Guys would you let your daughter post photos of herself in a bikini?

[Rosabelle98]

For me I won’t as creeps will always comment on her pictures I wouldn’t want my daughter to post indecent photos of herself online

[nightdrot]

As the father of two boys (9 and 8) and one little princess (age 6), I would handle this with the calm deliberation and dispassionate analysis that I handle most parenting situations. girlfriend - the mother of my three children - is rolling her eyes. However, hear me out.

First, for the first 12 or so years, my little princess will hold imaginary tea parties with "Bo-bo" and "Pinky" - her stuffed animals - and wear frilly little dresses and make doilies and read Louisa May Alcott. Having thus set the scene - my girlfriend is rolling her eyes.

She is Daddy's little girl and always will be. Moreover, she has two older brothers. So when she goes off to high school they will provide Daddy the muscle to protect his little princess from the predatory creatures that other parents call their sons.

True, to be sure, my number two son is a little cuddler and not much of a fighter. So I assume that he will protect his sister with reasoned and thoughtful discussion with strange boys who give his sister unwanted attentions. Informing them that his younger sister is a work of art, not to be in any way addressed by them unless she comes across, while walking, a mud puddle. In which case, said strange boys will gallantly throw their shirts over the mud puddle so that my little princess may walk across without getting her shoes dirty.

girlfriend is rolling her eyes, but of course I am being entirely realistic about this. As I am sure you will agree.

However, if sweet reason fails. Oldest brother's life motto has always seemed to be, "Why take the trouble of walking around an obstacle when you can just walk through it?" Suffice to say that I have no doubt that he will handle the unwarranted attention of young men toward his sister with his usual calm, thoughtful style - and the howitzer his mother and I are pretty sure he keeps stored in his bedroom closet. This, of course, will be encouraged by me as an entirely reasonable and proportionate response to any boys who may have romantic intentions directed toward his sister.

Yes, my girlfriend is reminding me that my eldest is often on - as he has already been as we are pretty sure that he was the only pre-schooler who served on the team that took out Osama bin Laden - tours of duty with the Marine Corps. However, we will schedule my little princesse's schooling around my son's military responsibilities. We are a patriotic family after all.

Last, but not least. Should my little princess decide to wear such a bikini as the one featured in this question, or for that matter show any interest in modern boys or modern music, I will handle it with my usual calm, reasonable and proportionate manner as I always do.

girlfriend is rolling her eyes - again.

Very simply. It will be off to a thick walled convent on a high mountaintop overlooking a remote valley in a distant region of Portugal.

girlfriend is, again, rolling her eyes and is mumbling something about how it is going to be a very long 18 years. Not to worry, though, I am sure we'll be fine. No. Really.

[nightdrot]

Note: I have no earthly idea why the age of my second son was turned into an emoji. Suffice to say that he turned eight this past summer.

[megaman242]

I would say if she do that she would not get any money from me even after I die.

[Screenwriter]

What makes you think you can control what your daughter posts online? If she's not a minor, she can do what she likes. You might warn her that her images, if she's scantily clad, will be perved over by some percentage of the online community. And five years down the line, she might regret posting such photos when her potential boss looks up her resume and profiles online. Whoops!

[Kateeeyyyyyy]

Depends on how old is she and where is the photo taken, like if she's on the beach just sitting on a sand, no bitchy poses or stuff like that, she's just showing that she's enjoying summer then I guess it's fine, but if she's like 15 and she's in a room just posing in her bikini in front of the mirror then nah, wouldn't allow it

[lumos]

As long as she's underage, no, I wouldn't let her. But once she's an adult, there's really not anything I could do to stop her. I would prefer it if she didn't and I would maybe talk to her about it, but ultimately it's not my decision to make once she isn't a minor anymore.

[Dongtai]

We’d sit down and have a talk. I’d ask her to why she wanted to post bikini photos online.

She’d say something like body positivity and confidence. I’d then ask her why that stuff is influenced by the opinions of social media followers.

I’m hoping that I raise my daughters well enough so that when they get that age, they won’t feel the need to validate themselves through social media or showing off their body. My goal is that my daughters will have really high levels of self esteem and confidence by age 10. They won’t feel the need to validate themselves through looks because they would have been hearing and being treated that way for years.

But if said scenario happened. I’d say no. But I’d show her a way to dress that’s sexy and classy. A lot of girls don’t know that there’s a balance. You can be sexy without being trashy or a church girl. It just takes more effort. It’s easier to throw on a bikini and post a pic online and get instant validation from hundreds of people who have no idea who you are.

[N192K001]

If I had a daughter, I would discourage the use of social-media from the very beginning.

By the time she's old enough to wear such attires, hopefully social-media will have died off as a passing fad (when people finally discover how its being use to manipulate society, create digital echo-chambers amplifying the already-dangerous hyper-polarization that's endangering the Union by tearing even friends & family apart, and just how much it's eroded privacy-rights that used to be so basic just generations ago) or the idea wouldn't even come to mind as something she would even want to do.

[N192K001]

Clarification: "By the time she's old enough to wear such attires, hopefully social-media will have died off as a passing fad (when people finally discover how its being use to manipulate society by controlling what people can/cannot see, create digital echo-chambers…"

[abc3643]

Without directly answering your question, what is the difference between:

1) my daughter uploaded a picture of herself in a bikini and my wife uploaded a picture of herself in a bikini? Or my sister? Or my niece? Or aunt? Or mom? Or your daughter, etc?

