He doesn't understand the concept of experiencing. He doesn't understand that for me to understand where he's coming from, I need to experience it and learn. I understand that when a parent sees their child going down the wrong route, they get worried and try to prevent that from happening by giving the child a warning, because they know how it's going to end.
I don't have a problem with him telling me to do things a certain way, because that’s his job as a parent, which is to guide me. I just hate that he wants me to do what he says first, then ask questions. I ask questions so I can understand the reason I'm doing something. Forcing me to submit to his every word will just cause strife.
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It's kind of weird that when you ask your kids to do something you kind of want to stand back and be quiet and just let them do it their way don't put any restrictions on them this way you get to learn who your kid really is you want to find out if they're just going to do whatever to get by are you going to find out if they are doing it in detail because they want to write their name on it because they're proud of it and if it's something that your child has never done before then that parent should give them a helping hand and that is a good time for the parent to have me time quiet time alone time with your child to find out what's going on in their life because when you do that and you make them comfortable they come to you for anything and everything no matter what it is if there's a problem or if it's just a good thing if I was to do what your father is doing to you I would have to take a couple steps back at it and ask myself why do I feel the need to dominate her to control her that restricts her from growing that restricts her from becoming better are wanting to do better at whatever it is she's doing it also makes it so she doesn't ever want to go to him when she does have a problem. I love this question because when growing up I went through kind of the same thing and it always stuck in the back of my mind if I ever have kids I will never ever treat them this way I will teach them I will not hold them back I will make them become a better person than me in every aspect in every manner and I got that wish the one wish the only wish that I've ever gotten I got it and I'm so happy for it because I did not treat my kids the way my parents treated me I wouldn't complete opposite way I was quiet I was gentle no yelling or arguing there is no need for ever they understood that and they respected that and to this day they either come over they call me if they have a problem or if they just wanted to chat say I love you so to answer your question is the parents job to allow other kids to grow the speed that they're growing without trying to show who is in control who is more dominant who is more powerful and who has the last word because all that does is teaches kids it when they want something they have to be aggressive and they have to do it in the wrong ways to get it