Is my sister overreacting or she is doing the appropriate thing to our mom during this pandemic?

[Anonymous]

My sister is married and she lives with her husband. Like her I do believe this virus is real and we both try to take care of ourselves and try to follow the health protocols issued by our Government. But the way my sister follows the guidelines differs a little bit with the way I take care of myself. My sister is a bit more paranoid about it and she is more afraid than I do. She is the one who believes, wwe have to stay at home and hardly go out, and if we have to go out should be only for super necessary things. Like I said she lives in her house I live in mine and each of us take care of ourselves in a different way. But here is the catch, she is more concern of me and my brother who also live with me beause my brother and I lvie with our senior mom, so according to my sister we have to watch out more for our mom, cause she can't do it as she does not live in the house, the reason more she is becoming nosey and a little more afraid about the whole issue. At the house in order to take care of mom, she is hardly out from the house and my brotehr and I are the ones who go out to run house errands. My sister does not even want my mom go out if she could, she rather mom to stay at home always in order not to risk her to catch the virus being outside, even if she is vaccinated alrayd cause still she can catch the virus. My brother and I are not vaccinated yet. But with this pandemic the mental health is also very important and be sane. otherwise you become "crazy" being just at home and not go out for some fresh air at least with this I dont meant to go out and gathere with people and not make distance, etc At t least to go out to places where no many people are around and see different environments or nature. I believe that senior citizens need to be out once in a while to receive fresh air and not stay home all the time.

For this reason is why my sister with this pandemic she hardly stops by and visit us, she does

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it rarely, she says she does not want to risk mom and get her the virus. When my sister and her husband comes to visit us in the house she and her husbadn wear masks, even among us and we are just 5 people and she ask my brother and I to wear mask inside our own house as well when she comes but my brother and I do not do it not even mom, but she and her husband wears mask and dont get too close to mom. Her husband is vaccinated already. The thing is that my sister since she does not like mom

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to go out much, she seem not concern much about her mental state like she may want to go out and be outside the house for a while and unwind, she rather want her to stay home cause the risk is very little that is why when my brother and I tell our sister we are going out somwhere even just for a car ride she gets all freak out and ask us where are we going, if we bring our masks, do not go to crowded places, and that mom should stay inside the car, like we are little kids.

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

Is your mom able to speak for herself?

Most people don't get covid, and most people who do (even most older people) fully recover.

The fatality rate in America has dropped from the 1% they predicted (overall) to less than a tenth of a percent. Maybe as low as.02% (one in ten thousand) ane most people don't even get the diesese.

My recommendation is to talk to your mom, Consider her health (Is she overweight, does she have trouble breathing, or is she pretty healthy overall), and see how she feels about it.

It might be worth appeasing your sisters paranoia to avoid a conflict or a rift between you two, but it really should be up to your mother how she wants to go about it.

If she can't speak for herself, my recommendation would be to use caution but not so much that it harms your own quality of life. No good mom would put her own health over her kids, especially when the risk is measured in fractions of fractions of a percent.

Most people don't get the virus, and most people who do don't get sick.

Personally, I'd take my chances with th virus over the vaccine any day. Even if I was 90. And if I was 90 the last thing I would want to do would be stay home and make my family suffer with me.

Nobody lives forever. Car accidents are still more dangerous than covid, and neither comes close to smoking cigarettes or consuming alcohol.

Dont stop living to try to avoid a tiny chance of desth. That doesn't make any sense.

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

In short, yes she is over reacting unless your mom is already very unhealthy.

But it really should be up to your mom. And it might be worth wearing the stupid mask just to make your sister feel better.

It's a really personal question that nobody can really answer for someone else.