Is it really so bad to live in your parents basement?

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People who live with their parents are smart in my opinion. You can save money and pay off debt early. You can help your parents out too. If you're not a burden on them, what's the harm other than a stupid stereotype?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

The answer isn't really a yes or no. It's mainly about the intent. At the end of the day is really nobody's business that you live in your parents basement. But if you told them about dating wise then yes is really is that bad because now you're not really focused on building a future with a person, you may only thinking about yourself. The debt is technically your debt. And everything else is practically something that you got to fix. But other than that. Is still something for you to handle. And only you in a sense can really help yourself by not telling everybody your personal business.

Well I understand that you trying to be smart, but in the end you really want to focus on having your own place. Still take care of your parents which is a noble decision to make. But in the end it says a lot of people are going to view it very negatively regardless.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

It can be especially if you want any semblance of privacy. Pretty hard to get a girl ready to go when she’s wondering if you’re dad will walk in or if your mom will keep talking to you about dinner through the door :/ plus nothing says “immature” quite like a dude in his late 20s that still lives in his family’s basement.

OmNomaly · Accepted Answer

If you get along with your family I see no issue in it at all. Americans are usually pushed into a stigma of having to buy their own houses, otherwise they're failures. Family homes is not an uncommon concept. My parents helped me out when I was a kid. So why can't I live with them and help them out with income?
For some folks it could be a matter of privacy. But if that's the case, learn to mitigate sounds.. use foam noise cancelers or turn your music up, turn a fan on to disrupt the auditory vibrations in the air.

But some folks don't get along with their parents. Maybe the kid is a PoS, maybe it's the parent's. It's not a one size fits all solution. But financially if you can do it, it makes the most logical sense to me.

Prof_Don · Accepted Answer

If done strategically, living at home with your parents in adulthood can set you up better for your future!

Yes there are trade offs, such as less privacy for dating and sex, dealing with the stigma from other people, and adhering to parents’ rules in adulthood does involve swallowing your pride a bit (ex. no smoking or drinking in the house, chores, doing errands for your parents, them asking questions about your whereabouts, etc.)

The issue is where the is NO plan and that person is just wasting away their time not trying to accomplish anything.

SageWisdomMan · Answer

If you live with your parents past the age of about 20 you are a loser. Now, I'm not talking about people with health issues, or those that hit a bad spot in life and needed some relief. That can happen to anyone and its totally understandable.

But healthy and able young people who aspire to live with their parents well into their 20's are immature and show an inability to take care of themselves. This is one of the underlying problems in our society today. We've trained younger people to believe they are children at that age of 25 rather than adults at the age of 18.

Pack your s**t and get out on your own, be an adult and take responsibility for your life. And, let your parent have THEIR life back instead of being a lifetime burden on their good will.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

There is nothing inherently bad about living with your parents into adulthood. It is far more common now compared to when I graduated from college. As long as it is OK with them, then I think it is fine. Like you say, it gives you a chance to get ahead financially. And in today's world, new college grads tend to owe a lot for student loans.

RichO22 · Answer

There nothing wrong with living with parents. I mean to be honest I lived with my parents til I was 30.. laugh it up but tbh I didn’t had a reason to move out. I mean I paid their bills and helped around the house. Til I started dating and realized I needed to space if I wanted alone time. Also cool to invite friends over when you want to chill. But then again if you’re living at your parents save money you’ll be glad

Snakeyes7 · Answer

In this day in age where a bunch of microscopic airborne spiky spheres enable our governments to control our lives enough to decide if you can have a job or not, this kind of lifestyle is only going to get more common so we might as well embrace that fact.

Heiniken · Answer

The issue is with jobs vs. cost of living. 99% of people cannot afford to live on their own with what jobs pay.

Its stupid to have to put up over 40% of your income for a shitty one bedroom apartment that you do not own.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

I'm not sure why it is frowned upon. Due to the economic situation in many parts of the world most people live with their parents. My girlfriend's daughter lives with us and she is almost 30.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Wouldn't it be awesome if you actually had a separate exterior entrance/exit instead of going through the main door? Also, having your own kitchenette/dinette would be nice so you can learn to feed yourself instead of mooching off of your parents and their kitchen fridge & cupboards. Then, there's also that issue about doing your own laundry with your own laundry supplies.

