How do I stop being rude to people?

[Anonymous]

I am a honest person, I tell the truth. Or well at least to the people that I a close with. (Like my siblings for example)
I get mad very easily. If someone is rude to me, I am rude back.
For example, the other day me and My little sister were playing a building game online with a bunch of strangers. It was a "build to survive" type of game. I built a big house, then a bunch of boys came and destroyed it by putting their random blocks on my house. They also built stairs so that the enemy could come and kill me.
I told them to stop, they didn't listen and laughed at me (we have voice chat) so I moved and built a new house. They followed me and destroyed it to, laughing. I got so mad that I yelled at them to kill themselves, that no one loves them, and so on.
I regret doing that so much because they actually seemed hurt by it. And what do I know, maybe they were suicidal? Maybe something was going on in their life? After all it was just a game, I shouldn't have said that.
I keep on doing this mistake over and over again whenever someone makes me mad, wether it's in real life or online.
I don't tell my siblings to kill themselves, but I call them stupid, whores and so on when they piss me off. They get hurt by it a lot and start crying.
Today I called my 11 year old sister a bunch of names because she had an attitude to me. She said that I am always so rude.
I am aware of that, and I want to stop. I don't want to be a rude person but I can't control it.
And if you're wondering my age, I am 14 (born in 2007) so I turn 15 this year.
Any advice are highly appreciated!

[DavidRaul]

Well telling the truth to their face is always appreciable but you don't have to be mean and swear everytime. Just be polite and be honest to them. The tone really makes a difference. Control your tone. It all depends on how you say a particular thing, it would make a big deal if your tone isn't right.

[Asker]

Thank you! Could you give me an example?

[DavidRaul]

For example when you were playing that game. You didn't need to react like that. You should have just quit the game and move on. Or you would have said politely to " stay away and leave you alone". Also in my opinion your hormones are acting up. So this behaviour will pass by once you age

[Asker]

The thing is that I said that multiple times but the boys didn't listen to me, they laughed at me. But yeah you're right.

[DavidRaul]

Yeah just ignore them. These things shouldn't effect you. You are going through puberty. It would be hard to act on it. Just try to clear your head and have patience. You will eventually feel good once you reach like 17 or 18

[Asker]

Ok thank you!

[DavidRaul]

Your welcome

[whereismyjohnny]

Being honest is a good thing. Personally, I like people who are honest and would like them to be honest with me no matter what.

About you lashing out on people and calling them names. You need to get a grip. Just learn how to control your anger. Words stick with people, even if they were told as a joke or out of anger. Some people just brush them off, but some take them seriously and it hurts them.

[Asker]

But I don't know how to control it, it just happens.

[whereismyjohnny]

Yeah, but you need to understand that ''it just happens'' isn't an excuse for your behaviour. I think the good thing is that you are aware of your behaviour and want to change. Maybe google about some methods to control your anger or try anger management.

The only thing I can say to you (it will sound pathetic but oh well 😅) is to treat people how you would want to be treated. Think about how would you feel if someone would yell all these things at you, I think you wouldn't like someone to be that way with you.