Guys would you let your daughter post photos of herself in a bikini?

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For me I won’t as creeps will always comment on her pictures I wouldn’t want my daughter to post indecent photos of herself online

nightdrot · Accepted Answer

As the father of two boys (9 and 8) and one little princess (age 6), I would handle this with the calm deliberation and dispassionate analysis that I handle most parenting situations. girlfriend - the mother of my three children - is rolling her eyes. However, hear me out.

First, for the first 12 or so years, my little princess will hold imaginary tea parties with "Bo-bo" and "Pinky" - her stuffed animals - and wear frilly little dresses and make doilies and read Louisa May Alcott. Having thus set the scene - my girlfriend is rolling her eyes.

She is Daddy's little girl and always will be. Moreover, she has two older brothers. So when she goes off to high school they will provide Daddy the muscle to protect his little princess from the predatory creatures that other parents call their sons.

True, to be sure, my number two son is a little cuddler and not much of a fighter. So I assume that he will protect his sister with reasoned and thoughtful discussion with strange boys who give his sister unwanted attentions. Informing them that his younger sister is a work of art, not to be in any way addressed by them unless she comes across, while walking, a mud puddle. In which case, said strange boys will gallantly throw their shirts over the mud puddle so that my little princess may walk across without getting her shoes dirty.

girlfriend is rolling her eyes, but of course I am being entirely realistic about this. As I am sure you will agree.

However, if sweet reason fails. Oldest brother's life motto has always seemed to be, "Why take the trouble of walking around an obstacle when you can just walk through it?" Suffice to say that I have no doubt that he will handle the unwarranted attention of young men toward his sister with his usual calm, thoughtful style - and the howitzer his mother and I are pretty sure he keeps stored in his bedroom closet. This, of course, will be encouraged by me as an entirely reasonable and proportionate response to any boys who may have romantic intentions directed toward his sister.

Yes, my girlfriend is reminding me that my eldest is often on - as he has already been as we are pretty sure that he was the only pre-schooler who served on the team that took out Osama bin Laden - tours of duty with the Marine Corps. However, we will schedule my little princesse's schooling around my son's military responsibilities. We are a patriotic family after all.

Last, but not least. Should my little princess decide to wear such a bikini as the one featured in this question, or for that matter show any interest in modern boys or modern music, I will handle it with my usual calm, reasonable and proportionate manner as I always do.

girlfriend is rolling her eyes - again.

Very simply. It will be off to a thick walled convent on a high mountaintop overlooking a remote valley in a distant region of Portugal.

girlfriend is, again, rolling her eyes and is mumbling something about how it is going to be a very long 18 years. Not to worry, though, I am sure we'll be fine. No. Really.

megaman242 · Accepted Answer

I would say if she do that she would not get any money from me even after I die.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

What makes you think you can control what your daughter posts online? If she's not a minor, she can do what she likes. You might warn her that her images, if she's scantily clad, will be perved over by some percentage of the online community. And five years down the line, she might regret posting such photos when her potential boss looks up her resume and profiles online. Whoops!

Kateeeyyyyyy · Accepted Answer

Depends on how old is she and where is the photo taken, like if she's on the beach just sitting on a sand, no bitchy poses or stuff like that, she's just showing that she's enjoying summer then I guess it's fine, but if she's like 15 and she's in a room just posing in her bikini in front of the mirror then nah, wouldn't allow it

lumos · Accepted Answer

As long as she's underage, no, I wouldn't let her. But once she's an adult, there's really not anything I could do to stop her. I would prefer it if she didn't and I would maybe talk to her about it, but ultimately it's not my decision to make once she isn't a minor anymore.

Dongtai · Answer

We’d sit down and have a talk. I’d ask her to why she wanted to post bikini photos online.

She’d say something like body positivity and confidence. I’d then ask her why that stuff is influenced by the opinions of social media followers.

