Punishments are one way that kids learn. Kids remember when they are punished so as long as the punishment is clearly associated with the problem behaviour it's a very effective way of changing behaviour. Use it sparingly but consistently.
I hope I don't need to add that punishments should never be cruel or unusual, and should always be proportionate.
I don't think beating a child is good. Punishment should be there to keep the child in discipline but if the child is punished not knowing what wrong he/she have done then it is of no use. It is better to speak out than to beat for punishment.
yes. I do believe that positive reinforcement works best. Give the Child NOTHING. They earn toys, play time, and treats for completing assigned task or acting in an appropriate manner.
They will learn it pays to win, and act accordingly.
its very important to punish children. notice that spoiled rich kids with no punishment have the highest suicide rate and the greatest need for activism because they have o sense of purpose.
Punishments are fine as long as they're not physical and there are boundaries like how far you go. I have no idea. Anyone who has kids are brave because it's a big responsibility.
@SlightlyEccentric The kids out there now are an absolute nightmare. I don't think I was that bad as a kid but the worst I got was ear pinching and a few back slaps and those would scare the hell out of me and teach me the lesson so I can see why it might be a necessity.
not true... I'm not entitled at all and very humble... But I still never follow rules jus because I disagree with a lot of them and also because. A rebel who likes freedom.. it's not to do with entitlement... If. you jus explain why they shouldn't do something they probably won't... Shouting at them will jus make them continue their behave and be even worse
if you’re gonna “punish” your kids by beatings, don’t have kids. YOU chose to bring them into this world. they owe you nothing and you owe them everything.
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You've got to punish kids. If you don't provide any sort of discipline they'll end up brats who can't function properly in the real world
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Yeah, because kids turn out really well when they get their way all the time and everyone else makes special arrangements for them so their feelings aren’t hurt. It prepares them for the real world where every person you meet walks on eggshells around you so that your feelings are never hurt.
there would be consequences but not hitting or anything not even spanking. i would talk to the child. not like my dad he used to hit me everytime i made a mistake and still does that but my mom talks to me when i do mistakes and i find it better so.
@Wraith_Cemetery it should be obvious that that's a hyperboly. But we do seriously oppose and sometimes punish people who physically attack others and cause them pain, even if no injury results from it. Among adults, such attacks are considered unacceptable. And yet, nobody does anyting if a vulnerable trapped little human gets regularly beat up in ways we would consider absolutely evil if a husband did that to his wife because she dared disagree. We should actually go after people who commit such violence against children, though fines and jail time are the preferrable method these days, chopping off limbs is admittedly a bit outdated...
No. It manufactures low self esteem nazis. That’s why you see these nutball freaks with no friends on this site who support it. See Alice Miller Daniel Mackler and RD Liang
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Punishments are one way that kids learn. Kids remember when they are punished so as long as the punishment is clearly associated with the problem behaviour it's a very effective way of changing behaviour. Use it sparingly but consistently.
I hope I don't need to add that punishments should never be cruel or unusual, and should always be proportionate.
I don't think beating a child is good. Punishment should be there to keep the child in discipline but if the child is punished not knowing what wrong he/she have done then it is of no use. It is better to speak out than to beat for punishment.
yes.
I do believe that positive reinforcement works best. Give the Child NOTHING. They earn toys, play time, and treats for completing assigned task or acting in an appropriate manner.
They will learn it pays to win, and act accordingly.
No. Punishing is not the right approach. Gentle discipline and natural consequences is much more humane and effective.
I wish more parents used this method.
I don’t like the word “punishment” “consequence” and “discipline” are more accurate.
its very important to punish children. notice that spoiled rich kids with no punishment have the highest suicide rate and the greatest need for activism because they have o sense of purpose.
Punishments are fine as long as they're not physical and there are boundaries like how far you go. I have no idea. Anyone who has kids are brave because it's a big responsibility.
>as long as they're not physical
Yeah hate to break it to you, but some kids need a good ass whooping.
@SlightlyEccentric The kids out there now are an absolute nightmare. I don't think I was that bad as a kid but the worst I got was ear pinching and a few back slaps and those would scare the hell out of me and teach me the lesson so I can see why it might be a necessity.
No child needs an ass-whooping. Ever. If they do, they have been improperly parented.
Yes because if not they grow up thinking they’re entitled to whatever they want & everyone has to do what they say.
not true... I'm not entitled at all and very humble... But I still never follow rules jus because I disagree with a lot of them and also because. A rebel who likes freedom.. it's not to do with entitlement... If. you jus explain why they shouldn't do something they probably won't... Shouting at them will jus make them continue their behave and be even worse
You just proved my point… you still grew up with that rebel mentality.. you literally explained the point I was making in detail. Lol
if you’re gonna “punish” your kids by beatings, don’t have kids. YOU chose to bring them into this world. they owe you nothing and you owe them everything.
You've got to punish kids. If you don't provide any sort of discipline they'll end up brats who can't function properly in the real world
Yeah, because kids turn out really well when they get their way all the time and everyone else makes special arrangements for them so their feelings aren’t hurt. It prepares them for the real world where every person you meet walks on eggshells around you so that your feelings are never hurt.
there would be consequences but not hitting or anything not even spanking. i would talk to the child. not like my dad he used to hit me everytime i made a mistake and still does that but my mom talks to me when i do mistakes and i find it better so.
Uh yes.. it is the right approach. Now HOW we punish them the most effective way is the question.
Never punish a child if you do I’ll find you and punish you in a way that you will get to chose remove your eyes or you chop your limbs
Nice worthless threats. You're not gonna do shite.
@Wraith_Cemetery it should be obvious that that's a hyperboly. But we do seriously oppose and sometimes punish people who physically attack others and cause them pain, even if no injury results from it. Among adults, such attacks are considered unacceptable. And yet, nobody does anyting if a vulnerable trapped little human gets regularly beat up in ways we would consider absolutely evil if a husband did that to his wife because she dared disagree. We should actually go after people who commit such violence against children, though fines and jail time are the preferrable method these days, chopping off limbs is admittedly a bit outdated...
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it's a tool, but minize it. before it goes communication, discipline, guidance, reinforcement, encouragement, ...
No. It manufactures low self esteem nazis. That’s why you see these nutball freaks with no friends on this site who support it.
See Alice Miller Daniel Mackler and RD Liang
As long as it doesn't cross the line into abuse, punishment is necessary to teach a child that there's consequences to their action.
Rewards- or no punishment for PROPER behavior- would be preferable.
But every once in awhile, you DO have to get their attention.
Sometimes is necessary the physical punishment, specially if your son is becoming a drug addict or a lesbian.
I think beating up children is bad. Other forms of disciplining a child are essential so they become better persons.
It’s about what you do and how you do it. Helping them understand what they did wrong, why it was wrong, and how to stop.