Well, I'm going to be honest, at first it DIDN'T work, they wouldn't stop calling me names and making fun of me with no reason, so, I used their imperfections and their weaknesses against them, and it kinda worked, but that got me in trouble and this made the chemistry teacher put me in a group with most of my bullies to work with them, she enjoyed seeing me mad whenever she picked groups to work in class. But in the last year since the very first day of class I barely paid attention to them, most of the time I made cruel pranks for them, and then fully ignore them to the point where they got desperated and privately asked me why I was ignoring them and some even asked me if I hate them or if they did something wrong to me. Suddenly the guy who bullied me the most would sit with me and ask me if I was ok or what was I reading, but I never gave him attention, he was weird, in person he would treat me like trash, but on facebook he would message me and even flirt, while at school he would mess with me pulling my head hand off of my hair and throwing it high, chase me, etc, to this day I still hate that asshole. And one of the girls who bullied me was weird too, she often would greet me in a kind way, invite me to hang out with her or inviting herself to my plans with my friends, she even would talk to me about her problems, help me with some classes and offer me food, all of this happened once I fully ignored them, maybe they realized their behavior was not ok or I don't know, but to this day we all are graduated and whenever I see some of them, I don't even bother to say 'hi', the girl I mentioned waves at me when she sees me and I pretend I don't know her, funny thing is that her own 'friends' bullied her calling her fat, stupid, useless, etc. But I will tell you this: They bully people because they don't like themselves and they want to feel good for a moment, so, don't let them ruin your life, if you have to hurt them, do it and show them that you're not weak, put them in their place.
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Ignoring specific taunts did because if you show any reaction or emotion that what they are saying bothers you then they will keep chipping away at that one thing, bullies get gratification out of knowing they can hurt you so verbally you can't ever let them get that. With bullies you have to develop a real thick, you also have to make them think that picking on you is either a bad idea or a wasted effort.
Bullies often have their own issues such as their body issues, absentee parents, abusive parents, emotional problems, sexual abuse and so many more.
My school bully was a very tall fat girl in school that hated me because I was short and skinny and all the boys liked me. She hated herself because she was so fat and manish and her home life was shit, her dad broke her arm because she wanted to quit the violin and he wanted her to marry her cousin.
Punching their damn faces sure worked. But I didn’t want to, I just did it because it was the fastest method I deduced. It sucks bc I don’t like to be remembered as someone who would resort to violence, but the game changed when they tried to intimidate my friends. Like let’s just stop this now. Kamekameha.
Being an adult is different because you can’t just go getting people. You have to learn how to throw fire back at adult bullies without raising a hand. Sometimes violence is “easier” in the moment, but in the long run it’s better to prevent it and still stand up for yourself.
Yes and no. Some bullies will eventually get tired of bothering you when they don't get a response from you hence yes it works. No when the bullies get bolder until they get a response from you. But at the end of the day, don't take shit from bullies. Make sure you stand your ground and fight them back when necessary. Get the cops involved if need be. Make sure your family knows and the school/work so when things get worse, you are not alone. Speak up. Don't be scared/shy. There is nothing to be ashamed/scared about. Expose these cowardly bullies.
Interesting question on this one. The way I look at this. Teachers can only suggest to the best of their abilities. Does that mean they have the best of the best of the best type of suggestions within the realm of education? no. Teachers merely have an education degree. They don't have a behavior psychology degree nor do they have a criminal justice degree. If any person has a degree of any kind, that would imply they are qualified to think on their own. Teachers are qualified to think on their own in the field of education,... that's it, that's all they are trained & qualified to do. That's it. Handling bullies who will inevitably turn out to be possibly criminals all because they weren't nurtured right by their parents is beyond their scope of work.
They can suggest for you to just "Ignore them", but that doesn't rule out their "thinking on their own" type of suggestion is going to be the best of the best of the best tactic which will work everytime. I have met plenty of those type of bullies who grew up not being nurtured right or just not being nurtured by their parents at all,... and already some of them I once knew are already criminals/violent offenders. These are the same people who are close to my age & unfortunately haven't changed at all.
I could go on, but I'm sure you get the point. 1 of my pet peeves is when these bullies go over your personal boundaries, if you have to physically defend yourself, well you might as well. You shouldn't have to be pushed around by them.
I tended to ignore them naturally but guess what? I got bullied for 17 years so, clearly, it's bullshit.
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I was bullied like hell, and ignoring them never worked for me. I think the trick is to figure out a safe place to go and not be weird for a few minutes. For me, that place was in the creative art programs. I got to be around the other freaks and weirdos for 90 minutes, 3 times per week, and I honestly believe that those minutes saved my life.
That ignoring bullies thing only worked in certain cases. I know people say that violence isn’t the right answer, but in many cases, a punch in the face was what got people to back off - once they realised I wasn’t a walk over and pretty tough for a girl. Most of the people I hit were actually boys who thought they were tough as well.
One of them pulled my shorts down when I was at the park (I would’ve been 12) and I was so furious I hit him harder than ever hit anyone before. My fist actually hurt for a good couple of hours. Safe to say I knocked him off his feet and he was left on the ground practically crying and unable to move. His face was a picture the next day, big black eye that he couldn’t actually open because it was that swollen 😂.
He deserved it though, he tortured me for years until I did this, and I don’t regret it to this day!Yeah it did for me, they got bored and moved onto to someone that would always rise to their BS. You gotta remember people that bully often have shit lives of their own or very limited intelligence so once they no longer get that rise that makes them feel smarter or less concerned with their own shitty lives they give up and move on; they make still make the odd comment here and there but that is still better then bullying.