I’m hoping that I raise my daughters well enough so that when they get that age, they won’t feel the need to validate themselves through social media or showing off their body. My goal is that my daughters will have really high levels of self esteem and confidence by age 10. They won’t feel the need to validate themselves through looks because they would have been hearing and being treated that way for years.

But if said scenario happened. I’d say no. But I’d show her a way to dress that’s sexy and classy. A lot of girls don’t know that there’s a balance. You can be sexy without being trashy or a church girl. It just takes more effort. It’s easier to throw on a bikini and post a pic online and get instant validation from hundreds of people who have no idea who you are.

N192K001 · Answer

If I had a daughter, I would discourage the use of social-media from the very beginning.

By the time she's old enough to wear such attires, hopefully social-media will have died off as a passing fad (when people finally discover how its being use to manipulate society, create digital echo-chambers amplifying the already-dangerous hyper-polarization that's endangering the Union by tearing even friends & family apart, and just how much it's eroded privacy-rights that used to be so basic just generations ago) or the idea wouldn't even come to mind as something she would even want to do.

abc3643 · Answer

Without directly answering your question, what is the difference between:

1) my daughter uploaded a picture of herself in a bikini and my wife uploaded a picture of herself in a bikini? Or my sister? Or my niece? Or aunt? Or mom? Or your daughter, etc?

2) my daughter/wife/sister/etc uploading a picture of herself in a bikini versus wearing a bikini at a public beach like Rockaway Beach in NYC where tens of thousands of men can see her in her bikini and leer at her live right there?

3) my daughter/wife/sister/etc. uploading a picture of herself in a bikini and a Victoria's Secret "angel" parading about in a bikini (or bra and panties) for millions to see on national television? After all, those women are some men's daughters, nieces, sisters, wives, aunts, etc.

Seriously, what's the difference?

Anonymous · Answer

I think if someone is posting a pic, they are looking (or should expect) to get comments/attention. I'm not justifying the "creepy" comments at all, don't get me wrong, I'm just saying, if you don't want any, don't post the pictures to begin with.

But if it was my daughter, unless she's under age, it's her choice. There's nothing wrong with a bikini first off, but also I'm not going to "tell her" what to do. She'll learn. People usually have to learn form themselves these things. Plus, how am I going to stop her? ie, she'll do it one way or the other if she really wants to. I can't physically stop her or watch her 24/7

RonnyBR · Answer

yes, why not? where is the connection between photos in bikini and indecent photos?

If you mean porn i say no, but where is the problem with bikini? So you don't accept the nature?

we aren't born with clothes, if we wear something is for the hygiene

there are nudist peoples, so you hate them?

GreenPenguin · Answer

Sure, but I'd comment on it to make sure she knows that anyone can see it. It's not dangerous to post a bikini picture, but it's easy for it to lead to other things that might end poorly. If I'm aware of what my daugther, or son post online, I am able to comment on it online or in real life.

The fact that your parents see your post is a real eye opener for most people. They might know it already, but knowing they could and seeing that they do is a very different experience.

sawno · Answer

Yup, ill make sure she knows any potential risk of the common kind of perhaps you should not post this pictures. And then i am entirely fine with what she does even if she posts nudes online. Its up to her to decide what she wishes to do, but its up to me to make sure she knows what she is doing.

xkildy · Answer

The old term think before you act. Applies here. those pictures will forever be on the internet whether she deletes them from the place that she uploaded them or not they will forever be there such as other people that make videos and post them those videos will be on the internet and repost it to other sites forever as long as the internet is there. so before you post a naked picture or a picture of yourself in and exposing conditions think before you act..

SirRexington · Answer

I don't know if I could realistically be able to control that without being too restrictive as a parent. I would hate that she does it. I would ask why and explain why she shouldn't but with the way I plan to raise my kids I really hope she comes to the conclusion on her own.

