I hate my dad and want nothing to do with him?

[LeeKenz]

So, my parents got divorced when I was six. It wasn’t until I was about 10 when I realized the kind of asshole he was.

Then, when I was 13... my whole point of view changed. When I was 13 he really let his true colors show and now I despise him. I literally want nothing to do with him.

He’s been in prison for a year and a half now and he recently got out. Yesterday, he called my mom and just hearing his voice, and even acknowledging the fact hat he’s my father makes me sick. Like just hearing his voice made me angry I almost started crying because of how angry I got.

And I know a lot of you are gonna probably say I have daddy issues. Well I don’t, family issues, yes. But not daddy issues, I hate my dad, that’s the end of the story. But I just wish there was some way I could forget about him, or someway he could just die.

Does anyone else here have a family member they feel this way towards?

[jc_miller]

I can't say that I have similar issues cos I don't. I can't say I can give you an insight on how this feels cos I myself can't even begin to imagine how you must feel. But what I am learning from this (thanx for sharing btw) is that different pple are tested differently in in life. And if you can't solve a problem then don't let it get in your way. If it were my dad (god forgive ) I'd probably just ignore him of i couldn't get rid of him. I'd doubt he can hurt u but if you don't feel safe around him then there's always restraining orders. I might have my own problems that I worry about but you sharing what u did made me greatful that I don't have this problem. Therefore, I think it's better for your mental health if you can focus on the positive. Think about taking care of your mum for instance. Appreciate the blessing she is cos recently my friend lost his mother and that really struck me cos I wasn't greatful for mine. MY last advice would be talking to a close friend who can help and listen to you. Also it's not a bad decision to speak to a psychiatrist. There's no shame in that. Trust me they're not just for crazy pple. They can really help tbh.

I said it once, I'll say it again: thanks for sharing. Hope you hold yourself together and get through this. Good luck :-)

[LeeKenz]

Thanks

[Andreas300787]

I dont hate my dad. I rarely have such strong feelings for a longer period if timem He left my family when I was around 14. Suddenly my mom had to take care financially for 3 kids. she was a housewife till then. we lost the house and we fell quite hard to poverty. I knew we would make it back out of it but it took us 4 over 10 years to really get back up. For this I could hate him.
But he is just kinda unimportant for me. He is alive, he went back home to another state here in my country and I even have contact with him via social media on birthday, Christmas and such. but often I really forget that I actually have a father. Its really weird. even if I became father myself it could take me sone weeks before I would remember to tell him. Not because of hate, just because he doesn't matter at all.
Try to forget your dad too. Wish you all the best!

[Anonymous]

I hate my dad too. He's a selfish alcoholic. He mentally and physically abused my mom until she divorced him and he left her with nothing. I was 16 when he went to punch me, caught himself and said if I called CPS that hed beat me until the cops came. I moved in with my mom after that. We were fight on finances and he refused to pay court ordered child support. His drinking has gotten worse, he temporarily lost his job (which to be fair, actually wasn't his fault) but he took advantage of being able to collect unemployment and made my brother pay for my dads mortgage. Unfortunately my brother still lives with him at 23 and feels responsible for taking care of his drunk ass.

[LeeKenz]

That’s awful. My dad refused to pay child support too

[Opinion Owner]

He would refuse to pay child support then get on my case about not joining any groups at school. He didn't understand its because i could afford to because if him.

It ended up biting him in the ass though. A bench warrant was put out for him because of his refusal to pay. He got pulled over for drunk driving and got taken into jail until my grandparents bailed him out.

[Veronica101]

I feel that way about my father, I'm not sure I'd wish death upon him though. I also feel that way about my grandma on my dad's side of the family.

[GuysConfuseMeMan]

I've had a family member do some fucked up shit to me and others, but I wouldn't want them to die. Prison though? Definitely.

[LeeKenz]

I’ve had some family members do fucked up things to me too

[GuysConfuseMeMan]

Yeah, it sucks. Especially because there's nothing I could do about it now. I hope your situation gets better though.

[LeeKenz]

I hope it does. And same. I can’t do anything about it either

[GuysConfuseMeMan]

You can pm me if you need to vent or rant. I'm a pretty open person.

[owens97]

not that strongly but both my grandads r pretty awful and one I've only seen twice in my life and call him max which is his name sometimes just cause there biological doesn't make them a good person and sometimes even tho they r family u need to remove them from ur life to be happy

[LeeKenz]

He’s not even my birth dad

[LeeKenz]

I’m adopted

[owens97]

well there's no real reason to be around him anymore then i would just kick him out of ur life

[dano65]

My sister and I were angry with each other a few years back. I came pretty damned close to hating her. Maybe I did at times. Wishing people dead is a bad idea. I'm not saying that because I am a Christian so much as I see it as a Karma thing. Does he want to see you? If so, what do you have to lose? Only you can answer that. I don't know. Sometimes, however, it costs nothing to meet and listen. Depends, I guess.

[cookie_monster007]

My family are completely against me. Even when i am right, they say they are right and i need to accept the fact that they are. Even in small things, they make a big problem out of it. Mainly my dad. For example when we sit together to eat and i tqke a big piece of a chicken, he will make me a death stare. I don't know why. Thy always quarrels me with simole things like this. I recently got a job far from my home and i never wanna go to that place again

[Billy96]

Yeah I can't stand. my so-called father... ever since my mom passed away 6 years away!!
Well he's a alcoholic and he's violent af.. but I understand ur attitude that some way he would die.. and im sorry

[LeeKenz]

I’m so sorry for you.

