Do you have nosy married siblings?

[Anonymous]

and if you do how you do deal with them? I have a married nosey sibling that has to butt in in things she is not ask to get involved. My married sister lovees to act as an inspector each time she visit us and my mom at home. She even comes to my roomand see if it is organized or not if it is messy or not and if it is messy she questiones me and say why you have your room that messy. When she goes and check my mom bedroom she is the same, to check if the maid clean it good or not days before.

When i go to her house I dont say a word about her room, kitchen etc etc beauase her house is modern and nice.

She says if she likes to check is beause she cares and wants our house to be nice and clean. I mean not tha we have it all messed up but she can't stay quiet and she has always to say something about what she sees in my house I live with my brother and mom. She lives in her house I live in mine.

She also treats me like I neglect mom beauase since she does not live in my house she can't really see if I take care good of her or not. So she treats me like a kid, giving me guidelines on things like she is my teacher and Im a student. geez im a full adult.

[Anonymous]

The only thing you can do, if talking to her honestly about it is futile, is to just ignore her. She's stepping over a line that she shouldn't be.

[Asker]

I meant we apprecitae her concern but she is not living in the house to be bothreed. Each time she comes to visit mom besides greets her of course a few minutes later she starts going around the house to see if she see something bad organized, or something that needs maintenance and start telling us thingsa bout it. She goes to my mom bedroom to see if the floor is cleaned the bathroom is cleand like checking if the house maid had done her job almost to perfection or if she missed a spot when she cleaned the bedroom and bathroom. Yesterday she went to my room (something she never does because I never let her going to my room for the same exact reason) and start sweeping my floor and organized my messy bed and dust my furniture beause it was all with dust and the floor unswept. and then after doing taht. I thanked her for doing that and then she told m e:: How can you keep your bedroom that messy and undusted!!" . I told her that I do sweep my floor and dust the futrniture but I dont do it every day or often but I do do it, just that I do it in my time.
Also why does it bother her anyway if I keep my room messy it is my problem not even hers and she does not even live in my house butu also in my house we are not receiving guests or relatives noone visit us afterpandemic 2 years ago, no relatives or family visiit us in order to keep the house and rooms to the 100% cleaningless and perfection. I mean that does not mean our house is a total mess sure not but we dont do the cleaning so darn 100% throughly and to the perfection like my sister expects.