead is a bad idea. I'm not saying that because I am a Christian so much as I see it as a Karma thing. Does he want to see you? If so, what do you have to lose? Only you can answer that. I don't know. Sometimes, however, it costs nothing to meet and listen. Depends, I guess.

cookie_monster007 · Answer

My family are completely against me. Even when i am right, they say they are right and i need to accept the fact that they are. Even in small things, they make a big problem out of it. Mainly my dad. For example when we sit together to eat and i tqke a big piece of a chicken, he will make me a death stare. I don't know why. Thy always quarrels me with simole things like this. I recently got a job far from my home and i never wanna go to that place again

Billy96 · Answer

Yeah I can't stand. my so-called father... ever since my mom passed away 6 years away!!
Well he's a alcoholic and he's violent af.. but I understand ur attitude that some way he would die.. and im sorry

Dannygingerich · Answer

I'm not a psycho but my family haven't talked to me in a long time but I'm definitely okay with it.
I left home at 16 and regret it sometimes I think but my folks are very religious, and I couldn't make sense of preposterous shit. I would like to think that I love my parents but it definitely can be 😫😫😫, tho they we aren't hostile towards each other

Mrblueballs42 · Answer

Im sorry you feel that way. I wish there was an easy aswer for your hatred. But in the end you will know how to avoid those feelings. For now just try to take every day one step at a time.

as for me used to hate my little sister she wpuld get me in trouble.
I know just avoid her like the plague.

calnewt9666 · Answer

My biological mother. This year will be about the 7th year I've had nothing to do with her. She cheated on my dad numerous times and made me keep it a secret as a kid. Then one day I told my dad and she made it seem like I was trying to cause problems. I had everyone in my family against me untill the guy she was with told my dad the truth. Last words I ever said to her was "don't ruin your relationship with your daughter's like you did with me." She laughed at me the whole time.

themetalhead · Answer

my step-grandma. she pretty much took my grandpa from my grandma. me and my parents and some other family members don't even consider that demon family

Anonymous · Answer

I mean i used to hate my dad.
When I was like 18 and I came back home after a year I also brought my girlfriend back.
She was kinda like punk with tattoos piercings and all that kinda emo
So when I'd opened the door instead of a warm hug he was like
Whos this emo slut you brought back (she was right besides me)
And I punched him lol and we've never talked until today

karahiri · Answer

Some people don't even deserve your hatred. It's too much energy being spent.

SongBird3 · Answer

What exactly is the question? It seems like you already have your mind made up

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I'm in the same situation as you. A part of me wants to hate my dad, but as a Christian I can't have bitterness in my heart.

I really don't know my father, but its hard to respect him as a man. To me he is not a man at all.

rahul_24 · Answer

Sweet Jesus, really can understand you. Don't really have my family members that extreme like. Few of them I don't like and few of them I do like but nothing like that. Hope all goes good in your future

TallAnon · Answer

I think you'll have to accept that the guy paid for his crimes. There's no need to be in contact with him at all, though. Just act like he's dead until he is.

AlphaStyles · Answer

I don't like the way my dad behaves but I am still lucky to have a fathering figure

TheUglyMonk · Answer

"someway he could just die." Yup definitely issues.

shivam12345678 · Answer

I do... Feel free to talk about it... Honestly even I m having this king of problem with my dad it just sucks

sydneyboy · Answer

Wow. Too many feelings on this post. Can't bring myself to comment anything accurate

Anonymous · Answer

You need someone stronger but nicer than him in your life.

moonpie89 · Answer

I can't stand my dad either

sameold · Answer

I'm on the same page girl.

someguy687 · Answer

I understand your pain, it's okay to hate others

Glen68 · Answer

Same with my dad except the prison part

es20490446e · Answer

So what do you want?

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