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It is abusive. The parent may not think it is, but it is. Hitting the kids body... so they feel emotional and physical pain... that's abuse, period. There is other ways to teach and discipline a child.
Very bad parenting. Having a moment of disobiedeince with your child is your own previous failure to implement a good example . Being that great example in the first place is what is required , not authority out of control to resolve a issue you yourself didn't teach properly in the first place.
On the other hand , something very seriously impailed of a heanious crime or etc... only then I will propel such discipline.
The answer depends on how it is administered. If it is done in anger , or if it is done in a way that causes significant bruising or injury, then it is abuse. If it is done for the purpose of trying to correct your behavior, it is parenting.
Psychological studies have shown that children who are disciplined by beating show similar psychological traits as abused children. Also it just teaches the children that violence is an acceptable way to solve conflict and teaches them to hate authority.
Me and my brothers had our share of them. It's so funny when we think of it now however my dad would be very lenient, he would never hit us hard, he would just scared us.
I don't have a dad just a mom and she hits me hard..
Your mom seems to be pretty strict and that's definitely abuse.
Undeniably abuse as parents should never beat up a child under no circumstances.
It is beyond bad parenting, it is a misuse of parental authority.
My mom hit me like 30 times last night with a belt
This is an intolerable attitude and you would be in your right to inform the authorities or even the school about the physical abuse, but not without consequences to your mother.
No action of yours warrants such a physical punishment.
If you have belt marks on your body, take pictures of them for your own safety and record the time when you took the pictures. If possible, take a picture of the belt, just to be on the safe side and to have evidence on your side.
Okay and I'm out of school
Being out of school does not diminish the gravity of the treatment. You are a minor and as such, are entitled to legal protection, even more than adults.
Okay.
PLEASE!!! Never do that, all it will do is make your child scared of you.
I don't have kids. my mom hits me
Its not abuse whatsoever.
Some kids need a good belt whipping because their little time outs isn't doing shit.
Guarnteed all these school shooters were also part of the “time out” clan.
If I thought you were acting inappropriately would you mind me bringing the belt to you and giving you a good whipping?
If i was a little kid yes,
My parents did it all the time infront of a lot of people. Not only was it more embarressing i learned my lesson!
I meant now, I genuinely don't think there's a difference. If you behave badly I don't see why I can't use the same method as you would use on a little child.
Because im grown now!. Big difference. Im disciplining myself. You learn from what your taught. Your argument will get nowhere with me. Trust me
And grown people can't misbehave and be unaware of their misbehavior? If you can't take a whipping at an adult age then do you really think it's appropriate for a child to receive that treatment?
Not trying to argue, trying to make you think about your own arguments.
You really think we are grown up at 24?
The whipping is a jail sentence. So yes, there's still discipline.
I dont want kids but if i were to have them theyd get whipped. End of story.
All misbehavior is a jail sentence?
Well that's probably for the better.
Depends on why?
I got hit when I was a kid, most times I deserved it. A few times, my mom went overboard, but I forgave her for it.
Getting a physical consequence is healthy for misbehaving.
To me, it's bad parenting. However, I'm not a parent yet so my opinion on that doesn't huuuugely count.
75% say bad parenting? This is the snowflake generation and why grown people have to have cookies and puppies when their candidate loses. I’m thankful for every lick I took, without them I’d be dead or in jail by now.
As a middle easterners I was cackling at most comments lol. Our parents are very particular on discipline
Highly agree @cgraves561
I get the need to protect what your parents did and the feeling of "it worked for me" but it simply is a bad parenting form and there are just way better methods to parent a child without using scare methods. Yes you don't have to turn out bad but there are also many who turn out for the worse.
I agree there are many snowflakes but that's also because many have better lives than they had during childhood and thus go too far in what they let their children have. Also the whole telling your child that they are special is a problem. Overprotective parents is a big problem that didn't exist as much in the past. However it has little to do with physical punishment.