[Dannygingerich]

I'm not a psycho but my family haven't talked to me in a long time but I'm definitely okay with it.
I left home at 16 and regret it sometimes I think but my folks are very religious, and I couldn't make sense of preposterous shit. I would like to think that I love my parents but it definitely can be 😫😫😫, tho they we aren't hostile towards each other

[Mrblueballs42]

Im sorry you feel that way. I wish there was an easy aswer for your hatred. But in the end you will know how to avoid those feelings. For now just try to take every day one step at a time.

as for me used to hate my little sister she wpuld get me in trouble.
I know just avoid her like the plague.

[calnewt9666]

My biological mother. This year will be about the 7th year I've had nothing to do with her. She cheated on my dad numerous times and made me keep it a secret as a kid. Then one day I told my dad and she made it seem like I was trying to cause problems. I had everyone in my family against me untill the guy she was with told my dad the truth. Last words I ever said to her was "don't ruin your relationship with your daughter's like you did with me." She laughed at me the whole time.

[themetalhead]

my step-grandma. she pretty much took my grandpa from my grandma. me and my parents and some other family members don't even consider that demon family

[Anonymous]

I mean i used to hate my dad.
When I was like 18 and I came back home after a year I also brought my girlfriend back.
She was kinda like punk with tattoos piercings and all that kinda emo
So when I'd opened the door instead of a warm hug he was like
Whos this emo slut you brought back (she was right besides me)
And I punched him lol and we've never talked until today

[karahiri]

Some people don't even deserve your hatred. It's too much energy being spent.

[SongBird3]

What exactly is the question? It seems like you already have your mind made up

[LeeKenz]

Did you read the last part?

[SongBird3]

Oh ok, than to answer your question I personally dont but my cousins do. One of them has a dad that was never home (because he was off overseas for a job so the eldest had to raise everyone) and another’s dad was just a flat out asshole, never there for them, never appreciated them, probably has affairs. Just not a good guy.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I'm in the same situation as you. A part of me wants to hate my dad, but as a Christian I can't have bitterness in my heart.

I really don't know my father, but its hard to respect him as a man. To me he is not a man at all.

[rahul_24]

Sweet Jesus, really can understand you. Don't really have my family members that extreme like. Few of them I don't like and few of them I do like but nothing like that. Hope all goes good in your future

[TallAnon]

I think you'll have to accept that the guy paid for his crimes. There's no need to be in contact with him at all, though. Just act like he's dead until he is.

[TheUglyMonk]

"someway he could just die." Yup definitely issues.

[LeeKenz]

Fuck you. They’re family issues

[TheUglyMonk]

I never said anything about "daddy issues" I just stated they were issues indeed.

[LeeKenz]

Uh huh sure

[TheUglyMonk]

I'm also not denying the existence of daddy issues but I did not which to address them because your little feelings will be hurt.

[LeeKenz]

They aren’t daddy issues you fucker. I told you that. If I had daddy issues I wouldn’t be complaining about them.

[TheUglyMonk]

I never stated the reason you are acting like this is because of your daddy issues, you are the only one jumping to that conclusion. You seem to be obsessed with the term "daddy issues" so maybe you should do a little soul searching.

[LeeKenz]

I’m not obsessed with the term there just isn’t any other term

[AlphaStyles]

I don't like the way my dad behaves but I am still lucky to have a fathering figure

[LeeKenz]

Yeah I didn’t even have a father figure when my parents were married

[AlphaStyles]

Well at least now you know he is ur dad and I expect him to change after being in prison
Believe me when they are gone you are gonna miss them so every moment with them is precious

[LeeKenz]

Lol no I won’t miss my dad... perhaps you didn’t read the part where I said I despise him

[AlphaStyles]

Ooo I read it and believe me I have seen others despise their dad too but something happens and they became close with their dad

[LeeKenz]

Yeah there’s nothing that he can do to make me close to him

[AlphaStyles]

You sure lolz we live in a strange world
Ying and Yang
Twist and turns

[LeeKenz]

I’m sure. Believe me

[AlphaStyles]

Well if you say so ok but remember
It's a strange world

[LeeKenz]

Yeah I know

[AlphaStyles]

Yeah OK got to sleep now its 5:32 am here so see ya later and good luck 👍

[shivam12345678]

I do... Feel free to talk about it... Honestly even I m having this king of problem with my dad it just sucks

[sydneyboy]

Wow. Too many feelings on this post. Can't bring myself to comment anything accurate

[LeeKenz]

Thanks for nothing then?

[sydneyboy]

Can't comment really because I don't know both sides to the story and it's a whole lot of negativity.

Sometimes people need to see psychologists because of going through things like this. I'd rather not comment than talk shit tbh

[LeeKenz]

Wow... just wow...

[sydneyboy]

What wow? Is anything I said incorrect?

[LeeKenz]

Well I find it surprising you need to hear Both sides of the story because he’s been in prison...

[Anonymous]

You need someone stronger but nicer than him in your life.

[LeeKenz]

I did find someone...

[LeeKenz]

Then we broke up

[Opinion Owner]

Now you needed it more.

[LeeKenz]

Whatv

[moonpie89]

I can't stand my dad either