RegularTK421 · Answer

No, I would not. In fact, I would caution her about social media in general, and it's security risks. Women are always the weakest link when it comes to cyber security because of their general need of attention, but she has to understand that there are stalkers, identity thieves, and other crazies scouring the internet for victims. If she wants to advertise her body, she can do that when she is an adult and out of my house.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

if I ever have a daughter. I would hope she does not post. overly reveling pictures online or sends them to other people even.

lucas262 · Answer

Eh eh eh im 1 of those creeps that post on a girls picture im offended.

Long as they are of legal age and they put pics online they know when they are doing.

That said there is no excuse for being a perv or Somthing like that. I would tell her she is going to attract the wrong kind of attention from the wrong kind of guys if she is under 18 no she s not posting pics.

_SOARER_ · Answer

Never, I don't know why fathers are so afraid of being controlling. Its your daughter, its ok to be "Controlling"
Its your duty to protect her dignity, even if that means protecting her from herself and her dumb ideas.

Wish more fathers were active in fulfilling their role

MusicMayhem · Answer

Oh right. So a girl posts provocative pics of herself, basically naked looking for attention like a pathetic loser because she has no social skills to get guys, yet somehow its the guys that get blamed and called creeps for taking notice. Hmmm...

DamnSam · Answer

With a privacy crash lession before... yes but not that "half just string" ones
As a pic for her boyfriend, probably yes... as public like fb or insta, fuck no, internet if full with underfucked creeps... so Fuck the hell NO

Depends too how old she is... now she is 6 month... so plenty time to keep her in a tower with monsters around xD

DizzyDesii · Answer

My kids won't even be allowed to have social media until theyre 18. My mom did the same to us and we didn't even care to have it by time we graduated HS. GAG is about as close to social media i’ll ever get

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Never. And I agree with the mother in my country who had a video made on Facebook one or two years ago about her castigating her 12 year old daughter for posting pictures of herself in her underwear for some boy to see; she was right, the behaviour is never appropriate.

GoodEnoughThen · Answer

Hmmm, seems a bit attention needy to post pics. I would probly explain to her the risks/consequences of posting certain material online and then leave it to her if she is of a mature age. One out on the Internet it's there forever...

Account · Answer

Of legal age? Her body/her choice. I'd mention to her that I do not consider it a good idea, but the decision would be hers.

Daniela1982 · Answer

If a girl puts pics of herself on line in a small bikini she deserves what comments she gets as she is showing skin for attention or for guys to go gah gah over her.

Ben228 · Answer

If she's under 18 or under my roof I'd like her not to post stuff like that. But over 18 & not under my roof I'd not like it, but it's her choice.

ThaDeejay · Answer

I don't know honestly.. i don't have kids, and by the time my daughter is old enough it's probably a different world. If you compare the world our parents grew up in with the world we grew/ grow up in, a lot has changed. (Wifi, insta, fb, phones) And in 20 ~ 25 years, it's probably gonna change much more.

Pyrofox · Answer

I'd tell her I'm all for it but if I catch her with a creep as a boyfriend. I'm gonna remind him he's gotta be a man for my girl and not some push over of a fake gentleman.

Glue-Sniffer · Answer

Like your daughter will get your permission before posting such a picture. You talk like you are 80 years old.

jgokgotit · Answer

I would not be able to stop her. However, I will be extremely blunt about the consequences of her actions and then let her do whatever she wishes and learn the hard way.

YvanKarma · Answer

In what sense? if she is in a group pic, or at the beach and such. i dont see the prob. Now, if it comes down to doing these bikini haul stuff and such, i'd rather she at least be 17

wankiam · Answer

i wonder how many parents answer this whilst posting pics of their kids in the bath as babies

leahzrc · Answer

I mean if its a group photo or has a purpose it's okay, but to post a bikini pic to show off her body is like... why?

NickiB · Answer

Depends on the pics. I mean in a bikini at the beach or water park with family or friends not a problem.

