How old is too old to spank your kid?

[Scarecrow13]

What age is it no longer acceptable to spank your kid? If you oppose spanking altogether you can also comment and tell me what discipline method you would use.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

I'd prefer to not use the spanking method. I don't know if it's some kind of trauma growing up in a black household, but it just makes me very uncomfortable.

If I ever have kids, giving them a spanking as a discipline is a no for me. I'd just take whatever they are possessive of, hide it somewhere where they can't possibly reach and wait for a month to give it back to them.

My stepdad had stopped spanking me when I was 14 or 15 because he thought I was old enough to learn. When I did got very angry and start telling and swearing at others in the household, he told me, "I'm trying not to use my belt on you!"
Logically speaking, I don't think a parent's belt should be used on kids who are very stubborn and on teenagers who understands more than the adult does. The belt doesn't scare me because it wouldn't make the situation any different nor would it put me in my place. Yes I know from right and wrong, but don't try to make me corporate with you if I don't like you. I don't like my stepdad. I never had. I think I did when I was 3 or 4 because I used to call him dad. But as I turned 5 years old, I understood him. He gives me the image of an ignorant, short-tempered bastard that has been in and out of a school for bad kids, went to prison in his teens and never finished high school.

Getting older, it's extremely hard for him to convince me that he'll do this and that for me. I don't care what he does, there's nothing that he can do to earn my trust and love. He's already a bad person.
Living in a black household since a child, I've realized that they don't consider being whooped by a drop cord nor a switch (a skinny, weak, broken part of a tree) as abuse. I've always been sensitive to realize that none of that is discipline, just straight up abuse. Basically, whatever they get their hands on, are used for spankings. I knew getting my body tore up with a drop cord was wrong. It just didn't feel normal at all.


I can't file a damn verbal abuse report because my little half sister (13), little half brother (11) and my own mother always denies any abuse going on. The two siblings doesn't want to be taken away from their mother. I just didn't care. I'm the person that is like: whatever goes, goes.

[LilyMoondust]

Im so sorry 😔

[Youryeodongsaeng]

@LilyMoondust It's fine. I'm going to leave my hometown after I finish a 2-year college here in my hometown right after I graduate high school. After going to a 4-year college in my state, I'll leave for a state very far away from my hometown so I won't have to see those fuckers anymore.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Spanking doesn't do shit. You want to punish a kid nowadays keep them away from any & all electronics.

My parents never had to spank my brother & i, from the moment we were up & moving, we learned the word "no" & what was expected. If you start on day one, you dont have to play catch up later.

[ohshee]

First of all why do you want to hit your kid I used to give beat when I was a kid I just get beat with a belt and I mean beat swore up and down that I would never ever touch any of my kids if I had kids well I had two kids I never had to spank them I never had to raise my voice.
And why do you have to discipline them why don't you teach them a few simple words goes 10 times farther than hitting a kid with your hand a belt or anything else.
A very calm quiet voice goes further can yelling and screaming because when you yell and scream what are you teaching that kid you're teaching a kid when you want something you have to yell and scream to get it

[ChrisMaster69]

Totally against spanking.

there are numerous other methods that work.

even simply sitting down and talking it through, making them realise it’s wrong.

also actually treating them as a young adult, or not as a child, and learn them to talk correctly, learn them respect from an early age, right and wrong,

take time with your kids and they will learn stuff.

also to me a father should never physically discipline his kids.

A mother is more than suited to it, even then I do not agree with it.

[Mamaganja]

My child is 3 and I’ve might’ve spanked her a total of 3 times. I don’t like to, but man I swear this child is trying to kill herself. I’ve only done it when it comes to her safety. I think spanking depends on what the punishment is for. For petty things like talking back and not listening, she’ll get timeout and her Nintendo Switch taken away for the rest of the day. But for safety, she gets tapped on dat ass and probably will until she’s about 12.

[Mamaganja]

Also, I’d like to point out that as a child myself, I used to get beaten blood/black eyes/etc. I also don’t prefer to do spank. But some kids just need it in my opinion. For LEGIT reasons, not cause you just want them to be your little punching bags.

[MCheetah]

12 or 13, *maybe*, but honestly, you're never too old to get an ass-whoppin'.

And for the ones that are "uncomfortable" spanking their kids... It's because you're white and upper middle class. That's why.

[Apple1996]

I'm white but still spank my kids

[MCheetah]

@Apple1996
Then they probably won't grow up to be spoiled little sh*ts, then. 👍

[mrfoox]

I would probably use words rather than discipline. If my child do something wrong, I want them to understand it, not just to get hurt. I don't want my child to fear me

[bamesjond0069]

Never too old. My girlfriend is 18 and i spank her and its quite effective. As long as they act like a misbehaved child its appropriate. Although the older they get the more leeway they will have to make their own mistakes but damn sure believe if my any age child even say 25 came to my house and i found meth in his stuff id whoop his fucking ass till he couldn't even walk or sit to drive back to the drug dealers house.

[Apple1996]

I dont think a 25 year old meth addict would care if their dad spanked them 😂

[bamesjond0069]

@Apple1996 they would how i would do it. Id do it at the level they do it in some 3rd world countries to criminals.

[Apple1996]

Once my kids hit about 5 I stop spanking them. I'm not big into acutally spanking them anyways. Its more of a slap on the hand, pop on the leg type of thing

[blank_expression]

When your kid beats you up is probably the cut-off age.

[Kas19]

I don't like the idea of hitting kids so none for me.

[EmmaMary]

Both my husband and I will never, ever lift a hand to any of our children.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I have unfortunately grown up getting hit as a child and I definitely made a solid oath that I wouldn't do the same to my own future children so neither in my book.

[ToastyOats]

Only pedos spank their kids. Just give them a noogie or flick their ear or something. Crazy, NAMBLA probably tried to start the spanking thing to sexualized children. People are so dumb.

[FoxnEagle]

Once it starts hurting your hand more than it hurts their butt :D

[SlightlyEccentric]

Spanking would be a last resort if all else fails. As far as your question goes, I'd say once a kid hits 13, its time to stop.

[exitseven]

I never spanked my kids. I wanted to teach them non violence.

[Malono]

I don't ever need to spank my daughter. I just put my eyes on her and she knows that she is in a trouble

[MannMitAntworten]

When it hurts your own hand to much to spank them. At which pain, employ other options….

[NYlatefun]

You should never use any type of physical or even verbal violence on kids, it leaves marks for the rest of their lives.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Well it kinda depends on how you view things…… Heh heh heh….

[lpoots]

so you beat your child up
but would not beat an adult on the street
you are a bully

[Smegskull]

I think once it stops being a physical punishment and becomes a humiliation punishment.

[Agape93]

12 should be the last year. At the latest.