As for middle east and many other countries they will catch up eventually. I know my ex whose family beat her up when she was growing up. She turned out great but she was also very tormented and damaged and had attempts of suicide. What she went through is nothing unusual in her country but it doesn't mean it's good. We have much to learn about parenting still but physical "discipline" will never be proven to be effective in the long run.
We weren’t abused or tortured, just disciplined. 🌹
It doesn't matter what you want to call it. It's not a good parenting method. I'm not trying to make your parents look bad, it's just a matter of lack of knowledge. Something you can correct with your own children in the future. You know the world evolves and we learn from our past mistakes. There is no scientific evidence that suggests that physical "discipline" is positive. Don't think it even says this in the bible or quran or whatever that you should use physical force on your children when they disobey. So can't even argue that.
Yeah true, won’t be using physical violence with my kids. In today’s world we have many things which can help us in raising kids the right way e. g YouTube, classes, books etc.
Wow, what a bunch of candy ass shit. My son gets a spanking when he needs it, it’s not abuse, it’s not physical violence, it’s just discipline and raising him right.
@cgraves561 yep im still in agreeance with you on this
@cggraves561 Like I said it doesn't matter what you want to call it it's simply not an effective method to teach a child. It might get them to obey you but that doesn't mean it's effective. It simply teaches your child that if you are physically stronger than someone you can make them do what you want. There are further negative aspects with your method. If you really think your method is positive for a child's development then there surely would be some research that agrees with you. Just that there isn't.
There isn't really much room for opinion on this specific topic but if you are confident then you can conduct research to prove your theory and disprove what all research has shown in this topic so far.
As a child, I was also disciplined. I remembered my mum hitting me with a blunt hard object which left bruises on me for a few days. I was caned and also beaten by my parents.
That's not to say I hate them. I loved my parents to pieces, esp I missed my mum a lot.
I was a good kid at school, not because of the discipline I received, but because I was fortunate that the peers I hang out with happen to be the studious and nerdy type. I have a good education and a well-paying job now and it's definitely not because I was disciplined and beaten" by my parents. In fact, my success in life streamed from the fact that I did the opposite of what my parents advise and not afraid to take risks.
I get your "spare the rod and spoil the child" attitude. But can you just stop to consider that maybe sometimes maybe communicating with the child, letting him know what he did wrong is more effective than hitting him and making him fear you?
Sometimes, fear just makes the child unwilling to make that mistake again due to fear of punishment, but he may not understand why it is wrong or bad.
If that is ALL a parent can come up with … he/she would be better off childless.
My mom spanks me all the time
Tell her that when you are old enough, one day in the furure, you will repay her kindness by giving HER backside a good pasting. No woman is too old to get a taste of their own medicine!
Bad parenting. While it might be acceptable for adolescent children 18+ younger is a big no and hell I don't want to be spanked not me nor my girlfriend.
Terrible parenting. My siblings and I were incredibly good children. My parents hardly ever needed to do more than mention spanking for us to get back in line, and even that was rarely necessary.
its great parenting. my dad whupped my ass all the time, its practically the only time he noticed me, but i am better off for it
If you're afraid you might hurt your hand you're hitting them too hard.
Update: Never hit a child, it's abuse.
She hits me with belt shoe band and last time with a spone
Not bad parenting or abuse. It’s just an old fashioned way of discipline!! Simple as that.. same as the wooden spoon no harm done.
Kids used to get the cane back at school.. it’s just what happened.
I have had my share and i believe it is good discipline.
it's discipline hands don't work on tough athletic teens
Smh.
I was spanked with a belt I turned out Awesome. My parents are my best friends. Kids these days want to control the parents or they threaten to tell the school board. Lame duck city
If you think using a belt is a OK thing then you are fucked up.
Read a bit further... she is the one being hit. Kids often receive their parent's actions with a different POV.
@BlackRoseFairy my "you" have a global meaning. Its written to people in general that read it.
I had the same opinion as you. Because her age.