JKingOff · Answer

Depends on how old she is. If she's 18 then I really don't have a say. Besides I'm usually looking at those kinds of photos anyway. I think it's normal after a certain age.

Apple1996 · Answer

Every girl just hides that shit from there parents anyways so it doesn't matter if their dad let's them or not

Browneye57 · Answer

Everybody is a 'creep' at 21 years old, right? What about the slut posting the pics? And you have a teenage daughter? Impossible. Are you just dumb or what?

Emay71 · Answer

I would, but only if I have access to her social media as to make sure it is not sent privately to any creep trying to get inside her pants.

HeyMikie · Answer

It would depend on her age and where and how she was posting the pictures, as well as the content of the pictures themselves. That having been said, I would discourage it and point out that once something has been posted online, it never goes away.

SydneySentinel · Answer

Underage, hell no. Legal, I can't stop her but she'd know there's no way I'd tolerate that.

KristenKT · Answer

I use one as my cover photo on here, but yeah if my dad knew I put that photo on here or even had an account on here he would for sure freak out!!

Juxtapose · Answer

She's an adult, she can do whatever the fuck she wants. I would have to be a sad, sad person to try and impose some kind of puritanical standard on a grown-ass adult.

OverShadowed · Answer

I wouldn't like it, but I think it's key in a parental role to show a level of trust and respect, how else can you trust your parents to confide in them? I don't trust mine

unluckyplant710 · Answer

I guess it depends on where there going but generally to answer the question. No if it was my choice I wouldn't but I don't see myself being thatttt controlling of a father.

Thatsamazing · Answer

What do you mean "let" her. She's going to do it if she wants to and isn't going to do it if she doesn't want to. We don't own our daughters' bodies-- they do.

JP_Man · Answer

It's not up to me. The Important thing is to educate her on what could happen and how to make her own choices. I would not stop loving her for that and it's human for females to love male attention.

Tslaveee · Answer

They do it without the parents knowing of course. She wants to sexualize her body for male attention to boost her confidence since for women it comes from being desired and for men it’s from accomplishments

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yeah , got be careful cause there is IP numbers attached to pictures so we got be careful what we post online. No matter what the picture is

Shahax · Answer

I would want her to be tactful and not post them with sexual appeal on mind

R4vedave · Answer

If she's comfortable with it and that's what she chooses to post, then that's her choice.

GreatnessBack · Answer

If she's an adult, then there is nothing I can do other than let her know the dangers of posting.  Besides, bikini pics? Who gets hyped over that? 12 year olds?

Harmseygrace · Answer

Yeah nah. I'd beat her like a bloody red headed stepchild.

Miristheiss · Answer

No. She is not allowed to wear a bikini in the first place.

justawhiteman · Answer

If she's over 18, its not my place but I wouldn't feel comfortable about it.. under 18, hell no

worldscolide · Answer

If she's 18 or older... And not living in my home, I wouldn't care... If she is under 18, not only no but hell no...

Cybernizer · Answer

Absolutely not, I would confiscate her phone and gove her one long lecture if I found out she was doing that.

nik4play · Answer

I would hate it, i would wisen her to the ways of the world

Anonymous · Answer

If she is younger than 18 no I wouldn't allow her to post those kind of photos but once she turns 18 I have no say in what she is allowed to do

xyz94 · Answer

If the girl is 18, the father can't do anything about it.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

It's better than sending 'nudes' in any case. We're not living in 1900 - are we?

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well she should be old enough to make her own decisions, as I would if so! Cancel phone plan, credit card..

lernulo · Answer

To forbid it, is the best form to make her use it more. But I would have a chat about why does she want to do it...

FabianChang · Answer

Let? I want to see you try. You think all girls ask for their daddy's opinion before doing anything online? Lol no

broncobryan · Answer

My daughter is grown she can do whatever she likes. But I'd like to think I raised her better than that.

updog45 · Answer

Not like that. If you go to the beach now you will see the 14-16 year old girls wearing thong bikinis, insane.

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