Anonymous · Answer

That is if they actually do that. However, some (probably most) just mooch off of their parents.

And also tbh complete independence esp as you get older is a turn on because it tells others that you can live on your own, has a sense of responsibility, has career, etc. Ofc this isn't always the case but that is what most people including me would assume tbh.

Sweetener_ · Answer

Honestly it's more understandable for a woman, but for a man not really. As a man it's really important that when you reach a certain age you leave your parents house, it'll teach you how to be responsible and independent and it'll make you more mature in my mind.

matty6500 · Answer

It's important to get out and start getting a grasp on life yourself when possible. Living in your parent's basement isn't going to get you that life experience. If it is absolutely needed for financial reasons, okay, but don't stay longer than necessary.

The_Inquisitor · Answer

in the years before these days yeah it was bad now its financially more secure to share a home with someone if you can't afford to move out.

Amaoctober · Answer

I would say no, i would rather stay at my parents place than my friends. We all have a moment when things don't go as we planned-plan, so we always have an open door to our parents, responsibility never ends to our children. Not matter how old, a child is child to is parents. People are different and we think differently, some might say differently.

Altree · Answer

Depends. It becomes worse as you get older. You should at least be trying to pay rent to your parents while being there. Its ok if your in a rough patch and working hard to pull out of it. Its not ok to be a mooch.

coachTanthony · Answer

---------------yes unless it's temporary but we all know most times it's not. It's for the lazy kids whose parents enabled and will now suffer the rath of that lazy kid through most of his adult life living the their basement.

Bandit74 · Answer

Socially, it's pretty bad.
Most people will look down on you, especially people that moved out early and especially women.

Financially it's pretty good. You'll be able to save/invest far more money than you would otherwise be able to.

lightbulb27 · Answer

it's fine, I lived at home for a while, then my parents lived with me. smart move... put $ in the bank, financial stability. Just cost me some time that's all. I'd rather have the stability.

R3DthatDude · Answer

Do what you got to do to get on your feet and move out. This generation is plagued by this because of schools ripping them off so it’s actually common, however don’t get comfortable because that’s when it becomes bad.

Bananaman177 · Answer

It's not normal for families to split apart for no reason.  It sure does help realtors make a ton of fucking money, though.

Kaneki05 · Answer

It's just kinda a stereotype especially if still closer to teen. But it's not very viable later on if you want a relationship.

Don-__-Don · Answer

If you're doing it to help you reach your goals then no, it's not a bad thing.

slatyb · Answer

The biggest problem is the lack of privacy which makes it awkward to entertain a date.

douride2 · Answer

I don't have a problem with it. As long as they are contributing to the house hold and not living there freeloading.

Texaskid1 · Answer

We were poor growing up.  We never had a basement.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Bruh you trying to get a crib in this housing crisis? 😂😂😂😂

Anonymous · Answer

If you are paying rent and supporting them it's unlikely you are paying down debt. Most people do it just to free load.

blondfrog · Answer

As long as its your dad's basement and not your moms.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

How many who live in mommy's basement fit your idealized view?

IlluminatiExposed0 · Answer

It's not ideal but for a lot of people it's the only practical option.

dpy87 · Answer

If you're saving money and don't care then it ain't an issue. Its only a problem if you're lazy.

Iron_Man · Answer

Better than being homeless

Skadouchebag · Answer

really good points there.

Gedaria · Answer

Why not if it works for you..

Keyboardkat · Answer

Uh, but then where do they put the train set?

supercutebutt · Answer

It is bad because basements flood.

LastQueenOfScotland · Answer

Depends on the situation and circumstanc

Zeus_66 · Answer

There is no hope for our great nation.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on the reason why.

Jack9949 · Answer

You won’t be attracting women lol

Babygirl_S · Answer

It made me giggle a bit.

QuietRunner · Answer

as long as you pay for it

veral · Answer

Yeah that's true

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No..

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