How do you react when someone that is NOT your partner has offended you but they seem to have no idea that they did?

[Still-alive]

So this is not about what you do if this happened in a relationship, but instead with either a friend or an acquaintance whom you may talk to regularly. lets say they did or said something and it made you upset in some way and they seem to be completely unaware of the offense they caused for you what do you tend to do? could be a joke, a comment, or anything and they just continue to act and talk to you as if no offense occurred.

I would tell them upfront how they upset me and avoid doing it in the future. if they do it again i will drop them

I would probably just stop talking to them altogether with no warning or 2nd chances

I would give them the silent treatment until the realize their error, until then i won't talk to them normally

I would try to continue and act like i wasn't offended at all but if it keeps happening i would speak up eventually

I'd do or say something else (please say)

[CrazyGirl2]

It ENTIRELY depends on who the person is, and WHAT kind of person they are! There are some people who are just SO sweet they would never deliberately offend anyone, but on the opposite side of the spectrum are those types who are constantly throwing around “single entendres” and acting all innocent! “What? Me? No I meant something completely innocuous, YOU are the one who read ill intent into it!”
Oh come on! You know the person meant it exactly as is was received, they just cowardly hide behind the “it was a joke” thing! So, yeah… if I know them, and I know damn well that they precisely do this kind of thing all the time, maybe its time to drop them like a red-hot coal! However, if negative or inappropriate behavior is completely out of character for them… I’ll always give them the benefit of the doubt!

[Still-alive]

where do i fall then? lol :P

[CrazyGirl2]

Oh, was this about you?

[Still-alive]

no but im just curious. you can be honest with me :P

[CrazyGirl2]

I don’t know you well enough. I guess you’d fall into the “just ask him what he meant” category. While you can certainly be overtly sexual, you also have some other situations where you defend women who are being attacked, or spoken to inappropriately by others. I think it would just take time for me to get you know YOU better before I DARED to assume I knew your motivation w/o even asking you. Was that fair?

[CrazyGirl2]

By which I mean was I being fair to you?

[Still-alive]

yeah totally fair. and hey feel free to get to know me more, im a pretty open book :)

I am overtly sexual but can filter it out for people.

[CrazyGirl2]

Well, like I wrote, “It just takes time to get to know…”. I don’t believe that merely asking questions allows one to get to know someone. I guess if knowing someone were a mathematical equation, it would be something like, T+Q I (I + T) = K. Where T=time, Q=questions, I=information, and K= Knowledge
In other words asking questions over time multiplied by other information plus time, equalsTruly Knowing someone. (Well as best as one person can ever truly KNOW another.)
It just takes time, sweetie.

[Still-alive]

it does i didn't mean right away lol. i dig the equation though

[CrazyGirl2]

Lol 😂. Yes there are few things a good equation can’t solve… or at lest help explain?

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Depends on what im offended about. Is it something they said? I would ask questions to want to know why they think that way.

Is it something they did well if it was to me I would say I didn't appreciate that because of... If it was something to themselves its not of my business to be offended so id let it go its their body and they want it or believe its right then great we can still be friends. doesn't affect my life day in and out.

I can agree to disagree perfectly fine we all have our personal truths those are things you won't compromise on just cause mine dont match up with my friends doesn't mean there horrible people!! We just have different opinions and desires and thats OKAY. Thats why we are two different people

[ChrisMaster69]

Had this a few times over the years, I have a fairly thick skin and simply let stuff slide. If possible will take them aside quietly and tell them what they said and context of why I did not like it.

Only had a couple times I’ve reacted hugely negatively. One the police where called, the other we all got banned from a pub, shit happens. .. I rarely would stop talking to someone if they were not aware of what they said, shit I offend people by breathing at times.

[snackthatsmilesback]

A is the closest to what I'd do but I usually confront to get a explanation.
Probably they either didn't think about how it sounded or they didn't know something about me. If the former cool, misunderstanding. If the latter maybe they don't wanna talk anymore (bc I'll reply), or maybe the dynamic shifts a bit and we just talk about different stuff instead.

[crazyish]

I would want to know if I offend someone so I'm pretty upfront about it if someone I know offends me. I'd wanna know if it was intentional or not and then decide from there. But it's actually really hard to offend me where I stop talking to someone all together.

[Still-alive]

I can tell you :)

[crazyish]

You better 🙂

[PaynefulPleasures]

When a friend/ aquaintance, maybe a new beginning in life were to say something offence to me, I would be constructive not destructive with my wording to let them know that what they said or did was offensive. Sometimes we do & say things we find funny but others my not. So when others do the same it's nice to let them know where you stand.✌️

[menina]

Depending on what happened I would either stop talking to them and I wouldn't give a second chance or I give them the silent treatment until they realized that they made a mistake.

[Still-alive]

ehhh i don't like either one of those actions, but to each their own i guess

[menina]

Well and I don't like to be offended. Living in fear is stressful so I must be always read to defend myself.

[menina]

*ready

[SandandWaves]

If I feel I need to ask a question, or feel I should talk about it, I will. Sometimes, it takes me hours to (think, what should I do)

[Still-alive]

And are you ignoring that person during that time you need to think?

[SandandWaves]

Am not the ignoring type. I will think bout it at night, while everyone is sleeping, keeps me awake, etc. or still talk with that person while thinking about it. or, just not talk for about an hour, not too long.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Happens every time i talk to a trump supporter. Republicans & i can respectfully debate, but once we're done debating we're talking about our favorite sports team (GO BROWNS!)

[HawkPerception]

I usually just speak my mind. If someone says something out of line, I'll tell them and if they refuse to take it back I either give them silent treatment or cut them off depending of the severity of the comment or action.

[Jaylaaa2000]

People who know me, will tell you i am brutally honest. If i don't like what you said to me.
I am going to make it very clear how you just made me feel.

[TurboKid]

I don't think I do anything. Well, if they have no idea of it, it probably wasn't actually offensive, no? I'm probably taking it too personally? So typically I'd just try to stop being offended.

[zoe2187]

I’d try and make a joke. Or if I was in a bad mood I’d make an ass out of myself and say something rude.

[loves2learn]

I’d give them the benefit of the doubt first. If it keeps happening I would nicely say something.

[Joshua0213]

Its hard to offend me and most the things that would are obviously offensive

[Agape93]

I’ll make sure they know

[Still-alive]

Does it even happen that much for you?

[Agape93]

Not really. I’m hard to offend but very easy to piss off lol

[Still-alive]

Got that impression yes lol.

[Agape93]

Lol.

[Still-alive]

What would you say pisses you off the most? So i dont accidentally do or say it around you? Lol

[Agape93]

Long as your not a sex offender or other such creep, you’ll be fine lol

[Still-alive]

Awesome i am neither. Well i might be a plain old ‘offender’ but mainly of trumptards and conservatives generally

[Agape93]

Same lol

[NorthAfrican]

I don't react
Im not confrontational

[Still-alive]

So do you stop talking? Or just pretend it never happened and continue talking to them?

[NorthAfrican]

I prétend it never happened haaha

[Still-alive]

Ok cool. I have been in situations where im casually talking to someone then they out of nowhere they begin ignoring me and id only learn later that i made them upset. It was pretty frustrating.

Anyways im happy you dont do that :p

[exitseven]

Who needs this kind of crap in their lives.

[collie22]

i probably would blabber tell the got the message

[J9inva]

I don’t get offended.

[karaspara]

Probably option D