Alternatively you could just sucker punch them in the nose, one hard punch will get you in loads of trouble but that bully will most likely never try that shit again... I had that happen to.I was bullied but I dodn't give a fuck to the point I didn't even realise it was bullying. I mean it had no effect on me whatsoever.
There was only one time when they tried to beat me up, but it didn't work out too well due to my extensive martial arts training. Which resulted in one fucker going to the hospital, the rest escaping wirh minor bruises.
Since a camera caught the events, charges were pressed against my attackers by default, and the moron whose jaw I broke in self defense got three years in prison suspended, for aggravated assault in group with a weapon (he had a plastic pipe in his hand).
He had to serve the sentence due to a minor theft 2 months later...
After that, everything ceased.I was bullied many years at school. Ignoring its a bad idea. If someone bullies you if your in school or your kids. Best option in my idea. Take them to self defence class and teach them how to defend them selfs. I remember I was bullied I was really shy. At first when it jsut started bullying me. I used to replay, but then I just stopped replaying , but bulling didn't stopped it became even worse. Because they think you are afraid of them thats why you don't respond. Best is stand up for your self. Show your not afraid or best like i say take self defense class or go exercise and beat them up. Sadly i think there is no other option. Before I didn't chassed one bully and started hiting him in front of whole class. I was bullied, but after this my class mates started shaking my hand and stopped being mean to me.
My brother tied a pillow to the washing line and taught me to punch, I broke the ring leaders nose. The school did nothing to stop me being attacked so self defence seemed more practical, and the school wanted my family to punish me but my family stood up for me because they’d made plenty of complaints about me coming home with black eyes or ripped clothes. But I doubt anyone would recommend anyone does that these days because most kids are carrying knives etc
The only way these cowards will leave you alone is when you punch them in the throat. I was bullied a few times in school but nothing severe or for long. I was told to shut up and had pencils thrown at me (pathetic right?) then she pushed me down the stairs, luckily I had hold of the stair rail so I didn’t fall or anything. After that she left me alone but it may have been because I told a teacher.
They didn't think it was fun when I didn't react or do anything back so they eventually quit. They didn't stop talking about me behind their backs but honestly I didn't talk to people until I was in 7th grade so nothing they said ever really came back to hurt me. I just read my books all the time and stayed to myself and I was happy like that.
Sometimes you just got to kick the crap out of someone for them to respect you and leave you alone. Even if you get the crap knocked out of you instead, they will respect you for it. Ignoring bullies on line is one thing, but in real life it is different. If you just be quiet and take it they will continue. I suggest you take a boxing/kick boxing class in college so at least you will know how to kick ass.
Nope.
Bullies only stop when they are distracted by something else.
You need adults to step in.
Good idea to walk in pairs, film on your cell phone and every time it happens go straight toHere’s the problem with this question, I grew up with a narcissistic mother who was my biggest bully I have ever had. She made all the other bullies I had look like twerps. I was already desensitized to them. It didn’t stop them but it was easy to push them aside. I wish I could ignore or beat the crap or whatever worked for the rest of you worked for her. I knew punching her wasn’t going to work because I knew that she could call the cops and they would believe her over me or something like that.
I was bullied during Pre-School. The advice I got then was what ACTUALLY fixed the bullying. The advice was to "stop being an easy victim and if they want to fight you, you give them back as much as you can even if you will ultimatively lose the fight".
Whenever people tried to get to me, I sticked with that mindset and they never pulled through.Ignoring them just fans the flames... the ONLY way to get people to stop fucking with you is to fight back... it doesn't matter if they kick your ass or whatever... once they know that if they talk shit to you they are gonna get punched in their shit talking mouth they will move on to weaker prey...
Nope. Nope. Nope. Of course ignoring does not work, and it's not even an option. Bullies will find their ways to come to you, bother you and harass you.
When your backpack was scribbled with markers and cut with knives, it's reality. You can't ignore it. Being an ostrich never worked on bullies.I went to HS for 3 days. Got escorted out of King County by the sheriff's department, back on a plane to Philly. I stuck a gun in a kid's mouth, letting him know exactly what the deal was if me, or my friend, saw anything but his back, on sight, anywhere in public. He'd been bullying a friend of mine. Times were different then. We didn't have all this mushy stuff. That was a portent of things to come, but such is life.
Ehh not really. People just liked bothering me for no reason. But I've always stood my ground though. If someone even dared tried touching me it was on😂😂 that was all the way in middle school tho. I am a changed person now and everything is much better now anyways. I've learned not to care about others opinions about me as much as i use to
Well once on my first day of highschool a kid said to one of his friends "oh, I know him... he's gay"
And I replied with "no fuck you, your fucking gay"
And he just looked at me in shock like o_O
And never said anything about me again after that... So I suggest Manning up to your bulliesFor me it worked time to time. I remember one bully kept telling me "aren't I bothering you? Doesn't this bother you? TELL MEEE!!" And it got them so mad I was ignoring it and shrugging my shoulders as if I didn't care. And they left. But that only works a few times, I don't think it works in groups.
I'm glad I learned early that if you ever have a bully who threatens to beat you up, just call their bluff. Kids will always act tough but most of them don't want to get caught or in trouble.
I had a guy in high school who tried to use his height as a way to make short guys feel bad, and one day he called me a midget and I was just like "aw, who's a big boy? Keep drinking your milk and you'll keep growing" and for some reason that kept him quiet.We try our best to avoid fights. However, bullies don't change their ways. So, ignoring them doesn't doesn't really solve anything. Also, I wasn't a patient young lady. I was spunky enough to confront them and express how much I despised their ways.
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