2) my daughter/wife/sister/etc uploading a picture of herself in a bikini versus wearing a bikini at a public beach like Rockaway Beach in NYC where tens of thousands of men can see her in her bikini and leer at her live right there?

3) my daughter/wife/sister/etc. uploading a picture of herself in a bikini and a Victoria's Secret "angel" parading about in a bikini (or bra and panties) for millions to see on national television? After all, those women are some men's daughters, nieces, sisters, wives, aunts, etc.

Seriously, what's the difference?

[Anonymous]

I think if someone is posting a pic, they are looking (or should expect) to get comments/attention. I'm not justifying the "creepy" comments at all, don't get me wrong, I'm just saying, if you don't want any, don't post the pictures to begin with.

But if it was my daughter, unless she's under age, it's her choice. There's nothing wrong with a bikini first off, but also I'm not going to "tell her" what to do. She'll learn. People usually have to learn form themselves these things. Plus, how am I going to stop her? ie, she'll do it one way or the other if she really wants to. I can't physically stop her or watch her 24/7

[RonnyBR]

yes, why not? where is the connection between photos in bikini and indecent photos?

If you mean porn i say no, but where is the problem with bikini? So you don't accept the nature?

we aren't born with clothes, if we wear something is for the hygiene

there are nudist peoples, so you hate them?

[GreenPenguin]

Sure, but I'd comment on it to make sure she knows that anyone can see it. It's not dangerous to post a bikini picture, but it's easy for it to lead to other things that might end poorly. If I'm aware of what my daugther, or son post online, I am able to comment on it online or in real life.

The fact that your parents see your post is a real eye opener for most people. They might know it already, but knowing they could and seeing that they do is a very different experience.

[sawno]

Yup, ill make sure she knows any potential risk of the common kind of perhaps you should not post this pictures. And then i am entirely fine with what she does even if she posts nudes online. Its up to her to decide what she wishes to do, but its up to me to make sure she knows what she is doing.

[sawno]

The only thing i won't allow is things that are considered illegal, so no underage nudes.

[xkildy]

The old term think before you act. Applies here. those pictures will forever be on the internet whether she deletes them from the place that she uploaded them or not they will forever be there such as other people that make videos and post them those videos will be on the internet and repost it to other sites forever as long as the internet is there. so before you post a naked picture or a picture of yourself in and exposing conditions think before you act..

[SirRexington]

I don't know if I could realistically be able to control that without being too restrictive as a parent. I would hate that she does it. I would ask why and explain why she shouldn't but with the way I plan to raise my kids I really hope she comes to the conclusion on her own.

[RegularTK421]

No, I would not. In fact, I would caution her about social media in general, and it's security risks. Women are always the weakest link when it comes to cyber security because of their general need of attention, but she has to understand that there are stalkers, identity thieves, and other crazies scouring the internet for victims. If she wants to advertise her body, she can do that when she is an adult and out of my house.

[Reaperbot666]

if I ever have a daughter. I would hope she does not post. overly reveling pictures online or sends them to other people even.

[lucas262]

Eh eh eh im 1 of those creeps that post on a girls picture im offended.

Long as they are of legal age and they put pics online they know when they are doing.

That said there is no excuse for being a perv or Somthing like that. I would tell her she is going to attract the wrong kind of attention from the wrong kind of guys if she is under 18 no she s not posting pics.

[_SOARER_]

Never, I don't know why fathers are so afraid of being controlling. Its your daughter, its ok to be "Controlling"
Its your duty to protect her dignity, even if that means protecting her from herself and her dumb ideas.

Wish more fathers were active in fulfilling their role

[MusicMayhem]

Oh right. So a girl posts provocative pics of herself, basically naked looking for attention like a pathetic loser because she has no social skills to get guys, yet somehow its the guys that get blamed and called creeps for taking notice. Hmmm...

[Thatsamazing]

This.

[DamnSam]

With a privacy crash lession before... yes but not that "half just string" ones
As a pic for her boyfriend, probably yes... as public like fb or insta, fuck no, internet if full with underfucked creeps... so Fuck the hell NO

Depends too how old she is... now she is 6 month... so plenty time to keep her in a tower with monsters around xD

[DizzyDesii]

My kids won't even be allowed to have social media until theyre 18. My mom did the same to us and we didn't even care to have it by time we graduated HS. GAG is about as close to social media i’ll ever get

[Dchrls78104]

Never. And I agree with the mother in my country who had a video made on Facebook one or two years ago about her castigating her 12 year old daughter for posting pictures of herself in her underwear for some boy to see; she was right, the behaviour is never appropriate.

[GoodEnoughThen]

Hmmm, seems a bit attention needy to post pics. I would probly explain to her the risks/consequences of posting certain material online and then leave it to her if she is of a mature age. One out on the Internet it's there forever...

[Account]

Of legal age? Her body/her choice.

I'd mention to her that I do not consider it a good idea, but the decision would be hers.

[JNewbb]

You're saying the government tells you the age beyond which you can not instruct your own kid?

What if they reduce legal age back down to 14?

At the end of the day if you, as a parent, give your kid an instruction, you're executing your duty, and if they choose to disobey without good reason, at least you can say you did your part.

[Daniela1982]

If a girl puts pics of herself on line in a small bikini she deserves what comments she gets as she is showing skin for attention or for guys to go gah gah over her.

[Rundown]

basically